Allow children to have emotions and handle children’s psychological counseling methods smoothly

The rhythm of vacation is always a little unsteady. It must be said that in the continuous flow and changes day after day, growth and shaping are also happening quietly and silently. From the sandbox dynamics of the child during follow-up visits, you can feel all of his recent status. It is not a myth, it really feels like he has a third eye. Especially for visits where the parents have complete trust and the children are sincerely committed, his energy status will be revealed to you without any reservation. The child is bound, restricted, suppressed, and endured. There are many fences, layers of confinement and defense. After all, the horned cow couldn\’t stand the anger, and rushed out with its long horns against the fence, followed by all the animals that were imprisoned by the zoo\’s fence. They broke through the fence and started to attack, snatching food, and the radio on the other side broadcast again: Please line up the students and eat in an orderly manner. The children imitated the announcements on the radio and stepped on the fence with various animals. Internal conflicts are always present. There is no need for the child to say anything. His current discomfort with everything unfamiliar in the new school has been clearly expressed. Confrontational, angry, aggressive, fearful, frightened… The complete care given by his family in the past created a huge contrast when he entered a new environment. It\’s hard to accept, intolerable, and helpless. After class, I communicated with my mother and learned that the child has now begun to express that he does not want to go to school and that school is not fun at all. I have to sit for so long in a class, and the teacher will hit me with a ruler for not doing my homework. A child who has not been taught a sense of rules in kindergarten, has not trained the child\’s ability to listen to instructions, and has done everything for him, arranged, and done for him, will not be able to form or abide by strict rules and regulations immediately. Especially children who have been treated in a strict manner since childhood and are doted on by their elder parents have no sense of behavioral boundaries. Because no one has taught them, the children know nothing. They let others do many things for them, which gradually forms a habit. Not only is this kind of child\’s body not well trained, but his thinking, ideas, and cognitive state will appear one-sided and single. Therefore, when facing problems and challenges, they will still be in a single-cell thinking and paranoid personality trait. It\’s not that they don\’t have a rich state of mind, but that they have formed a fixed trend in a long-term single growth model, which will gradually transform into a personality. This set contains six volumes of emotional healing to relieve anxiety and get rid of inner anxiety. Therefore, a person\’s external appearance is closely related to the environment and process of the person\’s growth. Once the personality is formed, it will be difficult to change and adjust it. A very difficult thing to do. Just like the child we received for a follow-up visit today, because his parents only had him when they were older, they doted on him more. When the children grow up and have their own thoughts, cognitions and things they want to do, but at this time it seems that they are not able to do whatever they want. Once the external environment and encounters conflict with his inner feelings, he will feel extremely uncomfortable. Various challenges will arise during the adaptation process, and most of the time some adverse reactions will occur. Like this kid broke through the fenceI want the feeling of being free and not being trapped. It\’s like he keeps expressing: rush out, run out, they don\’t want to be kept here… words and feelings conveyed. Faced with the fact that many children are not adaptable, parents should not block things first, do not reason with their children, and do not encourage them to do what they can. These are all too cerebral and not down to earth. Allow your child to express his emotions without explaining the meaning to him, and by releasing his emotions, he has gained half of his power. Interact with the child sincerely instead of hoping that he will understand after the parents finish speaking. Bring the kids to do something for the family! It doesn’t mean that housework can solve children’s problems. But they will think carefully when doing it. Without the teacher to supervise them, they will have unlimited potential. If parents study hard, their children will make progress every day!