An 8-year-old girl falls in love with a 20-year-old male tutor! From becoming famous to being banned, I have never been able to laugh.

Once upon a time, there was an 8-year-old girl who fell in love with a 20-year-old male tutor. 10 years later, the two showed off their wedding dresses in a high-profile manner and promoted true love as a fruit of cultivation, which won applause from netizens. Then, they were banned. This is the story of \”Zhang Muyi and Zhang Qianxun\” that has frequently appeared in everyone\’s sight recently. In just a few days, such a big ups and downs made me, an \”old aunt\”, feel really uncomfortable. When they became popular, many netizens were moved to tears. They said \”This is the most beautiful form of love\” and I couldn\’t help but doubt my own values: Isn\’t it against morality and morality for a 20-year-old adult to fall in love with an 8-year-old girl? Legal? After they were banned, while I was thankful to be on the same side as sane people, I still had lingering fears. This farce has shown us too much blindness and distortion. As parents, while feeling sorry for the little girl, we can\’t help but feel \”sweat\” for our own children. My child, my mother supports you to love, but please grow up first! Wouldn\’t your conscience hurt if you force true love on an 8-year-old child? According to Zhang Muyi and Zhang Qianxun\’s self-reports, they met in 2008. At that time, the man was 20 years old and the girl was only 8 years old. He said, \”I will always be with you.\” Together, we will protect you and wait for you.\” She said, \”I fell in love with him at first sight.\” Their story immediately made countless netizens with girlish hearts fall deeply into the complex of \”I am alive but you are not alive\”. △Zhang Qianxun’s autobiography: When Zhang Qianxun was 12 years old, the two debuted as a group and began to frequently show off their affection. This year, Zhang Qianxun is 18 years old, and Zhang Muyi posted a half-part wedding photo with the caption, \”You let me see the most beautiful picture in the world.\” The suspected announcement of their marriage made netizens who have been fascinated by their love fairy tale from the beginning Crazy again. I really can\’t understand the brain circuits of these people. Zhang Muyi has attracted countless fans in the name of love, and fans are crazy about love, but everyone has forgotten that the love between men and women is not an emotion that immature children, both physically and mentally, can grasp and bear. Deliberately promoting \”an 8-year-old girl falls in love with a 20-year-old man\” in order to attract more attention and indirectly make profits. Not to mention that it goes against the original intention of love. Just based on the point of \”forcing so-called true love on a child\”, you Doesn\’t your conscience hurt? △Zhang Qianxun in the show looked overwhelmed. Among these jaw-dropping comments, for parents, the most frightening thing after watching it is undoubtedly this one ↓Comparing oneself with another, an adult of the opposite sex has evil intentions Close to your childish child, is this the so-called \”true love\”, is this \”the most beautiful form of love\”? I am a parent, I have no rights, but I have responsibilities. Our country’s General Principles of Civil Law stipulates that citizens over the age of 18 are adults, have full capacity for civil conduct, and can independently carry out civil activities. They are persons with full capacity for civil conduct. my country\’s Marriage Law stipulates that the age of marriage for women must not be earlier than twenty years old, and for men, the age of marriage must not be earlier than twenty-two years old. I do not agree with parents treating their children as their \”property\” and interfering in their children\’s lives, including marriage and love. But as parents, although we have no rights, we have responsibilities! Family education is the starting point of all education, and home is also a shelter from wind and rain. It is our responsibility to teach our children to discern whetherLet the children understand the principle of \”not hurting others\” and have the ability of \”not letting others hurt themselves\”. And until children have a sense of right and wrong, understand the truth, and master abilities, we must stay by their side unswervingly, rain or shine. I have no way of knowing whether the driving force behind the farce between Zhang Muyi and Zhang Qianxun is really just a deformed love affair, or whether there is a conspiracy for greater interests, but from the outside, it has inevitably reflected the two families. misplacement and negligence of parents on both sides. You can love your children, but please grow up first. No parent would want such a farce to happen to their children. Although the road of love is rarely smooth sailing, and stumblings are inevitable, but since you want to talk about love, please grow up first, truly grow up – mature physically and mentally, have a clear mind, and be responsible for your own actions to the end. If we want our children to truly grow up, it is not just about increasing their age. As parents, we should and must be prepared in the following two aspects. Preparation: A strong self-esteem Method: Plenty of love from family members There is such a partner in Pumpkin’s mother’s best friend circle. Although she is not outstanding in appearance, she is extremely strong and determined in her heart and has never been easily deceived by a scumbag. At a party, we asked her for her \”secret,\” and she said calmly: \”My family has given me enough love. When I fall in love with someone, I am attracted by the other person\’s excellent qualities, not because I want him to love me.\” Good.\” That\’s the truth – people who have never eaten sugar will always be deceived by a little bit of sweetness. Only when families use enough love to nourish their children\’s self-esteem and make it strong, will they face up to the love between men and women and regard it as a fit between mature opposite sexes, rather than using it to fill the vacancy of father\’s or mother\’s love. Presenting a distorted emotional state. Some time ago, a video \”Foreign father teaches his daughter how to find a husband\” was forwarded and circulated by many parents. In the video, the father told his daughter that you are a princess and will become a queen in the future, and the man who makes you a queen is also yours. Husband, he must respect you and give you love, and as your family, your parents love you even more. The simple and easy-to-understand guidance method has received numerous praises. The material conditions of each family are different, but sufficient \”love\” is indeed the most basic growth guarantee that we can provide our children. Preparation: A correct moral system Method: Unlimited communication and demonstration We hope that our children can use a strong heart and a clear mind to protect themselves from harm. Naturally, they should also be required to respect the opposite sex and not intentionally harm in intimate relationships. other side. In our usual understanding, parents who have boys at home should strengthen this education. Recently, Ying Cai\’er, a hot mom who has a cute and sweet boy Jasper at home, almost got \”sprayed\” because of this. In a talk show, the host asked \”When will children fall in love?\” Ying Cai\’er, who has always been bold and straightforward, replied: \”What should I be afraid of when I give birth to a son? Whatever!\” which immediately aroused opposition from netizens. I believe that Cai\’er\’s original intention is not as \”extended\” by netizens – boys can do whatever they want, and boys do not need to be disciplined and protected. But everyone can be easily poked by this, which exactly reflects myWe are extremely sensitive to this issue. Indeed, girls should not consume each other\’s emotions and material unscrupulously, and boys should not disrespect or even hurt women. These moral principles should be instilled in children by parents. In addition to unlimited and timely communication, we must also lead by example. .