Another vicious incident: Don’t give your children “candy” at the age when they should get acupuncture

Recently, a video on Weibo made me furious! A 5-year-old boy was \”suspended\” on a bus, and the driver tried to stop him. His mother probably doted on her son, but when she saw her son being scolded, she immediately responded to the driver for being nosy: \”My son is going to hang like this!\” As a mother, Not only did you not discipline your son when your child did something wrong, but you allowed him to act lawlessly? It was hard to guarantee whether her son would grow up to be a domineering person. This also reminded me of a news story about a family of three visiting a shopping mall. The mother was trying on clothes, but the girl left to buy something to eat because she was impatient. But because she was rejected, the girl immediately lost her temper and kicked her mother hard…but the mother allowed her child to run wild without any intention of restraining her. But luckily, unlike the previous incident, her father still exists in this family to discipline her. Her father couldn\’t see it and gave the child a kick in kind. The girl was taught a lesson and immediately stopped her bad behavior. Otherwise, if both parents do not discipline their children, there is no guarantee that they will become unruly and willful people in the future. These two things made me clearly understand how important \”good discipline\” is. Just like a sentence in \”The Courage to Discipline\”: The happiest thing about raising a child is to \”prick him with needles\” when he is young and give him wings when he grows up! The biggest fear is that if you were not disciplined when you were a child, your wings will become stiff when you grow up, and you will be unable to control yourself even if you want to. Discipline has a time limit. If you don’t discipline your child well when you are young, you will not be able to discipline your child anymore when he or she grows up. The period before puberty is the key to education. If you didn\’t take care of it before or didn\’t take care of it well, you will develop bad habits that cannot be cured. This is also the reason why children in adolescence are particularly difficult to teach. This is because all the problems they were spoiled in childhood have emerged. In addition, adolescent children have a particularly strong sense of independence, and it is extremely difficult to discipline them at this time. Just like a child learning to dance, the basic skills are most solid since elementary school. The muscles and bones are soft and malleable and need to be plasticized in time. You cannot wait until the branches are thick and hard before correcting them. It will not only take time and effort, but may also cause injuries. You must be ruthless in disciplining your children. Just like my friend\’s daughter, she always likes to eat snacks before going to bed and won\’t sleep because of the noise. So, her friend cruelly ignored her and allowed her not to sleep. She also confiscated snacks and was not allowed to eat them for a week. My daughter was extremely sleepy and went to bed. Because she was noisy until very late, she fell asleep in class the next day and was punished by the teacher. But what is surprising is that after several such noises, my daughter learned to consciously go to bed early in order to have snacks to eat and to be in a better mental state the next day. Let the children know that this is the behavior of knowing the rules, slowly develop habits, and understand what is right and what is wrong. How easy is it to destroy a child? ignore him! Educator Makarenko said: \”Education without punishment is incomplete education.\” It is always the children who pay for \”no punishment\”. Today, you are reluctant to discipline your children, but one day, someone will educate your children for you. I remember that on a bus in Sichuan, a 7-year-old boy stood in the middle of the carriage and kicked the man on the opposite seat three times. The man suddenly stood up, grabbed the boy, threw him to the ground, and stomped on the boy\’s head.3 feet. Parents cannot bear to discipline their children, but just watch them suffer. Bi Shumin wrote in \”Child, Why Did I Beat You\”: The first time I hit you… I want you to accept the laws recognized by human society… In order to make you remember and abide by them throughout your life… Child, I hope you are hypocritical and cowardly The dirtiest qualities, such as cruelty and treachery, will make you feel pain when you first come into contact with them, and you will be separated from them forever. Disciplining your children ruthlessly is the responsible behavior towards them. I once saw an incident shared by a netizen on Zhihu, which was very shocking: a family was eating in a restaurant, and a 5-year-old boy was running around noisily in the restaurant. The two men at the next table couldn\’t stand it, so they bought a plate of peanuts and gave them to the family, hoping that they would take care of their children. Unexpectedly, the boy\’s father disapproved and even knocked over the peanuts; the little boy actually spit on the boiled fish on the table. The two men suddenly became furious. One of the men took out a fruit knife and stabbed the child\’s father in the chest. The other man grabbed the child, pushed it into a fish boiling basin, and choked him to death. As the saying goes: There is no circle without rules, and there is no bottom line without discipline. If you don’t have a bottom line, you don’t know awe, and if you don’t have awe, you don’t know the depth. We discipline our children well in order to give them the best protection and allow them to fly farther like eagles. A netizen on Zhihu said, “I hate my mother, I hate my father, I hate them for not being more ruthless and strict in educating me, so in the end I only got a second grade in the exam.” He also said frankly that if his parents had not given up on his academic performance and strict discipline, he would not have the spacious and bright working environment and comfortable life today. If they had not estimated that he would be living a lonely life now. In real life, how many children blame their parents for why they didn\’t strictly control themselves in the first place so that they could have a brighter future? I remember there is a story in Aesop\’s fables: a child stole a classmate\’s pencil for the first time. His mother not only did not blame him, but also praised him for his quick thinking. The second time he stole a cotton-padded coat, his mother helped him change it so that no one would recognize him when he wore it. When he grew up, the child stabbed a man to death while stealing and was sentenced to death. When his mother was about to be executed, she came to see her off. The son said he had last words that he wanted to whisper to his mother, but he bit off his mother\’s ear and cried out in pain: \”Mom, I\’m sorry for you. But I hate you. If I had stolen it, When the pencil was given to you, if you had beaten me and asked me to return it to others, I would not have gone to this point and would have been executed at a young age.\” In real life, how many children are affected by their parents? Lack of discipline and getting into trouble? Most parents love in the wrong way and are used to pampering everything, but forget that only discipline can make children successful. Tiger mother Amy Chua is famous for her strict discipline of her children. Many people are waiting to see her education fail and her family break up. As everyone knows, under her discipline, both daughters were admitted to Harvard University and became even better. Moreover, the eldest daughter Sophia once wrote to her mother to thank her for her strict teaching: \”It is your strictness that forces me to be more independent and make me more independent.\”I live a complete life with 110% effort! For this I have to say: Tiger Mom, thank you! \”Singer JJ Lin actually didn\’t like to play the piano when he was a child. He only liked playing electronic games. So he often made excuses to avoid practicing the piano. Once, when he didn\’t want to practice the piano, his mother got angry. She was so angry that she grabbed the handle of the lantern and beat her. His whole little hand was bruised and painful. But even though his mother was very strict, JJ Lin was still very grateful to his mother when he grew up: \”Her strict control taught me that I have to work hard and persist in doing something well.\” After all, you can’t be lazy. \”To combat the playful and naughty nature of children, sometimes parents need to be ruthless and harsh. Because children are young and have little life experience, they may be short-sighted and do things that they regret. Your strict control is to set up a good attitude for your children. Correct concepts and distinguishing between right and wrong are the responsibilities of parents. How to properly discipline children. Many parents are confused about disciplining their children and do not understand the scale of discipline. But in fact, discipline is not difficult, the key is to master the method. 1. Discipline, discipline, emphasis on \”teaching\” and light on \”discipline\”. The so-called discipline is to control the child\’s behavior and teach the principles of life. Child psychologist Li Meijin once said: \”What parents say before the age of 6 is golden , what you say after the age of 12 is rubbish. \”If you want to discipline your children well, you must continue to instill correct ideas into them before they are 12 years old while they can still listen to their parents\’ words. If \”talking\” to discipline them before they are 12 years old does not work, then we can implement punishment. The punishment mentioned here is not to let parents beat them hard, but to let the children know that they will be punished if they do something wrong, so as to form rules. For example, my daughter’s grandfather is a very rule-abiding person. What does his daughter do when she eats? For unruly behavior, grandpa would hit her palms with a ruler. I never stopped this practice, because this kind of punishment is not harsh, but it can make my daughter afraid of obeying the rules. 2. Be strict when she is young, and be lenient when she is older. You can control her when she is older. It must be strict, but after the age of 12, children have strong self-esteem and must be disciplined to take care of their children\’s self-esteem, so that the parent-child relationship can be harmonious. Lang Lang, the genius piano prince, was strictly controlled by his parents in practicing piano since he was a child. But in junior high school, he began to become mentally rebellious. He was unwilling to practice piano and even threatened to give up learning piano. He originally thought that his father would trap him in his room to practice piano again. When he was about to escape, his father said to him: \”I have told you the truth, and you know it.\” Now that you have grown up, it is up to you to decide whether to continue practicing piano. \”After some thought, Lang Lang decided to continue practicing piano. It is precisely because of his father\’s respect that he thinks more rationally, and he has the self-discipline and achievements he has today. Love is never indulgence, and proper discipline can raise children who understand the rules and have a future. . Parents can put down the stick in their hands, but they must never give up \”discipline.\” Moderately strict control, and being willing to \”prick needles\” when they are young, will only allow their children to \”eat sweets\” when they grow up, right?