A friend of mine came back from France for vacation. She originally said that the box was empty and she could carry biscuits back to my two girls. We waited with hope for the stars and the moon for her to arrive in Shanghai. She said to me with great guilt: \”I\’m really sorry. This time I helped a friend bring back a box of children\’s products. The luggage is overweight.\” Her friend, Have two children. The eldest child has been attentive, attentive, and good at studying since he was a child. From the best private kindergarten to the best private elementary school in their city, he has always been the best. Every semester\’s transcript is filled with \”A\”s and no \”B\”s. But the second child is naughty. I have been disobedient since I was a child. Last summer, the second child failed to get into the best private kindergarten. The mother suffered a very big blow. This school is the best in the area and the competition is fierce. If you can\’t get into kindergarten, it\’s very difficult to get into elementary school or middle school in the same school. If you can\’t get into this best school, what will your child do with your life? After much thought, this mother spent money to find someone to support her relationship, and sent her second child back to China, where he was placed in the best private bilingual kindergarten in the city. Her hometown is a second-tier provincial capital city. Although it is not Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, with a population of eight million, she feels very privileged to be able to attend the best private kindergarten in the city. In foreign kindergartens, children play with plasticine, but in China they do multiplication. So if you study in China for three years and then take the exam again in France, there should still be hope. The second child was sent back from last summer. No matter how naughty the child is, he is still the pet peeve of his mother. Being a mother makes me cry when I talk about it in front of my friends. As soon as I heard that this friend was going back to China, I immediately bought a box of things, including food, clothing, toys and various books, all for my son. I also specially asked my friend, her son’s birthday is this month. I must take him to have a meal at McDonald\’s, because my grandma is determined not to feed her children such junk \”foreign fast food\”. When I heard this, I felt regretful and angry. My dear child, wouldn’t this be ruined? In this world, what schools, teachers, and education methods are more important than keeping children by your side? I know a woman, just an acquaintance, but her values are too different for her to be my friend. She gave birth to a child and had no time to take care of it. She kept the child with her parents for the first few years. Later, when the child grew up and went to elementary school, she really made money, so she took the child back and took it with her. After taking the child back, she discovered that the problem was serious. Children raised by grandparents with only junior high school education in small towns are completely incomparable to children in first-tier cities who have attended early childhood education classes since they were two years old, in terms of academic level, life experience, temperament and conversation. This makes the \”inspirational\” mother who hopes to have a successful child, especially the \”inspirational\” mother who feels overwhelmed with self-esteem and thinks that I can drink coffee more expensive than you after 18 years, feel a sense of destruction. Raising her children well has temporarily become the focus of her life. She made a study plan, starting at six in the morning, memorizing ancient poems, writing Chinese characters, and learning English. After school, she would either go to a cram school or have a teacher come for tutoring until late at night. She accompanied me throughout the entire process and made corrections at all times. There were learning tasks every day that I couldn’t complete until I completed them. That 7-year-old child, neverGoing from a quiet town to a manic city and leaving everything you are familiar with is very scary in itself. Living with the woman called \”Mom\” whom I met by chance during these seven years, there was no joy, no laughter, no warmth, only harshness, beatings, scolding and distrust. A child is like a small tree. The result of pulling out the seedlings and encouraging them to grow is to dry up. The child who was originally raised as gentle and kind by his grandparents soon withered and became taciturn and unresponsive. Later, the child suffered from depression and became as thin as a skeleton, with dull eyes and unresponsiveness. I always remember the short story \”In the Country\” written by Maupassant. The story is very simple: There are a pair of bankers who have no children and want to buy a child as their heir. They went to the countryside and took a look at the youngest boy of a farmer, but the farmer said, \”We won\’t sell the child, you go away.\” They went to ask the second farmer and took away the youngest boy from the second family. Many years passed, and one day the gray-haired banker couple brought a well-educated and gorgeously dressed young man back to visit his native parents and siblings. The boy who was a farmer in the first family lost his temper. He asked his parents: \”Why didn\’t you sell me? That was my life.\” He left his \”selfish\” and ignorant parents that night. This article is a thorn in the heart. It hurts when it moves and hurts when it doesn\’t move. We torture our conscience with family affection. In fact, this article has more practical relevance today. Today, if you ask: sell your child to me? I guarantee him wealth and glory. How many people would sell their children? What’s even more frightening is that in the face of the whole society’s licking and kneeling of the rich second generation, ask those children who are desperately thinking about counterattack: If your parents had a choice, would you still stay poor, stupid, and young? Qian Shaoai\’s original parents? There is no need to answer this question because the answer will hurt. Silence is golden. I have a French friend who is an abandoned baby from China. After being sent to an orphanage, she was adopted by her French parents. After she became an adult, she once went to the orphanage to look for clues, hoping to find her family. It had been too long, and she hadn\’t found any effective clues. This was an expected result. She just went to find it to realize her dream. But what shocked her was that during the ten days she was looking for her family, people kept saying to her: \”You are so lucky to be adopted by a French person, and you are now a Frenchman.\” Someone else asked She said: \”Are you already French? Why are you coming back to find your parents? Based on the location and clothes you were found in, your parents are probably farmers who had nothing and had an affair.\” Last year, there was a person who was accused of being cheated on the Internet. The story of an American adopted baby girl who goes back to find her parents. She forwarded the article to me, and everyone had similar theories. She said: \”I was lucky enough to be adopted by my French parents, but I was abandoned by my own parents, which made me miserable.\” As a person, there is really nothing more important in this world than blood and family ties. Because blood is the fulcrum of our positioning, and family affection is the foundation of our existence. From ancient times to the present, all wise and foolish philosophiesWhat I am meditating hard on are the two most fundamental questions: 1. Where do I come from? 2. Where do I go? In this life, we may be successful, famous, rich, and glorious, but what’s the point when we can’t find ourselves at all? Whether you are a child facing your parents, or you are a parent planning to raise your children, love must be more important than money, and love must be more meaningful than fame. In this life, I can\’t be Wang Jianlin, and I can\’t be Dong Mingzhu, but I love children, and the education I can bring to children is not inferior to other parents. Every native family has its own problems. Even Prince William will grieve his father\’s cheating, his mother\’s early death, and the sad life experience that the whole world is watching. No matter how poor you are, no matter how miserable you are, no matter how miserable you are, no matter how loser you are, love is still noble and selfless. Nothing can bring greater happiness and satisfaction to children than your own love and companionship. No matter what the reason is, we should not give up our children, because giving up our children means giving up our own way back.
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