Are you still calling your child \”baby\”? Changing the name of a child may change a person\’s destiny

A few days ago I watched a video taken by a kindergarten teacher. She asked the children what their mother called their father when they were at home. Their answers are very interesting: \”The one who makes money\”, \”The head of the family\”, \”The father of the child\”, \”Dear\”, \”Hey\”, \”Who is that\” and so on. Different titles represent different types of intimate relationships, and also convey one\’s expectations, expectations and feelings for the other half. This can also affect the behavior of the other person invisibly. For example, if a wife often calls her husband \”the boss of the house,\” the husband will naturally have a greater sense of responsibility and feel that he is the \”boss.\” Chatting with friends, I asked them what they called their children, and the answers were varied, including \”Baby\”, \”Brother Hao\”, \”Sister\”, \”Baby\”, \”Dabao\”, etc. One of the friends called his child \”Mr. Wang\” and another one called \”Teacher Zhang.\” On the surface, it is just a name. In fact, different names may have a subtle impact on the child, and even change the child\’s destiny. So what impact does the name parents give their children have on their children? First of all, what parents call their children is a role positioning. For example, calling a child \”baby\” shows that the parents love the child very much and regard the child as a \”baby\”. This is of course no problem when the child is young, but if the child is still called like this when he is already in junior high school, it will not be conducive to the child\’s proper role positioning and will make him mature on the outside but childish on the inside. Not only that, what parents call their children also plays a role in shaping their identity. A person\’s sense of identity is very important. Who he thinks he is is more important than what he does. Just like that friend, he called his son \”Mr. Wang\” because the child said he wanted to be a boss when he grew up. The father was very happy and called him \”Mr. Wang\” from then on. Dad hopes that he can act like a boss, such as letting his children occasionally pay for meals, allowing him to participate in family decision-making, and seeking his children\’s opinions. This makes the child feel as if he really is a boss and begins to have the \”look\” of a boss. Imagine that after eating in a restaurant, the child takes out his mobile phone and tells the waiter, pay the bill! This kind of scene is so interesting and honorable. This sense of honor is very important to the child and may become a motivation for him to work hard. Therefore, naming a child actually positions the child\’s role and shapes the child\’s identity. Through continuous reinforcement, children may begin to use the norms corresponding to this title to demand themselves. Suppose your child wants to be a teacher, and you usually call him \”Teacher Zhang\”. When he is not writing seriously, you can remind him: \”Teacher Zhang, your writing is a bit unclear. I guess students will not be able to understand it by then!\” He may change immediately. He feels that he is a \”teacher\”, and then demands himself according to the norms of this identity, creating consciousness and initiative. This kind of subtle identity recognition is much more effective than simple preaching by parents, because this is what the children actively want and what they want to do. What parents call their children is also closely related to the expectation effect. We all know about the Rosenthal effect, where our expectations of a person influence his behavior. The famous psychologist Rosenthal randomly selected some students in the experiment and told the principal that these students had great potential and hoped that teachers and schools would pay attention to them.View them. A few years later, these students were doing really well. The principal admired Rosenthal, but Rosenthal revealed that these students were randomly selected. This experiment illustrates that our positive expectations for a person affect their behavior and future development. Calling children \”Mr. Wang\”, \”Teacher Zhang\”, etc. gives children a role positioning and behavioral norms, and guides them to work in this direction. In this process, when children perform well, they are encouraged in a timely manner: \”As expected of Mr. Wang, I really deserve you!\” This model not only allows children to be encouraged, but also allows parents to pay more attention to their children\’s strengths, thus forming a virtuous cycle and positive interaction. . Therefore, a seemingly simple title may have a profound impact on the child over time, and may even change the fate of the child. I came across a video two days ago. A child didn\’t want to go to kindergarten. His father said to his son, Brother Hao, as the boy representative of the kindergarten, if you don\’t go, who will maintain order in the entire class? What kind of chaos would the class be without you? After hearing this, the child said to his father, \”How about I go?\” Such is the magic of salutation. What are you going to call your child? Instead of just calling your children \”Dabao\” and \”Xiaobao\”, it is better to give them a more inspiring name based on their dreams and expectations. This small change may have a profound impact on their future, allowing them to move forward more confidently, consciously, and independently on the road to growth.