Are you still yelling at the naughty kid? Come and learn these magical \”spells\”!

One day not long ago, I was doing some chores in front of the computer. Suddenly I remembered that Xiao Nuo had been silent for a while, so I walked to the living room to see what she was doing. I saw her squatting on the ground, trying hard to scrub with her two little hands. There was a large puddle of white paste on the floor, and next to it was a bottle of baby lotion that she used to apply on her face every day. The cap of the bottle was already broken. Open… Although I realized that what was on the ground and on her hands must be lotion, I still asked her in disbelief: \”What are you doing? What is that on the ground?\” Xiao Nuo spread his hands and raised his head to look at me. I lowered my head and looked at the floor again, and whispered: \”This is the fragrance for wiping your face, Mom, I\’m sorry!\” It took me all my strength to hold back my roar and said: \”You can never play like this again!\” Nuo immediately asked more and more: \”Can I continue to play this time?\” I thought that things have been wasted and I have to get some interest back, so I nodded. Xiaonuo\’s eyes immediately lit up after receiving official permission. She quickly took off her socks, stepped into the lotion with her bare feet, and started walking around the living room after her feet were soaked in lotion. I really want to say that I don\’t agree with this way of playing, but seeing her so happy, I really can\’t say this. So I watched helplessly as my child rushed into the lotion pile, rushed out and ran around, then rushed in again, and came out again… During this period, the floor was too slippery and he fell into the lotion twice. I watched her carnival with a blank expression, and my mind was so full of mixed emotions that I only had one thought left: happiness is the most important thing! Being happy is the most important thing! Assuming that body lotion is a toy in the first place, it is rare to make a child so happy! I ended up washing the floor with dish soap numerous times to make sure it wouldn\’t slip on me. For a while, both Xiao Xi and Xiao Nuo liked to drink yogurt, so they always had some in the refrigerator. One evening, Xiao Nuo stood on the stool and took out two bottles from the refrigerator, saying that he and his sister would have one bottle each. When I made dinner and walked out of the kitchen with the dishes, I saw Xiao Nuo sitting on a small stool, his face and head covered with yogurt. Her hairstyle is very strange, with all kinds of swirls and sharp corners, and her eyebrows and eyes are almost missing. The little hands were still digging into the yogurt bottle, and there was another empty yogurt bottle on the coffee table. I kept telling myself: Don’t be angry, don’t be angry! This is someone else\’s child! Someone else’s child! Then he turned around and went to the kitchen unusually calmly to clear away the dishes, put the dishes and soup on the table, and called his sister out to eat. Only then did I have the courage to approach Xiao Nuo and ask her what she was doing. \”I\’m washing my hair and face! Look, does this look like the bubbles in the shower?\” I said \”hmm\” and continued to say in my mind, \”This is someone else\’s child! Someone else\’s child!\” and added Other people\’s children were taken into the bathroom to be washed and cleaned. Xiaonuo likes to eat wafer biscuits. She was hungry that day and asked for some. I opened a box for her and put it on the coffee table, and then went about my business. When I finished my work and returned to the living room, I was immediately frightened by what I saw. My first reaction was to retreat to the study, close the door and say to myself: I didn\’t see anything! Saw nothing! I pretended to be busy for a few minutes before opening the door and leaving.go out. In a 2-meter radius around Xiao Nuo, the color of the floor, coffee table and sofa could no longer be seen. Everything was covered with a layer of chocolate wafer powder, showing a mysterious brown color. The whole box of wafer biscuits was crushed into very fine powder by Xiao Nuo. She was grabbing handfuls and throwing them into the air, cheering \”It\’s snowing! It\’s snowing!\” and then waiting for the \”snowflakes\” to fall. It was all over my head and body, got into my hair, and stuck to my sweater… I waited for her to scatter all the \”snowflakes\” and when she was satisfied, I asked her to come with me and sweep all the powder on the sofa and coffee table to the ground. Bring the sweeper over for cleaning. Then he took Xiao Nuo into the bathroom to wash up, and used a comb to carefully comb out the \”snowflakes\” stuck to his scalp. After thinking about it for a long time, I still don’t know how to explain to my children that this is wrong and that food cannot be wasted? So can we play like this without food? Are you saying you can\’t dirty your hair, clothes, or the floor? Does it count if she rolls around on the ground? Are you saying that it’s troublesome to wash your hair and take a bath? But washing her hair and taking a bath seemed so interesting to her. In the eyes of three- and four-year-old children, many things in the world can only be divided into playable and non-playable, fun and not fun. In the end, I just said dryly: \”We can\’t waste the wafer biscuits like this!\” I knew in my heart that something similar would definitely happen again. If there is no adult to accompany the child, let the child play by herself. Don\’t ask her to always behave herself. On a certain day of a certain year, I was washing clothes on the balcony. Xiao Nuo came over to me and said excitedly: \”Mom, look, I found a golden hoop!\” I turned around and saw her holding a stick about one meter long. He kept waving his stick, and looked at me eagerly and asked if it looked like a golden cudgel. After taking a closer look, I realized that this was a clothes rail removed from the closet. I repeatedly told myself: Children are creative! Like me, like me! Take a deep breath, and then tell your child that the Golden Cudgel is specially designed to fight monsters and is not allowed to be played at home, otherwise it will break the windows and walls, and even hit good people. I rinsed my hands full of foam and followed the child to the bedroom. I saw the closet door was wide open and the clothes that had been hanging rolled down to the bottom of the closet and the floor. It was terrible! I installed the \”golden hoop\” back and hung up the clothes one by one. I said to myself: It took a lot of effort for the child to take off the golden hoop. He was very energetic! The spirit is commendable! There is no nanny at home to do the housework, and the mother cannot keep an eye on the naughty child. Naturally, various crazy situations inevitably occur! For example, Xiao Nuo once stood on the dining table and pulled the pendant of the chandelier to shake the chandelier on the ceiling vigorously to prove that he had grown taller. For example, she once put a small stool on the coffee table and sat on the stool to watch TV. For example, she once poured a whole bottle of hand soap into the sink, stirred up a pool of foam, and used her hands to spread the foam as evenly as possible on the floor of the living room and bedroom. For example, she once went out wearing two different shoes, for example, she once scattered handfuls of rice in the rice bucket on the ground, for example, she once added many spoons of salt to the soup I had cooked for two hours… All of the above are all… It once made my blood boil instantly, and I immediately started or almost started roaring mode! But if you think about it carefully, you can\’t really blame her for the child\’s various behaviors. She was just trying to entertain herself.already. Therefore, we need to look at naughty children from a different angle and a different state of mind. A mountain of housework, a tired body and mind, an energetic child who is always wreaking havoc, a husband who is motionless with his mobile phone… all of these are mountains that weigh on mothers one after another, making it easy for us to lose control of our emotions. . \”I didn\’t see anything\”, \”This is someone else\’s child\”, \”Don\’t yell, don\’t yell\”… \”Spells\” such as this can temporarily remove yourself from the messy scene, calm down your emotions, and avoid being caught. mad. Although this method is self-deceptive, it sometimes works. If you develop a habit of saying \”Calm down! Calm down!\” when facing a naughty child, you can minimize the roaring and break out of the endless cycle of \”roaring – regret – roaring\”! Every mother needs to find a way to reduce stress that suits her, and she needs to invent a few magical \”spells\” so that she can happily face her naughty children and easily deal with all kinds of chaos in life.