Are your kids obsessed with cell phones? The truth behind it is thought-provoking

I took my daughter to eat Chongqing noodles. The three of us ordered two bowls of noodles and two plates of small cold dishes. While waiting for the noodles, a young couple came in. The wife held a white and tender little boy, about two years old, in her arms. As soon as he sat down, the child started staring at his mother\’s bag. The mother skillfully took out a large-screen mobile phone from her bag, opened it and found a cartoon episode for her child. She put it in front of her. The child was instantly attracted to the cartoon. After settling the children, the couple started asking for noodles, eating noodles, and chatting. The mother would put some noodles in her child\’s mouth from time to time. The child would eat and watch, probably not knowing what was in his mouth. After the three of them finished eating the noodles, the mother put her phone into her bag. The child cried twice and was picked up by his father. The three of them left the noodle shop. After they left, I turned around and asked the child\’s father, who was concentrating on eating noodles: \”Our children didn\’t look at mobile phones much before they were three years old, right?\” He answered without looking up: \”Mobile phones were too small at that time, and there were no iPads.\” Emotionally, he knew why I asked this question, and it seemed that he also noticed the child looking at the mobile phone. Many parents seem helpless when their children play with mobile phones. \”He wants to play, but he cries when he is not given. I can\’t hide all the mobile phones at home.\” \”It\’s all caused by electronic products. Without these things, our child is a very obedient child.\” I also want to control him, but the attraction of the mobile phone is too great and I can\’t control it at all.\” At first glance, anxious parents have tried their best, but in the end there is nothing they can do. But the truth behind it is thought-provoking. The first truth: How did children become obsessed with mobile phones? Several tourists from other places took their two children to the food court to eat. The two children were watching on their mobile phones while walking. A woman who looked like a mother shouted: \”You won\’t wait until you get there?\” The child ignored her. A middle-aged man yelled at the woman: \”I told you not to let them play with you, but you insisted on giving it to them.\” The woman replied: \”If you don\’t let them play with your mobile phone, they are running around and you are watching?\” The man stopped talking and said, People continue to move forward. Behind every child playing with mobile phones is a pair of parents who have no time and no patience. The second truth: The child can’t control it, or the parents don’t want to control it? I can’t remember exactly when my daughter became obsessed with iPad, but she was probably less than four years old. At that time, we had just moved, and the TV and everything else were left in our original residence. On the one hand, we were worried that the child would be bored, and on the other hand, we were worried that all our time would be occupied by the child, so we bought her an iPad. The wish is very good. We hope that our children can watch cartoons for half an hour every day, and we can do some things of our own during this time. The execution is wrong, and it often runs out of time just by looking at it, and it takes longer and longer the more you look at it later. Is it because the child can\’t control it and is too obsessed? wrong! It\’s because the parents don\’t really want to control it. For a while, my daughter kept blinking her eyes. We were worried about her eyes, so we controlled her to look at the iPad only on weekends. She resisted it for the first day or two, but then gradually got used to it. When her eyes healed, we were the first to lose control. As soon as she requested, we quickly followed the trend and let her see. Because spending time with your children every night is so tiring. You can even watch some soap operas or check WeChat to relax.There is no time. Therefore, the responsibility for children to watch mobile phones does not lie with the children, but with the adults. The third truth: Are children really obsessed with mobile phones? Behind every child who is obsessed with mobile phones is deep loneliness and boredom. Before the summer vacation, what I was most worried about was that my daughter would damage her eyes by looking at the iPad every day. In order to prevent her from looking at the iPad, I sent her back to her hometown for a period of time during the holidays. There was no Internet or iPad there. When I got her back, the previous worries came back again. But I found that my daughter doesn’t really like looking at the iPad. She only looks at it because she is bored. Sometimes she would yell after watching it for a while: \”I\’m so bored, please go out and play with me for a while.\” If someone takes her out, she will put away the iPad obediently. In addition to going out to play, she puts many things before looking at the iPad, such as drawing, playing with balls, and playing with toys. As long as she can play with them, she puts away the iPad. There was nothing to play in the past two days, and she became obsessed with playing with her two-month-old brother, even though he didn\’t understand anything. \”I\’m so bored, you don\’t want to play with me.\” Sometimes this sentence will pop up in my daughter\’s mouth. Children are not really obsessed with mobile phones, but they have nothing to do and no one to play with. What are they doing if they don’t play with mobile phones? Isn’t that true for adults too? When there is nothing to do, the less I want to do anything or play with my mobile phone, but I keep playing with my mobile phone. Thinking of this, I no longer complain about my children. It\’s not that she didn\’t do well, it\’s that I didn\’t do enough. If I don\’t want her to play with her mobile phone or iPad, I have to stick to my principles and devote time and energy to accompany her. If I don\’t have so much time and energy, I will find more things for her to do, such as enrolling in a summer camp or enrolling in a class. Children have much more energy than adults. We don’t want to spend time with our children, but we can’t find a place to consume their energy. Throwing them electronic products saves worry and trouble. In the end, we blame electronic products for being too attractive, which is bad for children. Tube. If you don’t want your children to play with mobile phones, put them away first. If you can do that, then your children’s problems will probably not be a big problem.