As a parent, how long will you go on the road of \”working without a certificate\”?

At first, I thought that all mothers were gifted and would become masters of love without any practice. After many twists and turns, I finally understood that in the exercise book of time, even if every page is painted with the shading of heart to heart, we still need to practice thousands of times before we can catch a glimpse of the truth of love. ——Before Liu Jirong gave birth to a baby, I had never read any parenting books. Like the writer Liu Jirong said, I thought that women have their own talent in being mothers. Isn’t it just to raise a baby? What’s so difficult about it? It wasn’t until I stumbled on the parenting road for a year that I realized that raising a baby really requires learning. So I started buying various books to supplement my parenting knowledge. It was also in the process of raising children that I truly grew up. Japanese writer Kotaro Isaka said: \”It\’s terrible to think that you don\’t have to pass the exam to be a parent.\” Yes, in this world, no matter what job you are engaged in, you need certain skills, and jobs with strong professional skills also need You must have a professional and technical certificate to work – that is, you must hold a work certificate. However, on the road to becoming a parent, most people \”work without a certificate.\” Before the child is two or three years old, he may be able to barely cope with it. However, as the child grows up and becomes more and more independent, we sigh: Oh my God, where did the original little angel go? The child in front of me is simply a \”little devil\” without instructions! Not eating, not brushing his teeth, not going to bed on time, swearing, lying, swearing… What\’s even more frightening is that this demon is completely unable to communicate. However, are children really unable to communicate? The famous British children\’s writer Roald Dahl once said: Children are not little adults. They are a species of their own, and adults are another species. If we don\’t understand the language of this species\’ world, we can\’t educate them well, so we have to learn. Over the years, I have devoured various parenting books, hoping to find answers to my own children’s problems. However, I found that whether it is Rousseau\’s \”Emile\”, Montessori\’s Love and Freedom, or teacher Yin Jianli\’s \”A Good Mother is Better than a Good Teacher\”, they all have their corresponding problems and limitations. I cannot Identify a family wholeheartedly and move forward firmly. I can only learn from the strengths of hundreds of families, constantly explore and adjust according to my own actual situation and the characteristics of my children, and develop a parenting concept that suits my family\’s reality. After all, no expert or teacher can know your child as well as you do. In the process of parenting, we will also find that we not only need to learn how to communicate with our children, but also how to communicate with our spouses and parents. At the same time, we must also learn to get along with ourselves and achieve self-growth. Therefore, the book list I compiled today includes parenting encyclopedia, educational concepts, practical training, parent-child reading, sex education, communication art, self-growth, etc. I hope to learn and make progress together with everyone. If you have better book recommendations, please leave a message in the message area so that more people can see it. Parenting encyclopedia \”Sears Encyclopedia of Intimate Parenting\” Dr. William Sears is the most influential parenting authority in the United States, and this \”Sears Encyclopedia of Intimate Parenting\” has been a best-seller for nearly 20 years since its publication. It is said that almost every American mother has it. oneBook. Dr. Sears advocates intimate parenting, breastfeeding, co-sleeping with children, and lots of cuddling, so that parents and young children can establish an intimate relationship early and let children grow up in a caring environment. This is a large book that covers almost every parenting issue you can think of. It can be used as a dictionary at any time. \”American Academy of Pediatrics Parenting Encyclopedia 0-5 Years Old\” is a must-have for new mothers. It is co-authored by outstanding American pediatricians and experts. The theories in the book are not only supported by research results, but also easy to understand. The whole book basically covers basic care methods for children aged 0-5, from eating, drinking, sleeping, to emotions, language, movement, cognitive development, disease, health, safety, parent-child emotions… It is also a large tool. Book. Educational Philosophy \”Emile\” \”Emile\” is an important work by the French Enlightenment thinker Rousseau in the 18th century. It is one of the most influential educational works in the history of Western education. The ideas in the book are still worth learning from. Rousseau advocated \”natural education\” for children that adapts to the natural development process and develops children\’s nature. The book divides the growth of educated people into infancy, childhood, adolescence and youth, and calls for education to adapt to the age characteristics of each period, as well as personality differences and gender differences. \”The Secret of Childhood\” is Montessori\’s classic work. The book tells parents in detail that children\’s growth has its own internal spiritual drive and laws. Children\’s growth needs to rely on their own continuous conscious and Obtained by autonomous and independent activities with the external environment (called work in the book). If adults want to promote the growth of children, the most important thing is to create a loving and safe environment for them, respect and understand the children\’s behavior, and try to impose the least restrictions and \”guidance\” on their behavior. Children naturally know what they want to do and how to do it. Through exploration after exploration, he will gradually grow up. \”Capturing Children\’s Sensitive Periods\” The term \”sensitive periods\” comes from Montessori\’s concept. In this book, teacher Sun Ruixue vividly explains the performance of children in sensitive periods at different ages through case after case. For example, why do children like to eat from their hands; why do they always grab everything and stuff it into their mouths; why do they keep throwing away things in their hands; why do they always like to play with water; why do they always hide in the closet under the table… Through these examples, the book It also provides solutions to help children pass the sensitive period smoothly. \”Love and Freedom\” is another masterpiece by teacher Sun Ruixue. After reading it, I was very shocked and moved. What is true love? How to give children freedom? I found the answer in this book: a mother who truly loves her children will encourage her children to be independent, be willing to let her children leave, and still love her children after they become independent or leave. Because she knows that a child is a living individual, and life needs respect. This is the essential difference between the love of humans and animals. Only a woman who loves herself more than her children will not be able to bear the independence of her children. As parents, you should read this book, especially when your children are 0-6 years old. The earlier the better. Children who grow up in love and freedom will be very spiritual. \”A good mother is better than a good teacher\” Teacher Yin Jianli\’s appearanceSelling books. It explains the educational philosophy through his own personal experience of educating his daughter, which is very readable. Although the reasoning and language are quite traditional and simple, the parenting concepts are not backward and are worth reading again and again. \”Summer Hill School\” Before coming to Summer Hill School, many children were tired of studying, had low self-esteem, and were rebellious. They were \”problem children\” in the eyes of parents and teachers. After coming to Summer Hill, they have undergone earth-shaking changes: they learn consciously and spontaneously, live independently, Full of confidence and knowing how to love themselves and others, each child\’s body and mind can develop fully and freely. \”Advocating respecting children\’s nature and encouraging children to develop freely with love\” is the educational philosophy advocated by Neil, the principal of Summerhill School. \”Little Doudou by the Window\” After Little Doudou was expelled from the original school for being naughty, she came to Ba Academy. Under the love and guidance of Principal Xiao Lin, Xiao Doudou, who was considered \”weird\” in the eyes of ordinary people, gradually became a child accepted by everyone, and laid the foundation for her life. It is said that Summer Hill School is the prototype of Tomoe Academy, and the author Tetsuko Kuroyanagi is the character in the book. Ba Xueyuan is my ideal school. I like the naughty but spiritual Xiao Doudou very much, as well as the enlightened and loving Principal Xiao Lin. Practical training \”PET Parent Effectiveness Training Manual\”, like other parenting books, also emphasizes that children are independent individuals and the parent-child relationship should not exceed the relationship between husband and wife. For children, what we want to give them is love, freedom and respect. The difference is that other books just cover it all, but this book gives a simple and easy-to-understand operation method. This book has a very clear structure and is highly operational. I personally feel that the methods in the book are not only applicable to parent-child relationships, but also to all social relationships such as husband-wife relationships and friend relationships. \”Positive Discipline\” Positive discipline is a method of disciplining children that neither punishes nor pampers. It emphasizes that only in a kind and firm atmosphere can children develop self-discipline, responsibility, cooperation and the ability to solve problems on their own. Currently, there are positive discipline workshops in many places. Experiential learning allows us to master the art of communicating with children more quickly. \”Game Power\” Game Power is hailed by many as a \”two-way translator\” for parent-child communication. The author tells us through dozens of cases that behind any child\’s behavior is an expression of a reasonable inner need, and also suggests hundreds of ways to deal with problems. If we want to tell a child something, the best way is to \”play it to him\” rather than \”tell it to him\”. Since we all agree that children should \”learn knowledge while playing\”, then let them \”understand principles while playing\” and \”establish rules while playing\”. Sex Education \”A Good Understanding of Virginity\” Teacher Hu Ping\’s \”A Good Understanding of Virginity\” is the most authoritative book on children\’s sex education in China. In the context of the lack of sex education in China, this book is really needed to read. It allows us to learn to face children\’s sexual growth and exploration calmly. \”We must give children sexual care and attention from the age of 0.\” This is the principle of children\’s sex education advocated by Teacher Hu Ping in this book. Parent-child reading \”Reading aloud Handbook\” How to make children really fall in love with reading, the secret is to read to your children when they are young, so as toThis will cultivate children\’s interest in reading. Every time I read this book, I become more determined and confident to carry out parent-child reading and reading promotion to the end, because giving children a lifelong habit is more precious than anything else. Whether you are a parent or a children\’s reading promoter, you can collect this book for intensive reading. \”The Seeds of Happiness\” is one of my favorite books about parent-child reading. The reason why my official account is called \”The Seeds of Happiness\” is because I was deeply shocked after reading this book. Mr. Matsui Nao used simple language to explain the meaning of parent-child reading. He said that by reading to his children, he had already finished what a father wanted to say to his children when they were young. He also said that picture books are not books for children. They are read by adults and children receive language with their ears. Picture books have no \”use\” for young children. They are not used to learn things, but to feel. happy. After reading this book, I no longer have any utilitarianism towards parent-child reading. I just want to enjoy the joy of reading with my children. \”What makes a good picture book good?\” Many times, I recommend my favorite picture books to everyone, but some people find them boring after reading them. Why? Because they didn\’t read it carefully at all and didn\’t understand it. A good picture book not only has good text and story, but the pictures and layout design are also carefully created, with various echoes, hints, and details, and the words are included in the pictures so that children can feel it. Teacher Hao Guangcai has analyzed the elements of a good picture book very well from the perspectives of points, lines, surfaces, frames, etc. There are also a large number of excellent picture book examples in the book, as well as analysis of the sense of picture and lens. After reading it, you can basically build a complete picture book. Viewing, selecting and reading picture books can also improve your education to a higher level. \”Cultivating Children Starts by Drawing\” is a classic book by the famous Japanese child education expert and painter Akimi Torii. This book uses the perspective of children\’s comprehensive psychological and physiological development to guide parents to truly understand the inner needs behind their children\’s graffiti, and how to provide necessary guidance and assistance to children aged 0-9 when drawing. The book points out that children\’s paintings are not taught, but cultivated! Once the child is over nine years old, it begins to make sense to teach drawing skills systematically. Teaching children to draw before this is counterproductive and will destroy their talents. The Art of Communication \”How to Talk So Your Children Will Listen, How to Listen So Your Children Are Willing to Talk\” If you still find it difficult to communicate with your children after reading many books on parenting concepts, then you must read this book. The book provides a large number of cases in the form of comics and provides you with the skills of \”how to speak?\” and \”how to listen?\” so that you can easily open up your child\’s spiritual world and achieve wonderful communication. Easy to learn and use, very practical. How does \”Nonviolent Communication\” say that book is specifically about the art of communicating with children, while the target audience of this book can be anyone. As a good and law-abiding person, perhaps we have never thought of anything to do with \”violence\”. However, if we pay a little attention to the way we talk in real life and carefully understand the different feelings various ways of talking give us, we will definitely find that some words are really hurtful! WordVerbal accusations, ridicule, denial, preaching, arbitrary interruptions, refusal to respond, and random comments and conclusions bring us emotional and mental trauma, which is even more painful than physical injury. Dr. Marshall Luxemburg discovered a magical and peaceful way of communication. Talking and listening according to it can make people connect with each other and live in harmony. This is \”non-violent communication\”. There are a large number of cases in the book, and it is not obscure at all. \”Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus\” I used to have conflicts with my husband, and he was so angry that he was half-dead. After reading this book, I realized that men and women are not physically or psychologically, or verbally or physically. Emotionally, they are all very different. If you want to understand your significant other better and keep your love and marriage fresh, I highly recommend reading this book! Self-Growth This book \”The Road Less Traveled: The Journey of Mental Maturity\” gave me a strong spiritual shock. Everyone who wants to achieve self-growth must read it. The author M. Scott Pike tells us at the beginning: Life is full of hardships, and the road to mental maturity is quite difficult and long, but we cannot refuse maturity. If we face problems head-on, our minds will gradually mature; if we avoid problems, our minds will always stagnate. The book is divided into four parts: self-discipline, love, growth and faith, and grace, leading us through a series of difficult and even painful transformations, and ultimately reaching a higher state of self-awareness. \”Meeting the Unknown Self\” is a book written by Taiwanese writer Zhang Defen with the genre of novel and the theme of spiritual cultivation. It mainly tells the ups and downs of the life of Ruo Ling, a female white-collar graduate from a prestigious school, and her conversations with the elderly, thereby expressing her understanding of life issues and wisdom. Because it is a novel, it is very enjoyable to read. Through the heroine\’s experience and thought changes, we also discover the unknown self in our hearts. \”Treat Time as a Friend\” is a book that subverts many of my existing perceptions. I like it very much. Teacher Li Xiaolai uses the examples he encountered in his career to tell us: how to open the mind, how to use the mind to be friends with time, how to understand the meaning of time management, make breakthroughs in time management, and then use the mind to open your own life. The journey to success in life. Teacher Li Xiaolai said: \”We cannot manage time. What we can really manage is ourselves. Only by accepting this simple fact can we have hope of solving the problem.\” I deeply agree.