As parents, let us feel at ease being \”cowards\”

Recently, a piece of news that happened in Hangzhou has attracted widespread attention: a male owner who did not hold his dog on a leash mounted a mother who was protecting her child and beat her to fractures. When the puppy chases the child and barks, and when the son shouts \”Mom, save me,\” the mother rushes forward to drive the dog away. This is a perfectly normal behavior. However, just such an act made this mother in Hangzhou pay a heavy price: she was beaten so hard that her fingers were broken and she may be permanently disabled; her child was frightened and was in a trance during the day, and was often awakened by nightmares at night. As a mother, when I saw the children on the surveillance camera, watching their mothers being beaten, crying and stamping their feet anxiously, my heart ached: at this time, the children must be so panicked and helpless inside. What should we do if we encounter such a problem? Regarding this issue, several mothers in the office started a discussion. Some said that they would never go out alone in the future and always bring their husbands with them. Some said that they should buy anti-wolf spray online and learn a few self-defense techniques to severely punish such scumbags. Colleague Xiaoye said, if it were me, I would probably just say: It’s best to hold the dog on a leash when you go out for a walk. This is good for everyone; and then take the children and leave immediately. She also laughed at herself and said that since having a child, I have lost all the anger I used to have and am a complete \”coward\”. Thinking about it carefully, Xiaoye\’s \”cowardly\” approach is really the wisest: don\’t attack or judge, just rationally tell the other party the pros and cons; don\’t entangle or anger, and stay away from the garbage man in the fastest way. Being a \”cowardly\” mother seems to be extremely inconsistent with the \”motherhood is strong\” argument. But so what, in the face of so-called self-esteem, strength, and justice, what we care more about is the safety of our children and ourselves. A few years ago, there was a \”Beijing girl thrown case\”. The murderer Han Lei had an argument with Ms. Li who was pushing a stroller while parking the car. In anger, Han Lei grabbed the child from the stroller and lifted it above his head. He fell to the ground and died after resuscitation failed. The case has been closed, and the culprit Han Lei has become a dead man, but the two-year-old child who was thrown to death will never come back. I wonder if Ms. Li will blame herself when she recalls what happened that day. If she was timid at the time and saw the menacing Han, she took her child away and left. Her daughter is now a primary school student. . Children are innocent, but children are weak. For their sake, please don\’t show off. Not long ago, a six-year-old girl experienced a weight of life that even an adult cannot bear. She watched her mother fall under the butcher knife raised by her father, and kept shouting: Don\’t kill my mother, don\’t kill my mother… The little girl\’s parents have long been divorced and live separately. It was grandma\’s birthday. The mother refused to take the child to the birthday party because the child had to take dance exams. She had a quarrel with the father, and the father killed the mother with a knife. Doesn’t this mother know what kind of ex-husband she has? If you are a little timid and less aggressive, maybe your anger can be suppressed and the tragedy will not happen. What a pity for the child, who lost her mother at such a young age, had to live in her uncle\’s house, and had to endure the torture of bloody scenes every day. How could she face her long life calmly? In Shangrao CityIn front of a coffee shop, a woman had an argument with a couple with a four- or five-year-old daughter over a scratch on their car. The woman kicked the girl standing next to her and knocked her face down. Fortunately, this dispute did not cause serious consequences. If the child was seriously injured, the price of a small scratch would be too high. At this time, as long as you have this thought in your heart: My child is still around and I can’t argue with you. Then big things can be reduced to small things, and small things can be reduced to small things. It is undeniable that there are too many self-righteous and egocentric people in society. These people often cannot control themselves, their emotions will explode in an instant, and they will behave in extreme ways. What we can do is not to correct them, but to stay away from them. Don\’t argue with fools, don\’t argue with fools. As a parent, the most basic requirement is to ensure the personal safety of your children before they grow up. Fighting for temporary success will only send the child to the edge of danger, with disastrous consequences. There is no pill for regret, so don’t do anything you might regret. I have a junior high school classmate who was known as a \”tough guy\” in the school when he was studying. At that time, some gangsters in society often stopped students returning home from school and robbed them of their pocket money. Most classmates would see that there are so many of them, obediently pay the money and leave. One day, they stopped this classmate, but he refused to pay and started fighting with three or five people by himself. He was beaten until his nose was bruised and his face was swollen. The gangsters didn\’t get any advantage and dispersed in dismay. It is said that his mother was so scared that she hugged him and cried loudly. But he didn\’t take it seriously, thinking that men should be tough and not bullied. Of course, no gangsters came to him again after that. Not long ago, at a class reunion, I met this male classmate again. He has become the boss of a small company. His anger has receded and he has become much more mature and stable. Looking back on the past, he talked about a time when his business failed. At that time, small factories were set up in the county, and his factory also started to operate along with the craze. He was good at management and willing to endure hardships, and soon squeezed several small factories in the same industry to the point where they could no longer operate. One day, a group of people broke into his home and threatened him to sell the factory and take the money to leave. This man, who was known as a \”hard-nosed man,\” took his wife and children to leave that place and choose another good tree after only one day of consideration. \”I have a wife and a son. I am afraid of death and dare not confront them head-on.\” When he said this, he had a tough and tender look on his face. When the reporter interviewed \”Young and Dangerous\” Jordan Chan, he also had a question like this: \”Is there anything you wouldn\’t be afraid of now that you weren\’t afraid of before?\” Since I had a wife and son, I have become more and more afraid of death.\” They are all tough guys, but because of their children, they began to give in and became cowards. However, this kind of cowardice can make people feel at ease. For relatives and children, what they care about most is not how upright you are outside or how tough you speak, but how genuine your smile is at home and how long you stay with them. Besides, lions are never willing to duel with mad dogs. With this consideration, many unnecessary disputes can be avoided. I once saw a heart-warming advertisement \”Moms Are Cowards\”: Since having children, mothers have becomeBecame the most timid person in the world. She was afraid that I would cry, and she was afraid that I would not cry; she was afraid that I would be hungry, and she was afraid that I would eat too much; she was afraid that I would walk too late, and she was afraid that I would fall and get hurt… Every mother is a coward, but the more cowardly she is, the more cowardly she is. Mom, I love you more. This advertisement is a true portrayal of many mothers after having children. They are afraid of wolves before and after tigers, afraid that their children will have accidents, and that they will not live long enough, but they often forget to be afraid of the scum in the world. In fact, many parents are not afraid of these \”garbage people\”. What they are more afraid of is throwing away the rules they recognize in their hearts. What they are even more afraid of is letting their children see themselves giving in to mistakes. Dogs should be kept on leashes when walking, you should apologize to me if you touch me, and you should compensate if you cause damage… However, these \”shoulds\” are not the \”shoulds\” in everyone\’s mind, and the law cannot yet bind everyone. behavior, not to mention ordinary rules. Letting children know right from wrong is a good thing, but protecting them is a big deal. Parents who dare to bring their children into the world and train them carefully are warriors in life. No one will mind if you argue for a while, and certainly not their children. When you meet a \”garbage man\”, you can feel free to be a coward and run away, and then tell your child: Mom is afraid of accidents. Between fighting for reputation and keeping safe, mom cares more about safety. People who make mistakes will naturally Get the punishment you deserve. Preserving yourself and being able to stretch and bend is also the best education for your children.