As parents, why should we work harder?

Some time ago, an old classmate started a WeChat group. He said that he accidentally heard a song that he often listened to while studying. I just wanted to bring in a few friends who are good friends to chat. Someone posted a sentence: \”Where have you been these years?\” It made everyone very sad. \”In the past few years, I have become a father\”, \”In the past few years, I have become a mother\”, \”How are you doing?\” Many silent voices are actually the best answers. Classmate Xiaofang said: \”After becoming a mother, you are either working hard or taking care of your baby. So you can ignore my message, there will definitely be jet lag.\” After I posted it, I really disappeared and only came out at night. Bubble a little. It’s true that after becoming parents, many people discover that life is not just about them. At that time, we were playing games in the dormitory, and the obscure boy became a father. The innocent girl also became a mother. It was as magical as transformation, changing his appearance. Xiao Ding, a classmate, often skipped classes when he was studying and almost didn\’t get his certificate when he graduated. He always looks carefree, and everyone thinks that someone with his personality would not be in a hurry to get married. I even feel that he will not be a reliable father. Unexpectedly, I became the father of two children so early. It is no longer what it used to be. In addition to doing planning in the company, a person also took orders from several companies outside. When I go out to do activities, I have to run around, sweat profusely, and often can\’t eat a hot meal. I often stay up until early morning writing plans. What does everyone say he is for? He said he wanted his children to live a better life. What kind is good? Just go to a better kindergarten and receive a better education. You can buy whatever you want to eat, and don\’t worry about it over and over again. Don\’t wear ill-fitting clothes. So, I saw his indelible black eyes. What we see is the responsibility of fatherhood. After becoming parents, we suddenly discovered. A lot of people are trying harder. Before having children. I am also happily working a relaxing job in a company. At that time, rest time was also divided. So maybe I can rest at home on Thursday. A person will feel bored. After doing some housework and having a full stomach, I will dive into computer games. At that time, one person could play the stand-alone version for a long time. But now, the game is even more exciting. No matter who is the spokesperson, they will never touch it again. When people are young, they often think that earning money to support themselves is their ability. You see, many people are asking for money from home. But after having children. While holding this little life in my hands. It felt like my life was on fire. In addition to being excited, I also feel a responsibility. I want to buy him better milk powder. Also, prepare money for school. And, how do I raise him properly? I want to be a father that makes my children proud. A person\’s growth always needs some big turning points to promote it. I think besides marriage makes people mature. Another important driving force is the arrival of children. I started to think about what I could do more. Are there any better development opportunities? Because of my current job, I am still unable to raise my children well. That\’s when the anxiety started. And this fire of anxiety is the key to getting rid of the kind of life of boiling frogs in lukewarm water.So I started by going online to take on some simple proofreading tasks. At that time, I only paid a few yuan for the task of segmenting ancient prose, but I also did it. Because I think I can do it well and I like to do it. Later, I made some plans and wrote some manuscripts. And it takes two or three years to do it. I met a lot of new friends and got a lot more opportunities. The work of coding seems to be beautiful, but in fact it is extremely tiring work. After working at my desk for a long time, there is no part of my shoulders and back that is not sore. But every time I grit my teeth and persevere. Think about it now. In fact, this is not only for the children, but also for yourself. It\’s just that the arrival of children has made us think from a different perspective. Push us to start our own struggle mode. I once read a sentence that said, \”There is a kind of bird in the world that can\’t fly on its own, so it just lays an egg in its nest and lets the bird fly as hard as it can.\” It\’s worth pondering as a parent. Because there are too many such parents in our lives. Putting your hope on your children, you live a decadent life. I remember one time a classmate who was a teacher told us about a child in his class. The child is a very quiet and obedient child, but his academic performance has always been average. One time, his father came to the school to find the teacher and asked why the child\’s grades were not improving. It was because the teacher didn\’t know how to teach. They asked to change classes and heard that the teacher in the next class was better. At that time, my friend was instantly petrified. Regardless of whether the child\’s performance improves or not, it has nothing to do with the teacher\’s teaching. Because everyone in the class knows that this father is an alcoholic. He was drunk outside for a long time, but the mother of the child made a living by playing cards. Regarding this situation, the teacher also talked to the parents once or twice. But tactful persuasion and reminders are meaningless. When other children slowly make progress under the careful guidance of their parents or their careful cultivation. But this child often has to endure endless quarrels with his parents. Such parents also demand that their children work hard to get high scores, which can be said to be harmful to their children. Because there is no real support, it takes a child to fight. It\’s really ridiculous. There is no parent who does not have good expectations for their children. Just expectation without action is delusion. Without the power of example through words and deeds, it is empty talk. Parents are actually the light that illuminates their children. I have a very good friend whose family had very difficult conditions when he was a child. But he has always been positive and optimistic. I remember what he often said was \”Don\’t be afraid, there is hope!\” In those years when the college entrance examination was approaching, I often lamented my poor English scores. But he smiled, patted me on the shoulder and said, \”Brother, don\’t be afraid, there is hope!\” It was really empowering. I later asked him why he said this. He said this was something his mother often told him. He said there was no tuition when he was studying, so his mother borrowed money from everywhere. He has never been unable to study because of lack of money. Of course, he is sensible and has long understood the difficulties at home and is frugal at school. But the optimism his mother gave him not only illuminated his heart. It also benefited the friends around him immensely. Now he also has a successful career, which is a good reward for his mother. When we expect our children to be excellent, we must not give up our requirements for ourselves. Study hard. Make your home smell like books. Even if you don\’t like reading, you must make your home smell of books. It is best to set up a reading corner, which can be a bookcase or a small cabinet. If possible, it would be better if the family has an exclusive study room. If you feel that reading is useless, it must be that you have not tasted the value that reading brings. People who have read books will know that reading is a staircase for ordinary people to climb up by breaking through social sectors. Reading is a kind of nobility with the lowest threshold. Stay away from complaints and negative energy. When you learn, you will stay away from those negative energy circles. You won\’t be brainwashed by some utilitarian circles, tricking you into easily making a hundred thousand a month at home, and learn to distinguish between them. Pay more attention, read more books, nurture your children well, and really spend time with and care about them. Let the children see that \”my parents are also working hard, never being lazy, complaining, and never giving up!\” Parents\’ efforts are like a beacon. Make yourself valuable and shine a light on your children. This should be the reason why we have to work harder as parents.