As soon as the child was born, the husband died

A widowed marriage begins in the year the child is born. When the husband returns home, he either surfs the Internet on his mobile phone or lies in bed pretending to be dead. He doesn\’t understand how hard it can be to just raise a child. Just as he didn\’t understand what kind of suffering and despair his wife was going through at this time. This month I received a letter from a reader who said she had thought about dying a hundred times. On the matter of marriage, she was completely defeated. The husband is the only child in the family. He has been pampered and has never helped with housework. It was better before the child was born, and she would have to be more diligent, but after the child was born, even if she had ten pairs of hands, she would be too busy. The child needs to eat, drink, cry and be coaxed all by herself. When the child wet herself, she asked her husband to get a diaper, but he said there was no need to change it because he would still pee soon. The baby woke up in the middle of the night and her breast milk was not enough. She held the baby in one hand and made milk powder with the other, while her husband snored beside her, unable to move. There was a time when she had colic, and the child cried for two hours. She would hold him in her arms and pace the room over and over again. Her back was so sore that it was stiff, and the crying was still ringing in her ears and she didn\’t know when it would stop. The husband, on the other hand, sat on the sofa watching TV without changing his expression. \”When I closed my eyes during that time, I just thought about dying. I couldn\’t see any hope, and I didn\’t know when the torture in front of me would end.\” She told me. However, what is more terrifying than the hands-off shopkeeper is that he still finds fault in everything and makes things difficult at every turn. The child is allergic to milk and has a rash on his body. He blames you for not taking good care of it. If your child doesn\’t eat well and overturns the rice bowl with his hands, he will scold you loudly: \”Bringing a child up and down will make the house a mess…\” He often compares you with other mothers: \”Look at others. How come I’m not tired every day when I’m raising a child…\” Despair, helplessness, no end. I know this feeling too. I think I have always been strong, but in the first few months after giving birth, I still couldn\’t help but cry a lot. The anxiety and confusion of becoming a mother for the first time is difficult for anyone who has not experienced it firsthand. I was afraid that I wouldn\’t be able to take good care of the child, but no matter what I did, the child still kept crying. There is no job in the world that is more likely to lead to a breakdown than coaxing children, because this job has no time limit and no experience and skills that can be replicated. God knows when he wakes up, God knows when he sleeps, God knows when he cries. You were sleepy as hell, but he still howled energetically. You stayed with him through seven, eight, and nine o\’clock. Usually, he was already asleep at this time, but today he was very irritable and kept talking in your ear. scream. It feels like an extremely hungry person looking for an oasis in the endless desert. God knows where it is. But the husband lying on the sofa could never understand such a mood. It was just a child. He hugged, nursed and coaxed him, and then he fell asleep. How cute. Yes, how cute. He puts anything in his mouth that he sees. He likes to play with water, electrical appliances, and breakable glass. He would put his fingers into the small holes in electrical sockets and pick them out. You are boiling a pot of hot water, and he walks over cheerfully and staggeringly… You are like a top, spinning around him twenty-four hours a day. You have to stare when he leaves, stare when he laughs, and still watch when he cries. Keep an eye on it. hot on the tableThe water bottle was knocked to the ground by his palm. You screamed in fright and wanted to clean up the pieces on the floor. When you turned around, you saw him standing on tiptoe to get the fruit knife from the kitchen… How to deprive a person of all his freedom? Give her a child. This hard battle is fought by you alone. My husband has to go to work, and he feels very tired from work. When he comes back after eight hours, he just wants to lie down quietly. He wondered if you had to go against him, why didn\’t you take the child away even though you knew he was terribly tired. The child cries in the middle of the night. He suddenly becomes manic and shouts to the child loudly: \”Cry, cry, cry, you know how to cry all day long.\” The child is frightened and cries even harder. You quickly crawl out of the bed and pull the child out. Life in arms. At that moment, your throat tightened, and you felt like you were dependent on your child. Children are all you have, because you can no longer feel the love and understanding from your partner. A reader told me that on the day the child was born, her husband slept in a separate room with her because he had to go to work during the day and was afraid that the child would affect his sleep. The child would wake up once an hour, and she would step on the cold floor with her bare feet and walk around the room over and over again. She waited until the child fell asleep before she lay down. Just as she was about to fall asleep, she heard the heart-wrenching cry again. That night, she slept less than three hours. And there was a fresh caesarean section scar on her belly. A friend told me a somewhat sad joke: \”I sprained my foot in physical education class in high school, so I called my dad to pick me up. I waited at the door for a long time, but he still didn\’t come. It turned out that he didn\’t know that I had moved to High School.\” In Tieling, Liaoning, a 38-year-old mother died of a myocardial infarction. Her body was discovered by neighbors three days later. At that time, the room was full of stench, and her four-year-old child was sitting next to her mother\’s body watching TV. In these three days, the child\’s father did not receive a single call. A survey shows that up to 77% of fathers spend less than one hour a day with their children. What\’s interesting is that although fathers have not returned to the family, mothers have entered society one after another. More and more women are required to be good both internally and externally, not only to take care of the housework, but also to make money to support the family, and to be as beautiful as a flower. If you are a housewife, he thinks you can\’t make money. If you are a professional elite, he thinks you are too strong. You are not a fairy. You will always get old, ugly, and have wrinkles. He said arrogantly and shamelessly: \”Look at your character, it\’s strange that a man can stand it.\” What on earth do you need to do to be satisfied? If the man lying next to you can neither assume the responsibilities of a husband nor the responsibilities of a couple, then tell me, what is the meaning of marriage? How can a woman despair of a man? The moon was very cold and the wind was very cold during those nights. She held her child inch by inch, feeling lonely and tormented inside. And you, covering your head in the quilt, turned around sweetly.