At the end of education, all that matters is the attitude of parents

\”Attitude is everything.\” is Carnegie\’s famous saying. This statement is equally true when it comes to education. Recently, I have discovered that there are some very powerful parents around me. They seem to be born with the ability to make us feel that their children always naturally exude obedience and understanding. And this kind of obedience and sensibleness is not inner rebellion but superficial obedience. This ability has nothing to do with their academic qualifications. How did they do that? Because they have correct attitudes towards many issues, these attitudes give children an extremely valuable growth environment. Parents\’ attitude towards their children Mo Yan said: \”Why can parents in rural areas also cultivate outstanding children? Because in terms of education, to a large extent, it is the attitude of parents that determines the happiness and sense of value of the next generation, not their ability to do so. What a high level of cognition.\” Indeed, from the family environment of many successful people, you will find that as a parent, no matter how good your education methods and techniques are, they are not so effective in the face of a good attitude. Because attitudes and actions are linked, what attitude parents have will determine what they will do to their children. Only when parents and children have a good attitude can they cherish each other and avoid harm. A first-grade child came home from school and didn’t want to do his homework. As soon as the mother comes home from get off work, she orders her children to write. After a while, the mother asked the child in the kitchen whether he had done his homework. At first, the child said wait a minute. After asking too many questions, he became too lazy to answer. He pretended not to hear and continued to play with him. Then my mother ran out angrily and yelled: \”Do your homework for me right away!\” The child said: No, I haven\’t had enough fun yet. These words angered my mother: I tell you, finish your homework quickly and see how I deal with you! Then roared away. Half an hour later, everything was as usual with the child. Another kid in first grade didn’t want to do his homework either. However, after returning home, his mother did not let him write immediately, but allowed him to play for 20 minutes first. After 10 minutes passed, the mother reminded the child: After playing for another 10 minutes, it’s time to do homework. Ten minutes later, the mother saw that the child was still playing, so she asked to stop. The child begged: \”Mom, wait a minute, I will just assemble the toys.\” Mom agreed. When the child finished, she took the child to the desk and asked him which subject he planned to complete first, and the child made his choice. If the first mother continues to treat the child with her attitude, what will happen to the child in the future? The child will still play, and the child will find ways and lie to escape his mother\’s reprimands. When he reaches junior high school, he is no longer afraid of his mother. When he is scolded, he may fight back with words or extreme behavior… In this way, after getting married, how will he treat his lover and children? What will be his own state of existence and happiness? You can guess it without telling me. In the second family, although the children may not be able to develop the initiative to do homework in a short period of time. But I believe that this mother’s attitude will sooner or later make her children develop conscious habits. Because, in this attitude, there is respect for children\’s growth patterns, guidance on time management, and the cultivation of a sense of responsibility… The correct attitude extends to the correct method, thereby achieving the correct action effect. This is the power of attitude. Parents\’ attitude towards the problem I was waiting for my children at the school gate that day.From time to time, children would come to borrow the inflatable tube from the man in the guard room. The children politely expressed their gratitude, and the man was very pleased. A mother and son came pushing a bicycle. The mother pointed to the inflatable cylinder and motioned for her son to get it. The child took the inflator and ran away. The uncle stopped him and asked, \”What are you doing?\” \”Pump it up,\” the child said disdainfully. \”Who promised you to take it?\” The child blushed and looked at his mother, who had an angry look on his face: \”You can\’t even use it? Stingy!\” \”What\’s wrong with being stingy? If you don\’t ask for it, you are stealing…\” Then The mother looked embarrassed, spit, and left. \”Mencius\” says: \”Those who respect others will always be respected by others.\” When interacting with others, respecting others is the key point. If parents can\’t do it, how can children start? Friends usually get together and talk about how difficult it is to discipline their own children, so they learn from each other\’s experiences. Once, a friend talked about his educational experience, and I was deeply inspired. His parents are both farmers and have little education. Because they are busy working, they have no way to discipline him, but his friends have known the principles of life since he was a child. For example, you should say hello to your elders when you meet them, you should look good when eating, you should help people when they are in need, and you should not take ill-gotten gains… In short, in all the trivial matters of life, your parents\’ words and deeds have given him the standard of right and wrong, although they do not understand that this is called Ears stained, eyes wet, moistening things silent. In particular, he talked about frying shredded potatoes when he was eight years old. Because it was the first time I made it, I added too much salt and too much water, and it was like cooking a salty paste. His parents were full of praise after eating it and kept putting it in their mouths… This incident shocked him greatly. He was determined to stand out in the future so that he could be worthy of his parents\’ love and care for him. There is no yelling, scolding, punching or kicking, and there is no teaching about reasoning and emotion. In this way, every move of the parents affects and guides the children. Look, there are no profound theories or special educational methods. Even Mo Yan said that he really didn\’t feel that his parents deliberately educated him, because the parents\’ attitude towards the world and problems is the best education for their children. Attitudes between Parents Recently, a leader discussed with me: How much influence does the family environment have on a child? The leader\’s childhood was unhappy. They are a family of five. Being poor is a trivial matter. What is more serious is that their parents are not on good terms with each other. They have sex every three days and quarrel every two days. At that time, although the three siblings had excellent academic performance, they often could not hold themselves up in front of their peers. Therefore, she was obviously precocious and extremely lonely. And this feeling of loneliness continues to this day. She is very good at talking among a group of people, but there are very few friends who can really get into her heart. She said that she envied some people: when there were family conflicts, they could communicate and mediate; during holidays, they could carefully prepare some small gifts… And these people, whenever she went to their homes as guests, they were always in awe. I found that their parents were also like this. They had a very good relationship and often joked with each other. The family atmosphere was very harmonious. Only through experience can we understand that the unhealthy character caused by the disharmonious relationship between husband and wife requires a child to put in many times the effort as an adult to one day be on par with those children who grew up in a loving environment. When a child comes into the arms of every parent, the first thing that is soaked in is the breath of the parents.interest. When parents get along, if there is love and harmony between parents, then children will establish a healthy relationship as husband and wife in this atmosphere from an early age. When conflicts arise, if parents can deal with them in a patient manner, then when children encounter problems in the future, they will also be patient and try to communicate with others instead of losing their temper, making bad faces, or having a cold war. If parents can treat their children with a kind and vigilant heart, fulfill their responsibilities wholeheartedly, and cooperate in everything, then the child will most likely become a person who is both strong and soft in dealing with things and knows how to handle things in the future. In the workplace, there is a well-known \”attitudinal theory\”. A person who starts from the grassroots level and finally rises to a senior executive is the best illustration of \”attitudinal theory\”. A person may have shortcomings in ability, but with the right attitude and hard work, his ability will certainly become stronger, his leader will certainly appreciate him, and eventually he will naturally become the top executive and a successful person in the workplace. Education is even more \”idealistic\”. Many parents blame their children\’s educational failures on their lack of education, culture, and ability. In fact, even if you have a high degree of diploma and extraordinary ability, if you do not have a positive and optimistic attitude in front of your children, and you complain negatively and curse all day long, How can you raise an excellent child? Jack Ma said: \”To see whether a person is excellent, don\’t look at whether he graduated from Harvard or Stanford, but look at his attitude – whether he works like crazy and whether he goes home with a smile after get off work every day.\” Yes, The essence of educational competition is also a competition of parents’ own life attitudes. What attitude towards life you sow in your children will determine the height and depth of life your children will reap. In the first years of a child\’s growth, there are only a few important steps. How to make his future life more meaningful, your attitude today is crucial.