Attentive parents and attentive companionship are the safety belts for children\’s growth

I took my son to a shopping mall and saw a two- or three-year-old girl standing in front of the mirror in the women\’s clothing section. I thought she was playing in the mirror, but when I got closer, I found that she was crying in front of the mirror. Looking to the side, several adults were commenting around a woman trying on clothes, but no one noticed the crying girl. Talkative asked: \”Whose little girl is this? She\’s crying!\” \”Tiantian, come to mommy!\” The woman who was trying on clothes looked up at me and shouted at the little girl. The little girl didn\’t seem to hear it, she still looked in the mirror and cried. \”She may be scared when she looks in the mirror, why don\’t you take her away quickly.\” Seeing that the woman was still thinking about her clothes, I said angrily. My husband disliked me for being nosy, so he dragged me away. The woman also came over and hugged the little girl, but ignored me the whole time. She might have thought I was nosy, or thought I was a weirdo. I am still very angry. How come there are such parents who are so irresponsible that they only care about buying clothes for themselves and leave their children alone without talking about them. They don’t understand their children’s thoughts at all. Children look in the mirror and see a reflection of real society, because they can see it but cannot touch it, or there are places in their minds that we cannot reach, and they feel afraid. Parents who do not pay attention to their children\’s emotional changes and are busy with their own affairs are definitely irresponsible towards their children. At the head of the market is a stall selling live chickens and fishes. The sellers will handle whatever the buyer chooses on the spot, so that they can buy with confidence. I am a soft-hearted person. If I watch others handling live animals, the eyes of the living animals before they die will always linger in my mind. I don’t dare to eat them at all, so it is my husband’s task to buy these things. But every time I pass by the market, I often see some parents standing there holding their ignorant children of three or four years old. The dying chickens and fishes are struggling or making their final roars. The children look at this bloody scene with blank faces and even some horror. However, parents do not realize the negative psychological impact that such scenes that are not suitable for children will have on their children. , my mind was completely occupied by the chicken and fish that were about to become delicacies in front of me. I saw the children\’s little hands tightly grasping their parents\’ clothes, and I must be very nervous and scared. The child\’s innocent heart is obviously not strong enough to withstand such bloody killing scenes. A friend doesn\’t understand my point of view because he thinks that children should experience all kinds of situations so that they can develop their courage. Moreover, this is also a survival skill, so there is no need to be so glass-hearted. If we teach children killing chickens and fish as a survival skill, we should wait until the children are a little older before slowly introducing them to them. Children aged three or two are too young after all. If the children have psychological shadow because of this, You may develop a fear of handling living animals in the future. Moreover, we often educate our children on caring for small animals, but take them to \”visit\” the scene where chickens and fish are slaughtered. This contradictory approach can easily cause children to have doubts and is not conducive to their healthy growth. Responsible parents should consciously keep their children away from such bloody and violent scenes, and wait until their children grow up, such as junior high school or high school, before leading their children to slowly accept these things. We live on the first floorMy family is a demolished household, and there is another house upstairs in the back. There are two girls in their family, one is six years old and the other is two years old. One day when I was at work and walking downstairs on the first floor, I saw their two-year-old little girl walking downstairs without an adult watching over her. I was deeply surprised and asked her, \”Where is your grandma?\” Usually the child\’s grandma takes care of her. She looked at me, said nothing, and continued walking down. I asked again: \”Where are you going?\” \”I\’m going to find grandma!\” It turned out that grandma was not at home. \”Is grandma at home at the back? Where is mom?\” \”Mom is at home!\” I quickly ran upstairs and knocked on the door. The little girl\’s mother opened the door. \”What\’s wrong?\” We don\’t have much contact with each other, so she must be feeling strange when she sees me. \”Your daughter ran out and said she was going to find her grandma.\” She was shocked. She hurriedly ran out and picked up the child and said, \”Finally, I am at home with my child today. She was playing in the living room just now. I went to the balcony to answer the phone and heard the door ring. I thought it was the child\’s grandma who came, but it turned out that the child ran out on his own.\” She said she was very lucky that the child met me. What if the child ran out of the community? What if you meet a human trafficker? Then give the child a scolding. I was helpless. It was wrong for the child to walk out of the house on his own, but as the mother of the child, I obviously had a greater responsibility after realizing it later. When accompanying your child, you should ensure that the child is within your field of vision. At the very least, when you hear the door ring, you should immediately see if someone is coming in or the child is going out to confirm the child\’s safety. This is called truly accompanying your child. I am reminded of a previous news story. While a mother was playing with her mobile phone, her two-year-old son was playing next to her and was run over and killed by a car that had just pulled out of the parking space. There was also a mother who took her child to a hot spring to play. Unfortunately, her son drowned while he was playing with his mobile phone. Poor children, the flower of life has withered before it blooms. Although the blame cannot entirely be placed on the behavior of playing with mobile phones, it is undeniable that parents obviously lack a sense of responsibility and their minds are elsewhere when taking care of their children. With the gradual popularization of smart phones, people with bowed heads are becoming more and more common in life. Bored parents often look at their children while scrolling through their phones. Such dual-tasking is not only not conducive to the establishment of a close parent-child relationship, but also makes children easily addicted to electronic products, which affects academic performance and eye health. What\’s more serious is that it is difficult for parents to detect dangers around their children at the first time. Once an accident occurs, it will be too late. It is not recommended that parents play with mobile phones while watching their children. It seems to be restricting personal freedom. However, in the era of pursuing personal freedom, we should pay more attention to responsibility and dedication, because the pursuit of personal freedom in everything is most likely to neglect the dedication to children. Being a parent is not easy. The burden is heavy. You have to worry about everything about your children\’s food, drink, toilet, and sleep. But since we choose to bring children into this world, we must always be responsible. Don’t just push your children away from your parents or nannies, and don’t be distracted when looking after your children. Mo Yan once said: Even if your education level is not high, you can still become a good parent if you put your heart into it. We as parents are not good or bad in ourselves, but some parentsSome parents are attentive, and some parents are not attentive. The quality of parents has nothing to do with their cultural level, but with whether they are attentive to their growth. This makes it understandable why many illiterate parents can educate outstanding children, because although they lack cultural knowledge, they obviously have many strengths when raising children that others do not. Parents all know that companionship is the best love for their children. But absent-minded and idle companionship is obviously unhelpful and may put the child in an unsafe situation. Companionship does not mean sitting next to the child or being in the same room with the child, nor does spending time with the child for a long time or being with the child more often mean accompanying the child attentively. Accompanying the child should focus on quality rather than quantity. A short period of high-quality companionship is far more valuable than a long period of perfunctory work. Especially for working parents, when they get home from work and spend an hour seriously with their children, it can greatly promote a more harmonious parent-child relationship. Accompany with your heart and respond to your child seriously. When children ask questions or make any moves, parents should respond positively. Even if a child\’s behavior is childish, it should be taken seriously rather than ignored. Be attentive and pay attention to your child\’s emotions. There are not many big and dramatic things in a child\’s growth process, but more small details and small changes. These small things make it easier for parents to understand their children and get into their children\’s hearts. Accompany with your heart, be careful and don\’t use too much force. Attentive companionship is not about dictating to children, nor is it about imposing strict rules on everything or nagging and criticizing, but about respecting the child\’s wishes, giving the child an appropriate amount of free space, and ensuring the child\’s safety at the same time. While we accompany our children, our children are also accompanying us. Attentive companionship can help children develop good behavioral habits and give them a sound personality. At the same time, parents can also grow and become better versions of themselves.