Baby, I want to tell you my secret

A Japanese writer once mentioned his thoughts on happiness in a book. He recorded: \”The more happiness is shared with others, the more its value will increase.\” As he said, sharing is a human need that will It greatly increases the happiness of the person who \”shares\”. The person who \”shares\” will have a greater sense of gain and accomplishment in the process, and at the same time, the person who \”enjoys\” is also happy because he feels true love and support. As the saying goes, sharing is a key to happiness. If you learn to share, you can enter the palace of happiness and upgrade and extend your happiness. Therefore, \”bad\” parents believe that being able to share every detail of their children as they grow up, and being able to more or less participate in their children\’s thoughts and feelings, regardless of joys and worries, is a good thing for parents. Happiness, for children, is also a kind of warmth. Parents should share their joys, sorrows, and joys with their children, so that their children can grow up healthy and strong in the joy of sharing. I believe that in real life, many parents want to share joys, sorrows, sorrows and joys with their children, but in actual practice, they often encounter practical difficulties of one kind or another, or simply don’t know how to do it, and sometimes they even end up self-defeating. In fact, it is not difficult to share joys and sorrows with your children. Let us take a look at the following practical suggestions from \”bad\” parents: First of all, \”bad\” parents will try to increase the time they spend with their children. This is the basic guarantee for successful sharing with children. Parents should spend as much time as possible with their children. The more they get along with each other, the more they will understand. Parents\’ love cannot be replaced by any other form of care for children, not even the kindest grandparents or the most competent teachers. Therefore, when parents show more of their care to their children, the children will Naturally, you will feel sincerely happy, and you will also be willing to express your thoughts and feelings to your parents more and share your joys, sorrows, and joys with your parents. Secondly, \”bad\” parents also need to know communication skills, and parents should have more emotional communication with their children. Regular conversation and caressing are important channels for emotional communication between parents and children. In addition to asking their children common questions such as \”Are you full?\” and \”What else do you want?\” parents must also learn to use \”How do you feel today?\” \”What do you think?\” \”Are you happy?\” \”Waiting for questions to care about the children, that is, starting from emotions, allowing the children to express their feelings more, and letting the children express their longing for missing their parents for a day. In this process, parents can also learn to listen carefully to their children. Real feelings inside. Or sometimes, when parents really have to be busy with other things, it is also recommended that parents not forget to give their children an apologetic touch, so that although the children will be disappointed, they can also be comforted. Again, \”bad\” parents believe it is crucial that parents learn to listen to their children. For example: when a child does not want to go to school, do not rudely hand the child over to the teacher because work time is approaching and let the child cry loudly. This will aggravate the child\’s sense of abandonment and separation anxiety. When a child is unwilling to leave with the teacher, you might as well squat down and listen carefully to the child\’s description of the word \”no\” in his heart. What the child needs at this time is youA promise, of course you also need to remember to work hard to fulfill it. Finally, \”bad\” parents must know how to let go and let their children participate in groups and partners as much as possible. Parents should give more advice and encourage their children to play games with their friends. This is a good opportunity for children to feel the love of siblings in the era of only children. Friendly interactions with partners can help children overcome the anxiety and loneliness of being temporarily separated from their parents and relatives, and learn to share their emotions in interactions with children. In fact, the \”badness\” of \”bad\” parents is not selfish. They generally realize that it is very important for children to learn to share with others. Children\’s sharing behavior is basically impossible to occur spontaneously in today\’s age of doting, so adults must guide children in their daily lives to cultivate a sense of sharing. For example: when eating fruit after a meal, consciously guide the children to distribute the fruits to the adults, and tell the children to share the delicious ones with everyone. You can also try to let the children give the good and big ones to others first; have fun toys You can invite the children next door to experience it together; with delicious food, children are encouraged to take it to the class to eat with the children, allowing the children to feel real sharing, and at the same time, the children learn good manners invisibly. Treat people. It is best for parents not to pamper and pamper their children, let alone to put their children at the center of everything, satisfy any of their children\’s needs without restrictions and conditions, or even give them a special status when other children are around. The child should be properly made to understand that what he gets is not taken for granted, but is given to him by everyone because they love him. In daily life, parents should let their children learn to be grateful and grateful, and learn to take out the things they like and share them with their family and friends. Let children learn to share from an early age, and parents should also promptly praise and affirm their children\’s willingness to share with others, which can help children develop good moral character. The attitude of parents not only determines whether the child can learn and be willing to share, but more importantly, determines whether the child can view the people and things around him with a loving eye in the future. Children\’s inner world is rich and sensitive, so we \”bad\” parents believe that as parents, we have no reason to let our children endure loneliness alone. We must do our best to learn to share with our children. While allowing children to open their hearts to themselves, parents should also appropriately tell their children some of their own \”secrets\” and learn to talk and share their joys, sorrows, and sorrows with their children. Parents must not blindly blame their children for being rebellious and withdrawn, because at this time they are actually longing for more love and more care. When parents and children share the joys, sorrows and joys of life together, it is not only conducive to family harmony, but also conducive to cultivating children\’s sound personality and allowing children to thrive in a healthy and happy environment. In fact, children are also little listeners. Parents should treat their children as caring people instead of always acting as managers in front of their children. Occasionally whispering to the child, or even telling the child \”keep a secret from mom/dad\”, actually has a warm influence on the child\’s young mind..