Baby, speak slowly, I\’m listening

Recently, my son has become a talkative person. For example, when I go to the toilet, if he has not finished speaking, he will stand outside the door and continue to talk to me. And in the elevator, it sometimes seems awkward. One day because the underground parking lot has been dry lately. I just said that the underground parking lot has been very dry recently, and there was always water in the past. The wife didn\’t answer, but the son heard it. Immediately I got excited and asked if we knew why this happened? Then he said he knew. While we were in the elevator, we went up with a young couple. The son continued his reasoning. I smiled and listened to him. But I was really worried that others would feel uncomfortable. Because everyone still prefers silence in the elevator. But I still pulled him to my side and chose to listen patiently to what he had to say. Because of this reasoning, he had to put a lot of effort into making his meaning clear. However, the key message can still be heard: It is said that it is because the temperature is too high, and then the water is dried up, and the meaning is gone. He was afraid that we didn\’t understand, so he repeated it again. By the time we finished speaking, we just arrived at our floor. \”I understand, you little chatterbox.\” \”Okay, we\’re here.\” The son said happily. It\’s such a joy to be able to finish what I want to say. Fortunately, the little girl also looked at the little chatterbox with joy. Because his way of reasoning is really interesting. Sometimes, if you listen carefully to a child\’s speech, everyone will accept it. However, the voices of parents shouting back may seem abrupt. I want to be the one who listens to you. Baby, speak slowly, I\’m listening! I once saw a story like this that moved me very much. There was a little girl in the third grade of elementary school. For a while, she said she was afraid of ghosts and did not dare to sleep alone. The mother of the child feels that such a big child should be bolder. She told her children that there are no ghosts in this world. Then I didn\’t ask any more questions, thinking that the child was just suspicious. But one night when she was going to bed, the little girl came to her parents\’ room again and said she was scared. This time her mother comforted her as before. Dad hugged her that day, but he didn\’t tell her \”there are no ghosts in the world.\” Instead, he chatted with her for a long time. He asked her, \”What does the ghost that scares you look like?\” The little girl said, \”It is black and invisible. As soon as you look at it, it disappears.\” Then the father continued to chat with her for a long time, and he got a Very important information: Children often see this ghost on their way home from school. This aroused the father\’s alarm. He went outside the school in advance for several days to wait for his children to get out of school to see what was going on. As a result, he saw a middle-aged man wearing a black hat stalking his daughter. He decisively called the police, but his parents were still frightened and thankful that they found out early. If one day this middle-aged man suddenly takes action, the consequences will be disastrous. And what kind of father is this father? The child\’s mother said this: In daily life, he is always patient and listens to his children\’s nonsense. He will never deny a child casually, no matter how absurd the child\’s words are based on unthinking common sense. If we love our children. You must learn to listen to your children, and alsoMaybe we can do better. When your child wants to tell you about their day, be patient and listen. I found that the moment my wife opened the door every day, my son started to talk. \”Mom, look what I did?\” \”Mom, do you know what dad and I went to play today?\” \”Mom, do you know why my dinosaur fell here? Because it just had a fight. .\”… Sometimes my wife would run to the kitchen and whisper to me, \”Why does he talk so much lately?\” \”That\’s because he misses you. Go and stay with him and listen to what he says.\” Because of the child In his words, there is his story. He wanted to share it with those closest to him. What you see is a talkative kid. In fact, he needs your attention and empathy. I hope you will pay attention to his story and feel what he feels. Listening well to your children is an important step in providing them with high-quality companionship. Every child has a language explosion period. It usually appears around the age of 2. Of course, this is a relatively long stage that will last for several years. When children are just discovering the wonderful functions of language with great interest, it is the critical guidance period. For example, we will find that many children are just trying to express long sentences. I always stutter or repeat the same word many times. At this time, if parents urge, it will often make the children more nervous. I really want to thank those small animals, small toys, and even a tree or grass that are willing to listen to the children. They are all good listeners for children. They do not urge children to talk. A child\’s language ability directly reflects his ideological development process. Because one of the functions of our minds is to categorize events, store memories, and clarify memories. It is because of thought that children can use time as a measure, they can also measure space, and they can imagine some stories for themselves. And they keep expressing it. So a child might ask you repeatedly about the size of an object? If you answer \”very long, very long\”, the child will ask, how long do you mean? One why after another came like waves. Many parents are overwhelmed. At this time, the child\’s mind is actually developing. If parents neglect them for a long time, their children\’s ideological development will only be hindered. They will become less talkative. Or they no longer like talking to their parents. How to listen to children? Parents need more patience and empathy with their children. Most parents can adapt to their children\’s good or poor abilities. And adjust your pace to suit your child. However, a fast-paced parent is often disrupted by a slow-paced child who cannot keep up. For example, if a child fails to express what he means when he says a sentence, impatient parents often blame the child or help the child to speak. Likewise, a child with a fast pace often loses touch with a parent with a slow pace. For example, due to children\’s jumping thinking and imagination, parents may not understand what they say for a long time, and there are many people who even close their ears and refuse to listen. Therefore, you must first understand your children and try to adjust the channel well. Coordinated and smooth communication channels can solve many worries. Also, look into your child\’s eyes and listen to him. likeIf you want to teach your children to listen, you must start with yourself. When you get home from get off work every day, can you turn off your mobile phone and talk to your children? Instead of staring at the screen, your mouth is answering the child\’s questions. These careless little actions have the greatest impact on children. Because sensitive children can always feel whether their parents are really listening attentively. Knowing how to listen is not a superb social skill, but a sincere state of loving and being loved. Although the child in front of you lives with you, he has his own thoughts, his own soul, and his own story. Every child deserves to be respected and listened to carefully. When you are ready, pay attention to your child with a sincere heart. At this time, the shared story between you and your child begins.