A friend of my daughter came to play at home once. The two eldest girls were chatting and the topic of private life came up. I was preparing to cook in the kitchen when I heard the girl say to her daughter: \”I am fine as I am now. I have never used contraception and I have not deliberately gotten pregnant. If I do, I will.\” , if not, just wait for a few years. Anyway, we are still young, and the family is not urging us.\”
My daughter said enviously: \”You can do it without contraception, tsk tsk! You won\’t have anything wrong, right?\”
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\”How could it be? We took a pre-pregnancy check-up after we got married. We didn\’t want to take birth control, it would be troublesome, so we had to have a baby. There was no need to force it, just let nature take its course.\”
\”Then why wasn\’t she pregnant? Or you can ask my mother if there is really any problem.\”
\”How could it be? We are normal, maybe it has something to do with the fact that we can avoid the ovulation period. Auntie.\” Then the girl\’s voice became quieter, but out of curiosity, I still heard what she said, \”Old comrade, be serious, what if she stares at me after the consultation? It\’s okay for Aunt Yu to stare at me. My parents and parents-in-law took it seriously and started targeting me again. I haven’t had enough fun yet.”
My daughter looked at me furtively and I pretended to choose vegetables. He also whispered in agreement: \”That\’s right, that\’s right, if my mother hadn\’t been watching, I wouldn\’t have done it so early. My colorful youth was just ruined.\”
Then the two girls let out a burst of laughter. laughter.
I couldn’t help but smile, it’s great to be young, just let them go, there’s still time anyway. I think back then, people of my generation all got married in a haphazard manner and had children in a haphazard manner. The time we spent together was so short that it was negligible. Looking back now, I feel a bit regretful.
A year later, the girl and her husband came to me very seriously and said they planned to have a pre-pregnancy check-up and decided to start having a baby.
After the girl made an appointment with me for the clinic, she left her husband behind and went to have a private conversation with my daughter.
After the two girls winked at each other, the girl began to complain: \”Look, you have all given birth, and the elderly at home are really starting to urge you. Come on! Let\’s give birth. It will happen sooner or later, and there is no way to hide it.\” Go over there.\”
The daughter said with a smile: \”Have a baby, have a baby. There is joy after giving birth. You will know if you try it. Those pink and soft little arms are going to your neck. It makes your heart melt.\”
Girls always have endless topics to talk about when they are together. I am very pleased that no matter how they grow up, they can always consciously return to normal. life track, assume one’s due responsibilities andobligation.
The girl and her husband are in very good health and are very suitable for having a child. After I briefed them on some simple pre-pregnancy precautions, I sent them back.
I thought the good news would come soon, but unexpectedly, more than half a year later, the girl came to see me again. Unlike her previous youthfulness, she became restless and a little decadent. At that time, my heart tightened, thinking that something had happened, but I couldn\’t ask directly. Just when I was struggling with how to speak, the girl spoke first: \”Aunt Yu, why is it so hard to be a human being? It\’s even harder to be a woman! ”
It turned out that the girl started preparing for pregnancy after taking a pre-pregnancy check-up. However, as before, she tried several methods to find the ovulation period, but nothing happened. Therefore, she was originally optimistic about having a baby. Young couples with a natural mentality are not so calm. The more nervous and concerned I became, the less calm I became, and finally decided to come to me.
I didn’t suggest that they do another check-up, because the girl’s mood is very uneasy right now. I need to communicate with her and wait until she can correctly understand that pregnancy is not a sure thing, and then do it again. Outpatient diagnosis may be better.
Different from the previous pregnancy preparation points which were more focused on regulating one’s own health, this time I carefully told them some ways to increase the probability of conception, including sexual life.
The girl was dull throughout the conversation. Suddenly, she became excited: \”Wait, Aunt Yu, tell me more about the semen pool.\”
I suddenly felt a little excited. Understand where the problem lies. Due to the traditional consciousness of the Chinese people, I rarely talk about matters of sexual life during pregnancy consultations, because this topic is too private, and it seems a bit unclear how to talk about it as a key point. Only when I meet someone who is really interested The problem will only be explained in detail when the patient is concerned.
I tell girls seriously: \”During sexual intercourse, you should try to form a pool of semen, and then lie down in bed and rest for an hour before going to the ground for activities.\”
\” That\’s it!\” The girl patted her head in annoyance, \”But didn\’t you say before that you should try to urinate as much as possible after having sex?\”
Ah! I remembered that this conversation occurred at the beginning of the girl\’s honeymoon. Less than a week after her marriage, she came to see me for an acute urinary tract infection. The advice I gave her at that time was that after sex, women should try to urinate as much as possible and then clean themselves.
According to statistics, the incidence of urinary tract infections in married women is more than twice that of unmarried women of the same age. Among women with urinary tract irritation symptoms, 40% are related to sexual intercourse. It can be seen that sexual life plays an important role in the onset of female urinary tract infections. This is mainly caused by the special structure of female genitals. The female urethra is shorter and wider than the male urethra, making it easier for bacteria to enter. Moreover, the female urethral opening is close to the vagina and anus. There are a large number of bacteria around both the vagina and anus. Vaginal secretions are also a good culture medium, making it easier for bacteria to multiply. Many women urinate during or immediately after sexA strong desire to urinate, urgency, difficulty urinating, frequent urination and other symptoms, such as honeymoon cystitis, is a typical example.
This girl has a typical honeymoon disease, so I have this suggestion. Urinating immediately after sex can allow the urine to play its role in flushing the urethra, and clean the vulva to reduce the growth of bacteria. Unexpectedly, she has persisted to this day. In fact, this is a good habit in normal married life and will help reduce the probability of urinary tract infection. But if you want to get pregnant, it is very unsuitable.
Because urinating immediately after sex will cause semen to flow out quickly, and there will be very few sperm remaining in the vagina. During the \”long journey\”, they are often \”annihilated.\”
On the other hand, because the upright and sitting positions can stimulate the female clitoris well, it will be easier for women to reach orgasm, which is more conducive to sexual harmony between couples. Therefore, many young couples prefer to adopt these positions. This girl happens to be a lover of these positions too. As we have said in the previous chapter, these positions are good for sexual harmony, but they are very unfavorable for conception. Since the female reproductive organs droop and the vaginal opening is open during sexual intercourse, most of the semen will overflow from the body with the withdrawal of the penis after the sexual intercourse is terminated. , the probability of pregnancy at this time is extremely low. Then, taking a position that cannot form a semen pool, coupled with the urination habit afterwards, causes a large amount of sperm to be expelled from the girl\’s body. These two seemingly healthy sexual habits have become the main culprit of this girl\’s infertility. .
After I explained in detail, the girl asked me blankly: \”I must change my posture, but if I change my urination habit, I am afraid of causing urinary tract infection again. I was worried about it last time.\”
When it comes to this issue, I think many women have this worry. In fact, even women who do not have the habit of urinating and washing after sex sometimes feel the urge to urinate after sex. This is because the female vagina is relatively close to the urethra, and when the vagina and clitoris are stimulated, the urethra and bladder may also be stimulated, resulting in the urge to urinate.
However, this can be avoided. In addition to urinating before sex, if possible, both husband and wife should bathe or clean the perineum before sex. The cleaning of the husband\’s external genitals is often neglected, and the urine dirt under the foreskin of the penis contains a large number of bacteria, which is often the direct cause of the wife\’s urinary tract infection and vaginitis.
After sex, women should lie down and lie still for one hour. It is best to put a pillow on the buttocks and raise the buttocks to try to soak the cervix in semen and give the sperm enough time and opportunity. , so as to rush to the date with the egg.
After one hour, urinate and clean again. It is not advisable to use alkaline detergents such as soap during cleaning. In normal times, women preparing for pregnancy should drink more water to increase the frequency of urination and prevent urinary tract infections. When wiping the vagina, you should choose clean and safe toilet paper and wipe from front to back to avoid bringing bacteria around the anus into the urethral opening. Bacteria are more likely to breed during the menstrual period, so you should pay attention to the cleanliness of the vagina and use safeUse safe and reliable sanitary napkins, and develop the habit of changing them frequently. It is best not to change sanitary napkins more than 6 hours, otherwise it is easy to cause urinary system infection, which will affect your baby-making plans.
This article is provided by Baidu Reading. It is excerpted from \”Very Good Pregnancy: You Can Get Pregnant by Doing This\” Author: Yu Yue\’e