Be ruthless and create some \”tribulations\” for your children. They will definitely thank you when they understand.

In recent years, a large number of social surveys have shown that modern children are generally relatively fragile. They often show cowardice, willfulness, selfishness, isolation, laziness and other aspects that worry adults. The reason is that psychologists and educationists generally believe that the family \”gives\” them too much, imposes too few \”restraints\” on them, and has not experienced the baptism of \”tribulation\”. Therefore, parents are advised to give their children appropriate care. They create some \”bad stimulation\” and \”sufferings\”. By being a \”bad\” parent now, you can become a good child in the future. The so-called \”inferior stimulation\” refers to external stimulation that makes people dissatisfied, uncomfortable, and unpleasant. \”Inferior stimulation\” is also a kind of education, which can exercise children\’s psychological endurance. Just like a small tree, it can grow stronger only after it has withstood the wind and frost. For children who are often pampered and pampered, appropriate \”bad sexual stimulation\” is secretly needed and beneficial. This will enable the children to better adapt to complex society in the future and withstand various setbacks and difficulties, allowing them to cultivate good habits at an early age. Have a certain psychological endurance. Among the \”bad stimuli\” that can be applied to children, the first among them is \”difficult\” stimuli. \”Bad\” parents know very well that because their children today have a smooth life, they are helpless when they encounter difficulties when they grow up, showing characteristics such as timidity, dependence, and weak will. Therefore, \”bad\” parents believe that it is necessary to consciously set up some obstacles for them to increase their psychological endurance and hone their will to overcome difficulties. For example, let children turn off the lights and fall asleep alone, and let children who like to sleep in get up early every day to run and exercise. It is necessary to let children feel that the road to life is not smooth from the small things in daily life. It is common to encounter difficulties and obstacles. Secondly, \”exertion\” stimulation is also very effective. Some parents think that when their children are young, they hardly have to do anything. Children who have not worked since childhood and do not know what hardship is is will gradually become lazy, afraid of hardship, and develop a dependence mentality, which will promote the formation of bad characters. \”Bad\” parents will try their best to let their children experience the \”hardness\” of labor, let their children do some housework within their capabilities, or simply put their children in a hard and tiring environment to receive exercise. In addition, \”bad\” parents also know that \”critical\” stimulation can also have a positive and beneficial impact on their children\’s body and mind. Both adults and children like to hear good things. I believe anyone will be unhappy when they hear criticism. Parents should be able to let their children learn to distinguish right from wrong and know right from wrong from an early age. They should also let them understand that they must obey their parents if they do something wrong or bad. Advice, otherwise he will be criticized. The purpose of this is to make him feel \”restrained\” and not to follow his temper in the face of everything and develop the bad habit of doing whatever he wants. In fact, we should really learn more from the \”cruel\” practices of parents in some Western countries. You must know that whether parents should be \”cruel\” or not, the future of their children becomes uncertain and unknown. The following is what a Chinese friend saw and heard in Germany: I found that German parents often deliberately set some \”tribulations\” for their children in good times, and sometimes even deliberately \”create\” some opportunities for their children to make mistakes, leaving them to make mistakes on their own. Hit a wall. I remember one time when I was a GermanThe 7-year-old daughter of a Chinese colleague, Suzanne, was going on an outing with her classmates. Before leaving, Suzanne discovered that the child had forgotten to pack food and a flashlight in her bag, but she did not remind her. After returning from the trip, as expected, the child was so hungry that his face changed. At this time, the mother asked her daughter what was going on and helped her analyze the cause. Finally, her daughter said: \”You must make a list of items when you go out in the future, so that you won\’t forget to bring something.\” Susanna seemed to be very satisfied with her daughter\’s gains after this \”ordeal\”. Creating some opportunities for children to endure hardship is also a good way to temper their will. There are such courses abroad. Schools will invite funeral parlor staff to come to the school to tell the children what happens when a person dies. After the lecture, the children take turns playing roles, simulating what happens when a parent dies in a car accident. How to deal with such situations. Experts say such classes allow children to experience what it\’s like to be suddenly orphaned. It helps them understand the complicated emotions when they suddenly encounter misfortune, and how to control their emotions and face difficulties. There are also many children who are sent to \”ordeal camps\” by their parents. Usually every summer, hundreds of children are sent to such \”ordeal camps\” by their parents to participate in colorful and \”ordeal\” wilderness survival activities. This kind of activity aims to cultivate children\’s hard-working spirit, team spirit and attitude towards facing setbacks, and also cultivate children\’s ability to seek light in difficulties. Of course, nothing should be done to extremes, especially if you create \”tribulations\” for your children. The purpose of parents is to give their children good exercise and cultivate a strong will, not to punish them, especially for children who are resistant to their own problems. Children with weaker abilities. In China, parents must pay attention to combining appreciation education with hardship education. I believe the following example can give parents some inspiration: There was a foreign writer who liked to write and write when he was very young. He once wrote a children\’s poem. His mother thought it was wonderful and praised him greatly; but his father said it was terrible. , making him feel both discouraged and unwilling. And in the years when he was growing up, whenever he made progress, even if it was a small achievement, his mother would spare no effort to praise him. What this writer got from his mother was confidence, courage and hope; while his father was very strict with him and criticized his shortcomings. , mistakes, point them out mercilessly, and sometimes reprimand loudly. What he gained from his father is sobriety, reason and humility. Later, he became a well-known writer. At this time, he fully understood his parents\’ intentions and felt that he was a lucky child. He had both a mother who knew how to appreciate him and a very strict father. Otherwise, It is difficult to become talented. The 21st century is an era of increasingly fierce competition. Our children need to mature in the collision with setbacks before they can encounter success. Therefore, \”bad\” parents believe that as contemporary parents, what we need to do is to try our best to let Children should face challenges with a positive attitude. \”Suffering\” is not the goal, nor is it terrible. The most important thing is whether parents have a \”ruthless\” heart enough to let their children experience the wonderful experience of seeing a rainbow after the storm. “Bad” parents know not to deny their children easilyAchievements do not fully recognize children’s achievements. Parents please understand that while creating hardships for their children, they also require parents to hold themselves to a high standard. For example, if children are not picky eaters, then parents must first restrain their appetite for a particular favorite food; If children go to bed early and get up early, parents must first develop a living habit of not staying up late or getting up late.