Be sure to tell your children: Never be kind in these four situations

We teach our children to be kind since childhood, but in today’s complicated world, how many children and even adults have been killed by kindness? Do we have to teach our children not to be kind from an early age? This also goes against our principles of life! Then please at least tell your children that in these four situations, you must put away your kindness! 1 You are weak and he is strong. One day, a mother was late to pick up her child from school. A trafficker seized the opportunity and took the opportunity to coax her child. The liar said: \”Oh, kid, I left my things in the toilet. Can you help me find it now?\” He wanted to lure the child into the toilet so that his companions could take action. As a result, she asked three times in a row, and the child kept shaking his head. He was annoyed, \”You kid, haven\’t you ever learned what it means to help others?\” The kid glared at him and ran to the teacher. The trafficker saw that the kid was alert and immediately changed his target. In less than ten minutes, they deceived another child, and when they were about to drive away, they were caught by the police. It turned out that this child ran to the teacher and told the teacher very firmly that these people were bad people. The teacher was dubious, but for safety reasons, he still called the police. Unexpectedly, they turned out to be really bad people. The teacher asked the child, \”How do you know they are bad people?\” The child said, \”Mom said, if an adult asks you for help, ignore him, because if an adult encounters a problem that cannot be solved, he will definitely seek help from an adult. Help, not children who are weaker than him. \”Adult men generally don\’t ask pregnant women for help. Strong adults generally don\’t ask the elderly for help. Adults generally don\’t ask children for help. Asking for help must be because you are stronger than him. That\’s why he asked you for help. If you are already weak and the strong party asks you for help, it means that he must have other intentions. At this time, please put away your kindness! 2. Avoid entering a closed environment. It was raining. A pregnant woman saw a beggar soaking in the rain at the door. She couldn\’t bear it, so she asked him to come in and have a rest. The beggar gratefully entered her home. After eating, he found that the pregnant woman was alone at home, so he threatened the pregnant woman to give him a living allowance. In such a closed environment, with only the two of them present, she lost room for bargaining. In order to avoid suffering greater harm and eliminate disaster, she paid 10,000 yuan to the beggar. When an occasion changes from open to closed, without everyone\’s supervision, it is hard to imagine what people will do. You may be a humble gentleman in front of others, but behind others, in a closed environment where you are obviously weak and others are strong, you can only be at the mercy of others. Therefore, it is okay to help others, but try to avoid doing so in a closed space. 3 There is a well-known story about how good things sometimes turn bad. The tourists came to the mysterious Hoh Xil under the escort of the game reserve protection organization. A cute little Tibetan antelope ran over and poked its head curiously. Seeing the cute little animal, the tourists suddenly became excited, and they all came forward to take pictures, and took out food and water to feed the cute little animal. Suddenly, a roar rang out: \”Go away!\” The protection team leader of the game reserve rushed over and drove away the cute little Tibetan antelope, preventing tourists from feeding it. The tourist was angry: \”What are you doing? How can you be so rough?\”Treat small animals harshly? What\’s wrong with us caring for these little animals? \”You are doing evil!\” \”The protection captain scolded: \”If you are too friendly to wild animals, they will think that humans are kind. Once they encounter poachers, they may be hunted and killed. \”That\’s it, the tourists were shocked. Your kindness must withstand the complexity of people\’s hearts! Things that seem to be kind may turn into bad things because of people\’s complexity and greed. You must carefully examine your kindness. What are the consequences of being kind? 4 Kindness must be measured. Once upon a time, there were two families who had a good relationship. One of them was much richer because he was more capable. This year, God became angry and sent down a curse. The poor family had no harvest, so they had to lie down and wait for death. At this time, the rich family bought a lot of grain, and thought that everyone was a neighbor, so they sent a bucket of rice to the poor family. , Saved the emergency. The poor family was very grateful to the rich, thinking that this was a life-saving benefactor! After surviving the most difficult time, the poor went to thank the rich while talking, saying that the seeds for next year had not yet been harvested. The family said generously: \”Well, I still have a lot of food here, just take another liter.\” \”The poor man gratefully took a liter of rice and went home. After returning home, his brother said, \”What can I do with this liter of rice? In addition to eating, there is simply not enough seeds for us to plant in the fields next year. This rich man is too much. Since he is so rich, he should give us more food and money. He only gives us so little. It is really bad. \”This word reached the ears of the rich man. He was very angry and thought to himself, \”I gave you so much food for free. Not only do you not thank me, you also hate me as an enemy. You are really not a human being.\” \”So, the two families who had a good relationship became enemies from then on. When a person is hungry and cold, if you give him a bowl of rice, it solves his big problem, and he will be grateful. However, if you continue to give him He will take it for granted. One bowl of rice is not enough, two bowls of rice is not enough, three bowls or four bowls of rice are not enough. This is often the case in life. When you provide help to someone for the first time, He will be grateful to you, and his gratitude will fade the second time; after many times, he will simply believe that this is what you should do for him, and even when there is no such help, he will You will feel resentment towards the person who helps you. Therefore, people’s kindness must be limited! When a person is unwilling to make progress and blindly asks for help, please put away your kindness in time!