Be wary of the seven types of mothers who specialize in cheating babies!

The first type: working too hard and living too tiredly. What my mother often talks about is \”Is it easy for me to pull you up so big?\” The word \”pull\” vividly expresses the hard work of raising children. I wake up early for my children at night, buy groceries and cook at dawn, send my children to school, help them with homework after class, and do laundry in the middle of the night. Diligence and simplicity are the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation and the outstanding qualities of a good wife and mother. Result: This will only increase the child\’s sense of lack and guilt, causing the child\’s relationship with money to be heavy and difficult, which will do more harm than good to the child\’s growth. A German mother’s experience in teaching integrity and self-discipline: Teach good children who are strong + independent + tolerant + thrifty. The second type: too selfless and the most sacrificial. Do you know the word \”child slave\”? After having a child, do you still know who you are? Many women have this feeling: After becoming a mother, they lose their self and become a satellite that only revolves around their children. I spend less time with my husband, less contact with friends, less contact with society, and less spare time interests. For the sake of my family and children, I turned down most dinner parties and travel activities organized by my work unit, and even gave up my originally brilliant career. Whether she is willing or forced, it seems that only such \”wholehearted\” dedication can be called a good and competent mother. Result: The relationship between husband and wife is seriously affected, and the mother often complains, affecting family harmony. The third type: Overprotecting children. Why do you always think that children are less independent and more dependent? Parents love their children very deeply and are afraid that their children will get hurt a little bit, so they are more protective of their children and cannot let go. The world is certainly complex and there are many dangers. But the child still doesn\’t know how to live without shelter from the wind and rain. Mothers are increasingly lamenting: What else is trustworthy in this society? Milk powder, skin care products, vaccines, campus… nothing is safe. I don’t trust society, so I don’t trust children either. Result: Overprotecting a child may seem smooth and comfortable, but in the end it makes him weak and closed-minded, timid and incompetent. The fourth type: Worrying too easily. For example, when taking the baby out, the mother often keeps nagging: Be careful when crossing the road to look at the cars, wear more clothes so as not to freeze, don’t touch things… In the previous example, the mother will not let the baby sleep. Don\’t worry, what should I do if I catch a cold? What to do if you sweat? The scene of us carrying schoolbags to and from school by ourselves when we were children may be difficult to see for a long time in the future. Looking around, all we see are parents and traffic jammed in front of the school gate waiting for their children to finish school. Worry about the child is the tightest chord in the mother\’s mind that she can never get rid of, making her physically and mentally exhausted. Result: \”Worrying everywhere is a curse.\” If you give your child positive hints, your child will be healthier and better. If you always give your child bad worries and hints, your child may really develop in a bad direction. The fifth type: Too responsible mothers pay a lot for their children and regard raising children as an arduous \”task\” to complete in life, but do not pay attention to enjoying the joy and fun brought by their children\’s innocence and childishness, and are relaxed and easy. Most people look at their children as \”surrounding them.\” The adults were surrounded by children, sometimes heading east, sometimes west, eating.Chasing and feeding, dressing and coaxing to wear. Rather than \”coexist and help\”, adults will not be influenced by children. No matter how young the child is, there is no concept of \”coaxing\”. If they don\’t cooperate, OK, then they will be punished. If you don\’t eat, you\’ll be hungry; if you don\’t wear clothes, you\’ll be cold.