Be your child’s emotional management coach and help him become an emotionally stable learner

01 Exercise from an early age to improve emotional regulation ability. When children grow up, they will have more energy to study. Elementary school students, especially children in lower grades, are not very strong in emotional regulation. If parents do not pay attention to communication skills, they will have a lot of time and energy to spend on other things. Necessary internal friction. When children lose their temper, adults get angry and scold them. Not only is it a waste of time, neither party learns anything, so next time it will be the same as before. Emotional regulation skills and parents\’ communication skills should be trained and improved from early childhood. If these are not exercised and improved now, and left to be solved in later grades, they will be mixed with the conditions of adolescence. When encountering something, parents should listen first and don\’t rush to educate him. Instead, let him state the facts and express himself. Then ask the child how to analyze it, what solutions he can come up with, and then discuss it together. In specific communication, parents must be perceptive and make adjustments based on feedback at any time, rather than just staying true to their own correctness. If I can guess what the child was feeling through the screen, then the parent is facing him and can see his eyes and expressions, so how can he not be able to feel his emotions. We started from early childhood and taught him how to deal with emotions and solve problems through every small incident, so that he could believe based on experience that every incident would be solved in the end. I have written a lot about early childhood education in the past few years. The role of parents is not to \”manage\” but to \”teach\” and to be their children\’s emotional management coaches. In the process of developing the child\’s brain\’s emotional regulation ability, teach him to identify, express, and adjust emotions along the way. In this way, he will grow into an older child with relatively stable emotions, and will be able to devote more psychological energy to learning in the future. 02 How can parents help their children learn emotional regulation? For example, when something happens, you don’t explode immediately, but you calm down and think of countermeasures. This ability is exercised in various small things encountered from childhood to adulthood. When you were a kid, you might have collapsed because things were lost or broken, or you didn\’t do things well. When you\’re older, it might be because you didn\’t do well in a test, what others said about you, or you failed in a competition… Here are some methods for your reference: 1. Practice help Tips for calming down and pausing: take a deep breath and count. For younger children, you can make up some fun practices based on their favorite stories or dolls. Explain this truth in a way that he can understand: We must first cool ourselves down, and then we can solve it. Asking questions to get children thinking is often a very effective way to adjust. Once thinking begins, the brain is no longer hijacked by the \”emotional part.\” 2. The child knows that he can cry safely, feel sad and frustrated, and that these emotions are allowed and no problem. But don\’t use inappropriate behavior to vent. Children who are allowed to have negative emotions can learn to regulate their emotions. 3. He must be able to identify and describe his emotions. Have vocabulary reserves and be able to express the level of proficiency using a score between 1 and 10. 4. After each incident, review and analyze to know what just happened. There is also a solution. In this way, he will analyze it himself in the future and know that most things can be solved and are not as hopeless as they first seemed. In multiple analyses, children learn to see things from multiple angles, learn that there are multiple possibilities, and perhapsIf there is information that is not understood, there is still room for remediation or further discussion. In short, crashing is useless, there is still something to do next, and in the end it\’s not really a big deal. The experience of each incident enriches his database and allows him to gradually form a view on the resolution process. Each incident is the basis for how he will deal with it in the future. Therefore, what parents have to do is not to try every means to help him avoid all problems, but to help him practice and enhance this ability when he encounters it! With growth as the purpose, every little thing has value and is wealth. By treating it this way, parents can not only stay calm themselves, but also convey this growth mindset to their children, allowing them to take the initiative to learn and grow from every incident! 03 Parents learn to manage their emotions, and they also teach their children to regulate their emotions. Many of the things I have written in the past are to enable parents to deal with their own anxiety and stress, and to turn themselves into a better \”environment\” for their children to grow up. This isn\’t just chicken soup. A parent’s level of anxiety has a direct impact on their children, especially younger children. Children learn by imitating, and the mirror neurons in their brains allow them to perceive more of other people\’s emotions and be affected by them. You can think of your anxiety and stress as sounds. How many decibels is it? How much noise do you allow in your child\’s environment? The younger the child, the weaker his ability to regulate his emotions. As he learns to regulate his emotions, he relies on the adults around him. If his parents and family are in a peaceful, quiet and happy state, he will be like living in an environment with fresh air, luxuriant plants, clear sky and light wind. He can explore the unknown, meet challenges and develop himself with more peace of mind. You will also learn to calm down faster when encountering situations. If a parent is grumpy, not only will they be affected, but they will attribute the problem to themselves: presumably they are bad and that is why they are grumpy. These factors in children\’s growth during early childhood will later learn to manifest themselves in primary school. Learning is not just about learning itself, but also other comprehensive reflections. Therefore, if parents are always irritable with their children because of their studies, that is putting the cart before the horse. Home should be a haven, and parents should be people who can help him face difficulties with a strong heart, instead of creating more obstacles for him in turn.