Before Father\’s Day approaches, I hope you can understand the huge disparity between fathers in China and the United States!

This weekend is Father\’s Day. In the United States, Father\’s Day and Mother\’s Day are equally meaningful days. Today my friend Susan in the United States sent me a photo of her children carefully preparing Father’s Day gifts for their dad. Although it is just a seemingly simple Father\’s Day card and a small handicraft, it can be seen that the children are expressing their love for their father with heart. Fathers in China and the United States express their love for their children in different ways. Lan Lan’s mother would like to share two short stories about father’s love today. There are many kinds of father\’s love. Which one do you belong to? 1. Chinese father – loves his children deeply. A friend of Lanlan\’s mother is a university teacher. She once told me such a story. When I first entered school as a freshman, there was a class meeting with the theme \”Stories That Make Me Warm.\” Many students in the class shared stories about strangers helping them and being moved. Only one student from Sichuan said that during the May 12 earthquake, they were in class at school and suddenly felt the whole classroom shaking, and everyone panicked. There were many people running down the stairs, and she was squeezed around in the crowd. Fortunately, she finally ran out in time, but the fear in her heart was overwhelming and she couldn\’t control it. She wanted to call home, but the communication signal was interrupted after the earthquake, making it impossible to make a call. After an unknown amount of time, she suddenly saw a familiar figure on the playground. It was her father, sweating profusely and panting, appearing in the school, pushing through people one after another in the panic, looking for her. At that moment, her tears couldn\’t stop pouring out. It turned out that her father was worried about her comfort and walked several hours to the school to make sure she was okay, regardless of the danger of aftershocks. She said that her father was usually very busy at work and very strict with her, so she often felt that he did not love her as much as she imagined. But at that time of panic and helplessness, her father\’s arrival made her feel at ease and warm. Because she knew that although her father was usually not good at words, in an extreme emergency, her first thought would still be her. This is a typical Chinese father\’s story. Chinese fathers are not good at expressing love to their children, but their love is so deep. \”Father\’s love is like a mountain\” is the best interpretation of Chinese fathers. 2. American Father – Companionship is the longest form of fatherly love. In China, \”men are at home and men are at home\” has been the Chinese people\’s definition of family for thousands of years. Taking care of the family and accompanying the children is the mother\’s role, while the father\’s task is to earn money to support the family. A while ago, Lan Lan\’s mother saw a video on the Internet about the comparison of parents\’ understanding of their children. In the video, fathers\’ understanding of their children was significantly lower than that of mothers. I once discussed with my American friend Susan’s husband Jack about the meaning of the role of “father” in the eyes of Americans. Jack said that the role of a father in American families is more like an older playmate for his children. While guiding his children, he also accompanies his children\’s growth. Jack is a partner in a law firm, extremely busy at work, and the father of three children. But his colleagues all know that he has an unwritten habitAs a habit, every Saturday is his fixed \”Father\’s Accompanying Day\”. On this day, he would try his best to put down his work and accompany his children. Sometimes he would take the children to the long-awaited children\’s paradise; sometimes he would take the children to watch their favorite baseball game; sometimes he would even just lead the children to do pruning at home. Flowers and plants in the yard. He said that time spent with his children is the most relaxing time for him after his busy work. Jack once played computer games with his son Michael all night long after he finished his final exams. This seemingly crazy move won great praise from his son Michael. Michael told me, \”Aunt Lanlan, do you know? My dad is really good at playing Minecraft (a computer game loved by American children). I never thought that my dad could be so good. Just one night Jack The omnipotent \”tall\” image successfully captured my son\’s heart. I later teased Jack, \”Michael told me that you are very good at playing Minecraft. He also quietly told me that you are now his new idol!\” \” Susan also helped, \”Yes, Michael now admires Jack. He is willing to tell Jack what happened at school. They are not father and son, they are brothers. \” Treating the \”father-son relationship\” like brothers, I think this is a higher level! In Chinese tradition, \”a strict father and a loving mother\” is the usual definition of parents for their children. But in the United States, companionship is the longest love Fatherly love, a father is more like an older playmate to his children! If you think about it carefully, it is indeed the case. In the United States, fathers spend significantly more time with their children than fathers in China. Lanlan’s mother’s friends in China often complain to me about my husband I am busy and need to go out to socialize frequently and cannot be with my children at home. Even at home, I am always bow-headed and never leave my mobile phone. In the United States, there are many very busy fathers around me. Whether they are CEO fathers of companies or busy lawyer fathers, they take time out every week. Spend a fixed amount of time with your children. The picture above is a comparison of the weekly time spent by American parents on work, housework and child care in 1965 and 2011. From the picture we can see that in the United States, although earning money to support a family The main force is still the father, but fathers are increasingly taking on the responsibility of taking care of children and doing housework. I once read such an article, Paul Raeburn, the authoritative American \”Science Column\” reporter, once spent After 8 years of research, it was found that fathers play an extremely important and irreplaceable role in the growth of children. In addition to being the breadwinner, the father is also the child\’s friend, mother\’s lover, and family\’s protector. Father\’s companionship can make people more happy. Children can feel their father\’s importance to them and the happiness and harmony of the family, which can give the child a feeling of love, and the feeling that the father gives to the child is exactly what the mother cannot give. In this upcoming weekend of Father\’s Day, I would like to ask all fathers Let’s put down the mobile phones in our hands, put down those unnecessary entertainment and spend time with our children!!! In the children’s hearts, father’s company is better than any expensiveToys and happy family time together are the best expression of love for children! Text｜Lan Lanma