Before my baby went to kindergarten, I worked hard with him to do these things

In a while, many babies will start going to kindergarten. Many mothers left me messages saying that they wanted to write about what their children need to prepare before going to kindergarten. Ask the boy if he can enter school a year later? Is there any way to help children with separation anxiety? One article certainly cannot answer them all. Today, let’s talk about some preparations that need to be made. Maybe you are ready, and the age at which your child enters school and separation anxiety are no longer a problem. Separation is always a particularly sad topic. But this is what growth must experience. What we need to do is not to push our children away, but to prepare together before separation. Little children, how they long to be by their parents\’ side and never be separated. If the little one is about to go to school, you must be mentally prepared to help your child fall in love with kindergarten. I still remember the summer vacation before Xiao Xiaoyu was going to kindergarten. I took him to the school he was going to twice. The first time outside the fence, he sat on my head and saw the big playground and slide. He was very happy. The second time was on the day of registration, in the kindergarten. The female teacher who received us in the admissions department took him around the school. The little guy said he liked this kindergarten at that time. One day I said to him seriously: \”You will go to kindergarten in one month! Dad is so envious of you. You will be able to see many children soon!\” \”I don\’t want to go! I want to be at home with you!\” \”Then do you remember that super big slide?\” \”Remember!\” \”I think the slide in your kindergarten is the biggest I have ever seen. It must be fun!\” \”I want to build a bigger slide!\” \”That\’s great! Dad also wants to play with the slide you built. But do you know what is needed to build a slide?\” \”It requires tall pillars and a slide.\” \”Yes, but one more important thing is needed Something. Because you said you want to build the highest slide.\” \”What is that?\” \”It requires knowledge. It can tell you how to build it safely. It requires knowledge of physics and mathematics.\” \”Oh!\” \”That\’s what you go to school for. To acquire this kind of knowledge, going to kindergarten is just the first step. In the future, you will have to go to elementary school, middle school, university, and even study for a Ph.D. That\’s a book, and dad is talking about a kind of school.\” \”Haha, it\’s so funny.\” He also laughed. To make him fall in love with kindergarten. Conversations like this happen often. In fact, even if they are well prepared, young children will still be nervous. The words of parents can sometimes alleviate the child\’s psychology. We should not always reason with our children, saying that they must go to school. You see, other children have gone, so why don’t you go? Or if you don\’t want to go, forget it, then stay at home every day and don\’t go out to play, thereby threatening the child. You can be more patient and speak nicely. To make children fall in love with kindergarten, we also need to help them understand the role of teachers. Children will think, will the teacher be like their mother, or will the teacher take you away, like a vicious witch, as some people say when they are scary? We have many adults who like to scare children. For example, if a child disobeys, they say the police will arrest you, or the teacher will spank you. originallyThe person who protects and educates children is portrayed as the person that children need to fear. The child must not run away when he sees the teacher. So stop this kind of joking. The first contact with your child\’s teacher may be in kindergarten. It may also be that a teacher comes to your home for a pre-entry home visit. This is a very important moment. I still remember the first time my son’s head teacher, teaching teacher and childcare teacher came to my house. We took the little guy to tidy up the house. I told him, \”We clean to welcome distinguished guests. The teacher is a person who needs our respect.\” The little guy cleaned very seriously and then welcomed the teacher\’s arrival. The conversation that day was pleasant. Xiao Xiaoyu also played with the teaching teacher in his room and introduced his picture book. It was obvious that he was a little deliberately funny that day. That\’s to get the teachers\’ attention. I think he\’s ready to go to school. On the day he went to school, I said to him: \”If you have any questions at school, you can ask the teachers. You can also tell your parents when you go home. Don\’t be afraid. The teachers like you very much.\” When a child leaves home and leaves his parents\’ Holding someone in your arms, standing in a strange environment will create a sense of tension in your heart. What to do next? In addition to complying with the instructions issued by the teacher or the school\’s schedule. There are still some things that you have to do yourself. Therefore, we must allow children to have basic self-care abilities. Self-care can start with dressing and undressing yourself. Because most kindergarten students take naps and put on pajamas to sleep. If there are 20 children in a class, the teacher will be too busy. If the child doesn\’t know how to put it on, he can only wait there and watch other children put it on and leave one by one. The second thing is to eat by yourself. Don\’t underestimate this. When my son\’s class reaches middle class, there are still children who need to be fed by the teacher. The reason is that he will not be fed or eaten. Teachers tell parents to train their children to eat well at home. As a result, the child’s mother said there was no way to do it. In the end, it still needs to be fed by the mother or the teacher. Feeding is like a window. You will find that this child relies on adults to help him in many places. Another very important self-care ability is to be able to go to the toilet by yourself, wipe your own butt, and wash your hands. This thing seems to be more difficult than the previous two things. But parents still have to help their children train their toilet skills. Maybe the child can\’t wipe it clean after practicing and will still stain his underwear. But what\’s the problem? Children can be encouraged to improve again and again. Because they can\’t go to the toilet, the child will look for the teacher. If the teacher is delayed for a while because of something. He might pull it himself. Then you will be laughed at by your classmates and you will become nervous. In the end, I didn’t dare to go to kindergarten. In these three aspects of self-care. Parents need to start training their children one or two years in advance. This cannot be achieved overnight. And during the training process, don’t think that you can just let go. Letting children do it by themselves is not the best way. Parents have to take their children for a while. There is a concept of \”zone of proximal development\” in psychology. In this zone, parents can set the right difficulty for him so that he can \”reach it in one jump\”, so that he can gradually develop good abilities. that is,When exercising children\’s autonomy, you don\’t just ignore it and let the children do it independently. It’s not like doing it directly for the children. Instead, parents need to lend a hand at the right time, so that their children can successfully complete the task and learn the method. Take training a little fish to wear clothes as an example. Zipper clothes, button clothes, and pullovers all have different ways of wearing them. So I remember that I was trying to teach him to wear a T-shirt. He took off his own over and over again, and then showed him how to put it on his head first, and then his hands. Or put the handle first and then get in. He also learned it over and over again, but sometimes he would become unhappy after learning it a few times. But he saw that I taught him seriously and practiced over and over again. Finally learned it. When children have the ability to take care of themselves, it does not mean that children can do everything by themselves. In many cases, children need to learn to ask for help and have the ability to express themselves smoothly. For example, I can clearly tell the teacher what I want to do. Some children don\’t dare to tell the teacher if they want to drink water or use the toilet. As a result, they pee their pants in a hurry and just stand there, not knowing what to do. At home, parents can play some of these role-playing games with their children. The mother plays the role of teacher, and the child asks the teacher for help. Then let the children become familiar with how to speak and how to say hello. You won’t be nervous when you get to kindergarten. Exercise children\’s learning ability. Help your child develop a study schedule. There are two benefits to making this. The first is to exercise children\’s learning ability. After adapting to the environment in kindergarten, children still need to adapt to the teaching progress of kindergarten. Because kindergartens will still carry out some course learning, such as language, art, and handicrafts. So it was the year before Xiao Xiaoyu went to kindergarten. We both made a schedule together. It is divided into 5 days a week, one hour each in the morning and afternoon, and one task. For example, Monday morning is Chinese language (mainly the Three Character Classic, poetry, literacy, etc.) with the purpose of exercising his memory and accumulating language knowledge. In the afternoon it is time to draw. We have a blackboard at home and let him write and draw by himself. Others include English time, math time, manual time, etc. Each time is not long, but the arrangements will be rich. This requires parents to prepare some excellent learning resources that can meet their children\’s learning needs and curiosity. Another benefit is developing your child’s sleep schedule. After entering kindergarten, changes in life patterns are also an important reason why children have difficulty adapting. Because before entering the kindergarten, the baby is very free at home. He eats when he is hungry, sleeps when he is sleepy, and plays when he wants. There are no restrictions. So having a study schedule like this can be of great help. Of course, you can also read some special picture books and stories to your children, such as \”Little Monsters Go to School\”, \”Magic Kiss\”, \”Falling in Love with Kindergarten\”, etc. to prepare your children for separation. By the way, another preparation is that the parents themselves must be mentally prepared for separation. If you don\’t want your child to be okay, you will be worried all day long and suffer internally, which will actually affect your child. We must know that one day, our children will leave us and find their own lives. What we can do is to support silently and watch the departing figures without chasing them, just keep watching.