Before the age of 6, never let your children do these 3 things! It will be too late if you don\’t pay attention

When Youma was chatting with Luo Jing, a doctor of child psychology from the Chinese Academy of Sciences a few days ago, she learned a new term – \”moist cement period\”. This means that during the period from 3 to 6 years old, a child\’s personality, ideals and lifestyle are all in a critical forming period, and can be shaped at will like a ball of wet cement. But once this period has passed, nearly 80% of a child\’s personality and habits will \”solidify\” throughout his or her life, and it is really difficult to change them. That\’s why there is a saying that \”look older at the age of three, and look older at the age of seven.\” . If you think about it carefully, many of the ingrained bad habits in adults can always be traced back to their childhood. If you educate your child correctly before he is 6 years old, he will be correct throughout his life. Mothers must pay attention to the following things. Before the age of 6, you can get a pen early, but you don\’t have to write early. \”Don\’t let your children lose at the starting line\” is a very firm belief in the hearts of many parents, so their children still have to write in the first grade. Before I even started, I took various pinyin classes and literacy classes. I often hear mothers around me proudly telling people: \”My child can already write a lot of words, better than the first grade!\” It is certainly a joyful thing for children to learn to write early, but there is one thing that must be done. A reminder to parents: For children under 6 years old, the finger bones and hand muscles are not fully developed, and many fine movements still need to be practiced slowly. But holding a pen and writing is a test of hand strength, finger joint flexibility, sitting posture, etc. If parents let their children learn to write too early and do not know how to correct their children\’s posture, it is easy for their children to develop wrong pen-holding postures and sitting postures, which will have a very negative impact on the children\’s tender finger bones and spine. Improper sitting posture when writing is also a cause of spinal deformation, uneven shoulders, hunchback, myopia and other diseases. Suggestions for parents: Children can be exposed to pencils and paintbrushes before the age of 6, but there is no need to write. Just let the children paint and draw easily and freely, and they can also play some small games of tracing dotted lines into solid lines. This can not only exercise the children\’s hand muscles and joints, but also increase the children\’s interest in \”holding a pen\” and prepare them mentally for the upcoming elementary school. Before the age of 6, don’t be exposed to too much primary school knowledge. One of your mother’s friends is a kindergarten teacher. She has been very distressed recently because parents often complain to them: “They don’t teach their children knowledge, and they lead them to play blindly all day long.” I have been in kindergarten for two years and can’t even do four arithmetic.” “I pay so much money a year just to ask them to babysit my children.” I think every parent has had the above doubts and confusions. But in fact, it is not that kindergartens deliberately do not teach knowledge, but that the state has relevant policies and regulations. The \”Guidelines for the Learning and Development of Children Aged 3 to 6\” points out that early childhood education must comply with the laws of physical and mental development of children and try to avoid the tendency of \”primary schooling\” of early childhood education. Anyone who is engaged in education knows the \”third grade effect\”: some children perform particularly well in the first and second grades, but after reaching the third grade, their performance drops significantly, and they even become tired of studying. Why is this so? Because some children have learned all the knowledge of first and second grade in preschool, so they wait until they actually enter first and second grade.When you are young, you feel that you have learned everything and know everything, and it is easy to develop the habit of not listening carefully in class and losing concentration. By the time they reach third grade, these children have almost used up all their \”old resources\”. Coupled with the bad habits they have developed for a long time, they can no longer keep up with the rhythm, so they are prone to giving up on themselves and being bored and tired of learning. Suggestions for parents: If you really want to make some preparations before the age of 6, cultivating your children\’s good reading and expression skills is a very good choice. You can read some simple and interesting picture books with your children to gradually develop the habit of independent and conscious reading and cultivate their interest in reading. In addition, after the child has finished reading the picture book, talk to the child more about the story in the picture book and guide the child to tell the story completely and fluently. This is very helpful in cultivating the child\’s sense of language and expression ability. Before the age of 6, children should know where they got things from and where to put them back after use. Many children who have gone to college have a messy personal life. Changes of clothes, shoes and socks are piled up casually, and quilts, The pillow cover was dirty and shiny, and the desk was piled with instant noodles, snacks, and drink bottles… This is because I haven\’t developed the most basic storage and organization habits since I was a child. Such children lack planning and organization, both in their studies and in their future work. When seeing children throwing toys, picture books, and stationery everywhere, many mothers will always comfort themselves in their hearts and say: \”The child is still young, it will be fine when he grows up.\” \”It is important for the child to study. We will help with other things.\” Let him take care of it so that the children will not be distracted\”… Under this kind of pampering and accommodation, once the bad habit of being sloppy is formed, it is almost impossible to get rid of it. Advice for parents: Children aged 3 to 6 are actually fully capable of packing and organizing their own belongings. Mothers can buy some cute storage boxes for their children. After the children have played with the toys, encourage them to pack them up themselves. Children should also learn to clean up the picture books and paint brushes they used, where they took them out, and then put them away. Where to go back. A child who has lived in a clean and organized environment since childhood will have a very regular and planned life in study and life. This is a very valuable habit and education. The fundamental purpose of preschool education is not to prepare knowledge for primary school, but to allow children to \”play well\”, develop basic living habits, and have basic reading and communication skills. These are good things for children to use throughout their lives!