Before the child turns 18, if parents cultivate these four abilities, the child will benefit from them throughout his life.

As parents, we want our children to study well now and make progress every day. We don’t want them to be rich, but we want them to have more choices. Therefore, we spend time with our children doing homework and enrolling them in interest classes. We only hope that they will be better and have a better life than us when they become adults. We always think about cultivating children\’s learning, but we don\’t know that the following four abilities have a decisive impact on children\’s future. 1. Analysis and summary ability Analysis and summary ability is a very important learning ability. This ability determines whether a person can become an excellent person. why? Because we are all ordinary people, and the characteristic of ordinary people is that in new fields and in the face of new knowledge, we will definitely make mistakes, and we are all similar and make similar mistakes. But what you do after you make a mistake is completely different. Some people can constantly learn from their mistakes, draw nutrients from their mistakes, continue to make progress, and stand out, while some people can no longer move forward. A survey of senior high school candidates showed that almost all top students have a notebook of wrong questions, because they have already deeply realized that making mistakes is a normal situation. After making a mistake, the most important thing is to analyze why they are like this. Only by knowing what is wrong can we change for the better. In school, we often hear \”summary, summary, analysis of wrong questions, drawing inferences from one example…\”; in society, we often hear others write \”work summary, review after the end of the project…\”. People who have the habit and ability to analyze and summarize are more likely to stand out than those at the same stage. Isn’t this what we expect from our children? How to cultivate children\’s analysis and summary ability from elementary school? After changing the concept, the method is very simple. Parents only need to cherish their children\’s wrong questions, typos, and mistakes. Do not regard \”wrong\” as \”evil\”, but help children learn the process of making mistakes; correcting; regular reflection (such as after homework is completed, the end of a week of study, after exams), and help children reflect on what they were thinking at that time , why it went wrong, and what is the solution; if it makes another mistake, analyze it again, is it the same reason as last time, or is it a new reason? What does the correct approach look like? Be patient and gentle and keep doing this. Liumi learning software always helps children record every wrong question and provides training by drawing inferences from one example. The reason why I insist on doing this is because this will make the child truly make progress. 2. The ability to get along with friends. Everyone’s success is inseparable from the help of others. Whether others are willing to help you depends on your communication skills. Children\’s communication skills are actually very good by nature. When children are young, it is easy for them to get familiar with their peers and to identify who likes them. This is because children are inherently sensitive. There is a saying in psychology that children are born diplomats. But as children grow older, some children\’s ability gradually weakens. How can we maintain our children\’s communication skills? It is recommended to give children time and space so that they can socialize with friends of the same age. In life, don\’t just think about studying and forget that people need to interact with others. 3. The ability of overall planning is very important if you want to be a leader in the future. Overall planning simply means arranging time reasonably and coordinating people and things to achieve your goals.This ability sounds very lofty, but in fact, children exercise this ability every day. The training is called \”Should I do my homework first or play first?\” Completing homework not only allows children to learn knowledge, but also gives children the opportunity to learn coordination. Therefore, in the future, parents can no longer just check whether the homework is completed, how many questions are correct and how many are wrong, but they must also observe whether the children can arrange their time. Help him gradually learn to arrange his own play and study. Here is a reminder to parents: If you expect your children to do their homework every time and never catch up on homework, it is too perfectionistic. If your child can arrange and return homework by himself, but if he occasionally misses or catches up on homework, don\’t be harsh on him. If you find that your child always behaves like this, help her analyze what causes it and what solutions are available to help her. 4. Self-acceptance We all like and appreciate people with high emotional intelligence, and people with high emotional intelligence have strong self-acceptance abilities. Self-acceptance, simply put, is our ability to accept negative emotions. When children grow up, and in our own lives, we will encounter many things that make people uncomfortable, sad, frustrating, and incomprehensible. Separate from family and friends. It took others 10 minutes to solve the problem, but I still couldn\’t solve it after spending an hour. Someone tells you: I don\’t like you. Someone tells you: You can\’t do it, find someone else. You reviewed for 3 days and got 85 points on the test. Others reviewed for 1 hour and got 100 points on the test. …We will definitely encounter such things that make us feel frustrated, angry, angry, and sad. If we encounter something like this, do we blame ourselves for not doing well enough, not working hard enough, not being serious enough, or do we blame others for why they are like this and that others have harmed us? Children with high self-acceptance have a clear understanding of themselves and will not indulge in self-blame or complain too much about others. Only when you don\’t get entangled in trouble can you move forward without fear of wind and rain.