Behind all children\’s emotions, there is an underlying need

\”When my child loses his temper, I get a headache!\” – Many mothers complained in the WeChat group that children\’s emotional problems have become a common problem in modern families. Is the child acting unreasonably, or is there an unmet need behind it? 01 Lost Home Once upon a time, there was a peaceful forest where various animals lived. There was a little bird that sang happily in the forest every morning. Its crisp song echoed among the trees, bringing joy to all the animals. One day, the bird suddenly stopped singing, became restless, and even wailed from time to time. The Lion King was very worried after hearing the news. He summoned all the doctors and wise men in the forest to try to find out why the birds stopped singing. Doctors came to check, but no one could diagnose the bird\’s problem. \”This is really strange,\” the Lion King said with a frown, \”What happened to the little bird?\” One day, an old wise man came to the Lion King. The wise man observed the little bird carefully, pondered for a moment, and then asked: \”Little bird, where is your home?\” The little bird lowered his head, with tears in his eyes, and whispered: \”My home…my tree quilt Cut it off.\” The Lion King and the animals present were stunned. No one expected that the bird\’s emotional change was due to losing its home. The Lion King was shocked and said: \”That\’s it!\” After hearing the news, the Lion King immediately called a meeting of the animals in the forest. He said seriously: \”We must find a solution. The bird\’s home has been destroyed, no wonder she no longer sings.\” During the meeting, everyone expressed their opinions. The monkey jumped up and down and said: \”We can find a new tree for the bird and let her settle down again.\” The elephant slowly shook his head: \”But the new tree cannot replace the bird\’s original home. We We need to find out who cut down the tree and make sure it never happens again.\” The fox stood up and asked a key question: \”We should find out why the tree was cut down in the first place. An accident, or was it intentional?\” The animals present began to discuss, and various opinions emerged. The Lion King said in his majestic voice: \”Quiet, everyone. We must not only solve the problem of the bird, but also ensure that other residents of the forest do not suffer the same fate.\” The meeting went on late into the night, and finally everyone reached a consensus. They decided to split up to investigate why the tree was cut down, and at the same time set out to find a suitable new home for the bird. During this process, the Lion King kept reminding everyone: \”Every animal\’s home is important, and we can\’t let this happen again.\” Although the results of the meeting have not yet been implemented, the Lion King\’s determination and the unity of the animals , let the little bird see hope. Although she lost her home, her friends in the forest gave her endless warmth and support. 02 Xiao Ming’s Secret Xiao Li is a 35-year-old mother. Her son Xiao Ming has been losing his temper because of trivial things in school recently. Teachers complained to Xiaoli one after another, saying that Xiaoming\’s problems were getting more and more serious. \”Xiao Ming got into an argument with a classmate again today because of a pencil,\” the head teacher, Mr. Zhang, said helplessly. \”We really don\’t know what to do.\” Xiaoli was very confused and anxious after hearing the news.. She tried to communicate with Xiao Ming, but every time she asked about the reason, Xiao Ming was always silent or vague. One dinner, Xiaoli finally couldn\’t help but asked: \”Xiao Ming, why are you always angry at school? Is there anything that bothers you?\” Xiao Ming lowered his head and bit his lips without speaking. Xiaoli waited patiently, hoping that her son would open up. Finally, Xiao Ming said softly: \”I just feel…very lonely.\” This sentence shocked Xiaoli, and she continued to ask: \”Why do I feel lonely? My mother is at home every day.\” Tears began to form in Xiao Ming\’s eyes. Wandering around, he whispered: \”But you work overtime every day and come back very late. I don\’t like to be at home alone.\” Xiaoli then realized that Xiaoming\’s emotional problems may be related to her working hours. She began to reflect on her time schedule and tried to find a balance, but at this time she still had not found a concrete solution. Xiao Ming\’s emotional distress made Xiao Li see a huge problem hidden in daily life. Children\’s inner world requires parents\’ attention and understanding. Only by listening carefully can we discover the secrets behind their emotions. 03 The needs behind emotions Emotions are the only channel through which we connect to the world. Birds become irritable when they lose their home, and Xiao Ming loses his temper at school because of the lack of his mother\’s company. Children\’s emotions are a way for them to express their needs. As parents, we need to pay more attention to our children\’s inner voices rather than just solving superficial problems. Only by understanding and meeting children\’s needs can their emotional problems be truly solved. \”The art of education lies not in imparting skills, but in motivating, awakening and inspiring.\” -Albert Einstein Moms, what do you think of your children\’s emotional problems? 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