Behind every \”zero score dad\” there is a \”perfect score mom\”

In the past two days, a world war broke out at home because of a small incident. My sister wanted to divorce her brother-in-law. The reason turned out to be that the brother-in-law refused to get up in the middle of the night to make milk powder for their three-year-old daughter. The whole family pointed the finger at the brother-in-law, accusing him of not being considerate of his sister\’s hard work. Amidst the angry accusations from the family, the brother-in-law helplessly uttered a sentence that shocked me: \”I can\’t do it.\” The child is over two years old and still doesn’t know how to make milk powder? When I first heard this sentence, it was incredible. Even my aunt had learned the skills of making milk powder and changing diapers through her ears and eyes. This father who had been a father for two years could not even make milk powder? Sure enough, these words aroused my sister\’s anger: \”You fart! Can\’t you learn? Are you mentally retarded? You ask me to do everything by myself. Emotional children just call me mom and don\’t care if you call me dad.\” Right?\” In the end, the brother-in-law couldn\’t bear the disturbance and angrily slammed the door and left, leaving his sister alone at home crying silently. Looking around, there are many fathers like this around me. My best friend often complains to me that her husband is so clumsy when making milk powder, adding scalding hot water to the bottle, changing diapers and wiping them clean, let alone taking a shower. Got a job. It is a great benefit to expect her husband to be able to take care of herself and not cause any trouble to her. In fact, it seems that it has become the daily life of many expectant mothers to despise their father for not being able to help, and at the same time blame him bitterly for his unwillingness to help. As a result, more and more mothers have evolved from novice mothers to all-powerful \”full-score mothers\”, while more and more fathers have degenerated from novice fathers to \”zero-score dads\” who are good for nothing. When we start to look back on our past lives, it is not difficult to find that the collaborative parenting of mothers and mothers-in-law is one of the main culprits leading to this phenomenon. Think about it carefully, when did your brother-in-law start to avoid taking care of the children at home more and more? When my nephew was born, I was inexperienced because it was my first child, and the four adults in the family looked a little confused. I was responsible for taking care of my sister during her confinement, my mother was responsible for cooking and taking care of the child, and my brother-in-law was off work. I will help you a little bit when I come back in the future. However, for some reason, women seem to have a natural uneasiness about men taking care of children. Whenever her brother-in-law comes into contact with the children, her sister will look at her like a criminal. Conversations like this can often be heard during confinement. When holding the baby, \”hold the baby\’s head with your hands to prevent it from falling down.\” When feeding milk powder, \”I tell you to hold the baby upright or he will spit it out later.\” When changing diapers, \” It\’s the other way around. Wrap the end with the sticker up. Can you do it?\” When my sister was out of confinement and it was easier to do activities, it became \”Forget it, don\’t touch her, or me. Come on.\” Gradually, my sister became more and more skilled in raising children, and my brother-in-law also gave up the right to handle everything related to the children. While the elder sister took over all the matters related to the child, she sneered at her brother-in-law, who was unable to intervene. As time went by, even the brother-in-law himself began to doubt whether he could take care of the child well. A man\’s ability to raise children seems to be gradually deteriorating as he is arranged again and again. At the same time, menThe role of a man as a father in the family will also gradually be weakened. Behind every \”zero score dad\” there is a \”perfect score mom\”. When the niece was two years old, her sister returned from her role as a stay-at-home mother to that of a working woman. The dual identities of mother and working woman finally reminded her that her child still had a father to rely on. However, as she faced growing problems, she gradually Many two-year-old babies are accustomed to being a bystander, and the \”zero-point father\” with zero hands-on ability is obviously unable to meet the needs. In fact, father and mother, as the two core members of the family, play an irreplaceable role in the family. The father\’s impact on the child is more profound and lasting. This is how other people’s children are raised. After Where Are We Going, Dad? aired, a little girl named Duoduo bloomed into my heart like a flower. She is sensible, obedient, polite, has excellent grades, and is good at everything. Isn’t this the child from another family that every parent dreams of! But how are other people’s children raised? Huang Lei\’s parenting experience has also begun to be widely discussed. One of the words that impressed me deeply is \”The more dad does housework, the better his children will be!\” Huang Lei often shares his time with his family on Weibo. Yes, it is not difficult for us to find that Teacher Huang Lei is a very family-loving person. He takes care of all the affairs of the family. His presence is always indispensable in the growth and education of his two daughters. As a more dignified presence in the family, the father plays a guiding role for the children. Letting the father participate in every little thing about parenting will set an excellent example for the children! Your appearance determines your child\’s future mate selection criteria. When children choose a mate, they will be unknowingly affected by their family of origin. The relationship between the father and mother determines the children\’s understanding of intimate relationships. When the mother takes care of the housework, the children will think that it is natural for women to take care of the children. When the father actively participates in the process of raising children, the children will establish the concept of equality between men and women. Boys who grow up in this environment will have a greater sense of responsibility and participation in family life, while girls will have a more equal status in their families in the future and have a richer and broader living space. The way you look determines your child\’s future career choice. The father\’s performance in the family will especially have a significant impact on the child\’s future career choice. In families where the father does not take care of the children, the awareness of inequality between men and women will be left in the children\’s memory, and then the children will have obvious gender overtones when making career choices. For example, girls are afraid to engage in challenging jobs, while boys are ashamed of engaging in clerical jobs; while fathers take the initiative to share housework and take care of their children\’s families, children have significantly greater career choices. Some. A study by Yale University shows that children raised by their fathers tend to have higher IQs, higher emotional intelligence, more confidence, and better performance, and will be more likely to succeed in society. In this case, dads should take action quickly! To cultivate a “perfect father”, you can refer to these tips: Show weakness when it’s time to show weakness Why do men have to show weakness as soon as they reach the age of parenting?Is there nothing on the road? When mothers are omnipotent, fathers can naturally enjoy the fruits of mother\’s parenting with peace of mind. Therefore, mothers with full marks show weakness when they should, and often reveal their \”shortcomings and shortcomings\” in raising children in front of fathers. Dads who can\’t stand it will naturally take the initiative to cooperate. Respect the way fathers raise their children. Many mothers are naturally uneasy about fathers raising their children, as if men are savage beasts and their children will be in danger if they are left in the hands of their fathers. Please put aside your prejudices! Everyone has different ways of raising children, especially men and women. Under the condition of ensuring safety, let fathers take care of their children in their own way. Only fathers who enjoy the fun of taking care of their children can stimulate her desire to take care of their children. Clear instructions and more encouragement. Many fathers are indeed not as good as mothers in taking care of their babies. At this time, every complex instruction needs to be clarified to help fathers enter the state of being a baby daddy faster. For example, when brewing milk powder, tell dads that the temperature of the milk needs to be tested on the back of their hands first. After feeding the milk, teach dads step by step how to pat their babies. In fact, these simple skills only need to be taught once, and dads can master them very well. To master, the next step is to give dads more time and space to try and become proficient. At the same time, you also need to find the right time to praise your father, \”The baby seems to like playing with you very much!\” \”The baby is more obedient when you take care of it than when I take care of it!\” Once you have enough face, you will gain confidence. I believe it. Fathers will also go further and further on the road of raising children. On the road to raising children, we are often kidnapped by many thoughts. There are a thousand ways to raise a child, and education is not a test. There is no fixed formula. The best education for children is nothing more than parents\’ cooperation and participation in family life. This kind of loving teaching through words and deeds can truly benefit children for a lifetime.