Behind the carelessness lies the learning killer! Heal your child in one minute

When test scores are not ideal, some children will say: \”It\’s all because of carelessness!\” The subtext is: It\’s not because I\’m stupid or because I don\’t know the questions, I\’m just careless! Qinglanjun also often hears parents say to their children: \”This child is very smart, but a little careless!\” The implication is: Carelessness is not a disease, just pay attention next time! Many veteran teachers with rich teaching experience have discovered that if children and parents have this attitude towards \”carelessness\”, then no matter how many times there are times, the children will continue to be careless and will never get good grades. Because the so-called \”carelessness\” is often just a fig leaf for a weak foundation and unskilled knowledge. For example, when we go home from get off work, we won\’t get lost even if we are absent-minded. Why? Because we are so familiar with our route home that we have formed a conditioned reflex that is not controlled by consciousness. In the same way, if a child is familiar with the subject knowledge, even if he is not so careful during the exam, the probability of making mistakes will still be much lower. Therefore, if a child is prone to carelessness, parents must not downplay or take it seriously. This kind of attitude of parents can easily give children an unintentional hint, allowing children to easily use \”I am careless\” to cover up and excuse their own learning problems. Children who are prone to \”carelessness\” usually have two major problems. 1. Weak learning ability. For example, in mathematics learning, some children may miscalculate some simple additions, subtractions, multiplications and divisions. This is not so much caused by \”carelessness\” as it is caused by weak calculation ability. Another example is Chinese language learning. Some teachers ask children to rearrange sentences that are arranged in a disorderly manner, but some children just can\’t arrange them. This is because the logical thinking ability is not strong, resulting in the inability to see the connection between sentences. If parents do not carefully analyze the learning ability deficiencies behind the mistakes, but simply attribute them to \”carelessness\”, then it will be difficult to detect and fill the gaps, leading to more and more \”debts\”, and eventually a mountain of debt that will be difficult to pay off. Countermeasures: It is a good choice to prepare wrong questions. Most of the exercises in the textbooks and the exercises assigned by the teacher are representative assignments. These assignments often contain important knowledge points in a certain aspect. Therefore, the mistakes children make in their homework often reflect gaps in knowledge. Parents can urge their children to classify the questions that they usually do wrong due to \”carelessness\”, collect the homework and test papers of a certain period of time and analyze them carefully to see which knowledge they do not know, which knowledge they understand but cannot use, and what other knowledge they have. Targeted training. The knowledge you don\’t know must be made up in time, and the knowledge you know must be \”understood\” to \”familiar\”. For example, if your child often loses points because he misreads the questions, he might as well do some review exercises. 2. Poor study habits Sometimes parents will find a strange phenomenon in their children\’s homework books: when they practice writing a word, the first half is correct, but the second half is wrong. This is because children are not paying attention when doing homework and want to run out to play before they finish writing. Some children started playing with erasers and rulers halfway through the questions. They wrote while playing and filled in the wrong answers. Many of the questions can actually be answered correctly when doing homework, but mistakes are made in the exam. This is because there is no time pressure when doing homework and there is sufficient time.time inspection. The exam time is limited, and when you are nervous, it is easy to make mistakes while busy. Therefore, it is not accurate to just say that a child is \”careless\”. In fact, it is bad study habits such as distraction, playfulness, and procrastination that lead to his \”sloppyness.\” Countermeasures: When doing homework, you should ask your child to \”correct once and quickly\”. Don\’t check procrastinatingly, and don\’t correct endlessly. In this way, he will have no time to play with other things. Parents can also set a time limit for their children to do homework. After this time, they will not be allowed to do any homework they want to do. You may not be used to doing this at first, but if you stick to it, the number of points lost due to being busy during the exam will be greatly reduced. Study habits can be consciously trained in daily life. For example, when a child is doing one thing, do not easily ask him to do another thing, but only do one thing at a time, which is helpful to train the child\’s attention. of. Another example is when asking a child to eat, asking him to \”do it once he is asked\” instead of urging him over and over again. This can improve the child\’s procrastination. Fundamentally speaking, the way to combat \”carelessness\” is to train children\’s concentration. How to train concentration? Today Qing Lanjun shares a very practical method – the 1-minute memory test. The rules are simple: let the child prepare paper and pen, and the parent opens a large chart with unrelated words written on it. Let the child take 1 minute to memorize as many of these words as possible in his or her brain. After 1 minute, put away the chart and let the child start writing silently to see how much he can write silently. During the test, you will find that the children\’s eyes widen, they hold their breath, and even the most active children participate with full concentration. Through this test, almost all children will discover a powerful self. Those children who usually do not like to recite will suddenly discover: It turns out that I can still remember so much! They will get a small sense of accomplishment in their hearts. During his more than 20 years as a teacher and principal, the well-known education scholar Wei Shusheng has continuously guided students to play the \”1-minute memory competition\” and achieved amazing results. He explained that because in the state of \”competition\”, the interference caused by one\’s own self-repression, inertia, and emotional fluctuations are minimized, the potential memory ability is easier to develop than usual. This is the power of concentration. . Why only 1 minute? Instead of 2 minutes or 3 minutes? Let’s first look at an interesting little story: There is a couple who are very loving, but the only conflict between them is that the husband never does housework, which makes the wife very distressed. She thought of a way to try to change her husband. One day before going to work, she washed the rice, put it in the rice cooker, but left it unplugged and went to work. After get off work, she did not go home immediately, but called her husband: \”I worked overtime today and will be home a little later. You just need to plug in the power and we will have dinner in time.\” The husband felt that this was not something he could do easily. It’s okay, so I readily agreed. After the wife came home, she hugged her husband warmly and praised him: \”You are so good! We were able to have this dinner in time all because of your great move of plugging in the power.\” After a while, the wife only put the rice Wash well and ask husbandPut the rice into the rice cooker and plug it in. The husband felt that this was no more troublesome than before, so he cooked the rice properly after returning home. Slowly, his wife left more and more work, and she would praise him every time. Slowly, my husband made more and more progress and changed his attitude towards housework. It became a habit for him to go home and cook every day. The cleverness of this wife is that she used the \”chain shaping\” effect in educational psychology to divide the goal into several small goals. Every time a small goal is completed, feedback and reinforcement must be provided. The same is true for training children\’s concentration. Only by working together with step-by-step and achievement incentives can children develop stronger concentration through self-affirmation. Because anyone can have the ability to concentrate for one minute, when children taste the joy of success, they will be more motivated to carry out the next step of training. After that, you can conduct 2-minute, 5-minute, and 10-minute games to gradually exercise your child\’s concentration.