Behind the popularity of scrambled eggs with tomatoes is this: How terrible are children who cannot take care of themselves?

Since last night, an advertisement from China Merchants Bank, \”No matter how big the world is, it is no bigger than a plate of scrambled eggs with tomatoes\” has been dominating the screen in WeChat Moments. Several friends who have studied abroad have forwarded it to me late at night, with the caption \” Crying\” expression. This advertisement is actually used by China Merchants Bank to promote its own study abroad credit card. It is displayed in the form of H5 and tells a story about maternal love: an international student who first arrived in the United States has to contribute a dish of tomato scrambled eggs to greet friends at a party, but he does not know What to do, so I sent a WeChat message to ask for help to my mother at 4 a.m. Beijing time. In order to teach their son to scramble eggs with tomatoes, mom and dad got up from their sleep and recorded a video in the kitchen. In the end, the boy\’s tomato scrambled eggs were a great success and won praises from foreign friends. When I saw the wonderful sentence at the end of the video: \”I want to keep you by my side, but I also want you to have the whole world. Your world is greater than the whole world.\” I thought of my mother\’s care for me, and my eyes began to moisten. . This video, both in terms of story content and copywriting, is very thoughtful, and it immediately hit the netizens who are still working hard outside in the lonely late night. Some friends said, \”I was so moved that I burst into tears all night long.\” \”Although the whole movie is not as sensational as crying, it can still make you feel like your chest was faintly hit by something.\” But. After being moved, I had a feeling that there was something wrong with this advertisement. The boy in the video is already an international student and is confidently starting to live on his own. However, when this big boy had trouble making a simple dish, his first thought was not to search on Google. Instead, he hurriedly sent a WeChat message to his mother. Moreover, when doing this, I didn\’t even think of converting the time difference. He is already an adult, but his living ability is still similar to that of a child. When he encounters problems, he does not think of solving them himself, but seeks help from his mother as soon as possible. I am reminded of this sentence. In our national culture, there is a lack of awareness of cultivating children to take responsibility and solve problems independently. At first, I was super indifferent to this sentence until I became a mother myself. Once I was on a plane, and the boy sitting next to me was a boy over 5 years old. He was very energetic. He accidentally bumped into the small dining table on the plane and burst into tears. The mother at the next table hurriedly coaxed the child, \”Baby don\’t cry.\” When she found that the child continued to cry, the mother simply slapped the small table board twice and said to her son, \”Mom avenged you, who let you hit my house?\” \”Son\” the child stopped crying and looked at his mother blankly. At that moment, there was an eerie coldness that made me shiver. Although these are two different things, I can see the same truth: \”Parents always want to do more things for their children and help their children to take responsibility for their children.\” The boy studying abroad is obviously me He decided to attend the party and entertain his classmates, but he felt that it was only natural for his parents to help him. As for the 5-year-old child, it was clear that he kicked the table on his own initiative, but his family told him that it was the table that was wrong and that the child could take revenge on the table. Many people hope that their children will have a happy childhood and grow up smoothly, but they always don’t want their children to have a happy childhood and grow up smoothly.The child bears the unhappiness and grievances of growing up. In a certain sense, parents who hope that their children will succeed are often more reluctant to take responsibility for their children independently. They want their children to go more smoothly and suffer less harm. If the responsibility that a child should bear is metaphorically called a monkey, parents have started a marathon of carrying the monkey on their behalf since the child was born. However, such love is not necessarily a benefit or even a burden to children. From a young age, our impression of parental love is one of giving and sacrificing without expecting anything in return. But is this kind of love really unrequited? Many parents always try their best to help their children solve all problems. On the surface, they want their children to have an easier time, but the deeper reason is that if the children succeed, I will also succeed. If the children fail, then I will also fail. What they want in return is that their children must achieve their own wishes and achieve what they consider to be success. Such parents fail to complete the separation of attachment and attach all their self-esteem to others. They are very anxious and insecure. If a child has to take care of his parents\’ emotions and needs, he will have to bear double the pressure to grow up. Then the child will naturally be overwhelmed and insecure. Another reason for always helping children is that many people think that \”children need to be rich.\” For independent children, children who can do things independently, they think it is because no one loves them. I wonder if you still remember the incident of \”8-year-old Chongqing boy eating hot pot alone\”. You see, the boy was obviously eating hot pot happily, but he was regarded as having no one to care about \”alone\” eating hot pot. The true enrichment of children is to cultivate their independent personality. Li Ka-shing is richer than any of us, but Li Ka-shing\’s education for his children has never been to let them enjoy happiness and become a \”rich second generation\”. He taught his children when they were young that they must be self-reliant and self-reliant. When children around us go to school, their parents drive them to and from school. Some parents even carry schoolbags for their children. Li Ka-shing rarely uses a private car to send his children to school, leaving them to make their own trams and buses, let alone carry their schoolbags. Many children don’t have to do anything when they return home. Apart from playing with computers and mobile phones, the rest of the time is spent doing homework. Li Ka-shing, on the other hand, requires his two children to work as handymen, waiters, and caddies at golf courses in addition to studying. Having a vision is more important than having assets, and having independent abilities is more important than having knowledge. Independent personality is the basis of competition. Blindly doting on children and always taking on all responsibilities for them is actually laying a time bomb for the child\’s future. If parents take care of everything for their children, how can they grow up happily? We need to understand that allowing children to adapt to society independently, to become competitive, and to do their own things well is an essential part of family education. Isn’t it sad to think about this phenomenon: There has been a lot of discussion in the media about China’s only children. Some overseas universities even refuse to accept Chinese only children. The reason is that contemporary Chinese children have very poor independence. The deeper reason is that the school believes that a child who cannot be independent in life cannot have anyThere’s a lot of self-awareness and creativity to speak of. In other words, our parents do a lot of things for their children with good intentions, but they unknowingly ruin their children\’s lives. There is a passage in \”Watching Off\” by Long Yingtai that reminds me of the current chaos in education: We are trying our best to learn how to sprint for 100 meters, but no one teaches us: when you fall, how do you fall with dignity; how do your knees break? How to clean the wound and bandage it when your flesh and blood are blurred; when you are in unbearable pain, what kind of expression should you use to face others; when you fall headlong, how to treat the bleeding wound in your heart and how to obtain deep peace of mind; mental images How do you clean up when glass is broken all over the floor? However, more developed countries encourage children to solve problems on their own and take responsibility: American parents hope that their children can learn to make a living independently; German law clearly stipulates that children must take on corresponding household chores ; It is rare to see parents holding or carrying their children on the streets of Russia, but the children\’s faces are still full of smiles. Dr. James, an authority on American education, has repeatedly emphasized: \”Dependence on itself breeds laziness, mental laxity, disdain for independent thinking, and is easy to be manipulated by others. Weaknesses such as taking responsibility for children in every aspect may be a parent who gets full marks, but he is definitely not a qualified parent. Their \”love\” is like a double-edged sword, which hurts and harms children!\” I hope our children will not call us for help at 4 o\’clock in the middle of the night when they grow up. In the process of growing up, confusion is inevitable, but I am willing to believe that they can take the path they want to take after a brief panic.