Being a parent is about waiting and accepting

This morning I was very happy to see that a blogger who was redirected to the homepage by a friend shared three lifelong learning tips that would benefit me when I was in high school. What this blogger wrote is actually quite good. The main idea is that she read on the Internet that someone said that if you do all the basic questions correctly, you can get 120 points on a paper. Then she really patiently solved the basic questions, and the result is that she has never been better in mathematics. Never scored 130 points. In another exam, she lost points in one subject because of sloppiness, so she checked the other subjects carefully two or three times, and her scores in other subjects were better than usual. The third point is that her handwriting is usually wild. Later, in the college entrance examination, she was the best at Chinese language, but her score was not ideal. Later, when she was practicing calligraphy by herself, she suddenly realized that not many people could recognize her homemade calligraphy, and the marking teacher probably would not recognize it carefully. Her final conclusion is, don’t be arrogant or rash, just do the basics well and you will already make great progress. 02Why do these experiences she wrote make me happy? As a person who has been a junior high school teacher, I can responsibly say that as for the few principles she said, at least when it comes to exams, we as teachers actually say them over and over again, and they make sense. My mouth is broken. For example, if you do the basic questions well, you won\’t fail, and you can even get 120 points. Don\’t we know this? The test questions were asked by those of us who are teachers. As teachers, will we not tell our students? Didn’t her teacher tell this blogger? But the student just won\’t listen. She has to go online and read what stranger netizens say before she believes it. 03 I was particularly impressed. During our midterm exams, we all completed the papers ourselves and tutored the children. I go back and mark out the scope and key points for my students. I can’t wait to tell them which sentence is the exam question. You can read it several times when you go home. Looking back, I found that a few particularly smart boys in the class went to the Internet cafe to play games as soon as school was over. The final exam was about nothing. I remember when I took the psychological counselor exam, I passed it in one test. At that time, I was participating in a tutoring class at a test unit. One day after class, two classmates were walking in front of me and chatting. A boy said that he had to take the Level 3 consultant exam four times before passing it. The first three times, he almost tore through the book. Another girl asked him, did you find any tricks the fourth time? The boy said that the trick is to listen to the teacher. 04 So this is where this blogger makes me happy. For example, did her Chinese teacher ever say that her handwriting was too cursive? I think it is impossible for any Chinese teacher to resist nagging a student who is good at Chinese. But she may not be impressed at all. In fact, many teachers have this experience, which is to say the obvious truth over and over again. But it can be said that most children will basically not listen to you at all. I believe many parents will feel the same way. There are some children, like this blogger, who suddenly understand one day. This is what our teachers often call enlightenment. But the children will not remember that the teacher said it, or their parents said it. They will only think that they understand it and that they saw it said by someone on the Internet. 05Look at this microMany of the replies below are adults, and they still think these are very new principles. What does this mean? It means that no matter how many truths you listen to, it will be of no use if you don’t understand. So parents and friends, please don’t argue. There is a lot of truth. If you nag your child ten thousand times and he doesn’t listen to you, it’s all in vain. Make yourself angry enough. Even if I say it a thousand times, it is completely normal. Parents, remember that being angry can harm your health, just don\’t take it personally. 06 Some friends asked if there is any method that can be used. Parents are attentive enough to seize meaningful opportunities and give appropriate guidance to guide their children to enlightenment. Let me put it this way, today’s parents and teachers also understand educational concepts very well, and they all know how to give opinions at the appropriate time. What many parents think is a meaningful time is actually the time when their children make mistakes, which is not the same concept as the time when they become enlightened. If the parents feel that this is an appropriate reminder, the child will have an epiphany. The child may feel that you are relentlessly picking on his mistakes. You are just the parents of your children, not God. 07 The so-called moment of enlightenment is that he might have seen someone on the Internet one day and said something that he thought made sense. When he comes back to tell you, when you hear it, you will be very angry. This is not what I said. How many times have you done this? But there is nothing we can do about it. Many words from our mouths sound like a bastard reciting sutras. But if said by a stranger, the same words can turn into good words. You can only accept that in many cases, growth can only be accompanied by companionship and waiting.