Best Picture Oscar: How cruel it is to refuse to see your children

What would I do if I gave birth to a child with a defect? After watching this year\’s Oscar-winning live-action short film \”The Silent Child,\” Xiaoli has been thinking about this question. The short film is really short, only 20 minutes, but it tells the story of the misfortune of a 3-year-old deaf girl. I cry every time I watch it. After becoming a mother, I don’t know whether it’s because the Holy Mother’s heart is overflowing, or because the spiritual channel is always connected to the baby. I am increasingly unable to calmly look at a family that treats their children with indifference and neglect. Unaccompanied children are like the mother Susan in the short film The Kite with a Broken String. When her youngest daughter Libby was three and a half years old, she discovered that she had hearing impairment. Even though she could read lips, she just couldn\’t speak. She had no choice but to hire a professional teacher, Qiao An, to teach her daughter to speak, but she herself was very busy. Oh, no, it should mean that the whole family is very busy. Early in the morning, my parents, brothers and sisters ate breakfast in a hurry, picked up their schoolbags, and rushed out of the house as if they were at war. Even on the first day when she met a strange teacher, her mother hurriedly explained a few basic information about Libby, saying that she would send her eldest son to take the junior high school graduation exam today and that he could not be late, then turned around and ran away. In the afternoon, she has to pick up her eldest daughter from school and take her to ballet class. Her father has to pick up his son and take her to cello class. The sun went down, and my mother finally went home carrying big and small bags. Just when Qiao An wanted to talk to her about Libby\’s situation, she called again and had a lot of things to do. She hadn\’t taken Libby with her for a long time. She went to the park only 5 minutes away from home. It seemed that she didn\’t have time to play toys and games with Libby. She was busy all day long, leaving Libby to sit in front of the TV. What she is most concerned about is, my daughter is quite normal, when will she be able to speak? My heart sank little by little because I saw a little shadow of myself. Like the mother in the short film, Xiaoli is also a mother of three children. She is busy all day long and wishes she could split herself into four or five pieces. If I had to take care of everything about my children, I might have died of overwork long ago~ What about my children? Is that what we have to take care of? Libby\’s mother is concerned about when Libby can speak, but what\’s behind the problem? Three-year-old Libby didn\’t even get the most basic parent-child companionship and outdoor time. No matter who Libby talked to, she had no desire to communicate. In her eyes, even if her family is so happy that they burst into laughter, it has nothing to do with her. The whole world is just a silent film that does not require her to participate. She could only stare at cartoons with empty expressions day after day, closing her heart tightly, like a kite with its string cut off, wandering on the edge of home. I silently warned myself in my heart that no matter how busy I am, I should build a unique link of love with each child, and no one should be missing. The child who is not seen by his mother is a sad teacher who asked his mother, has Libby interacted with others? Mom replied, of course, she can read what we are saying very well, and you will know when she is unhappy. I silently feel sorry for Libby, who cannot speak. She is only willing to interact with her family when she is unhappy. Such interactions are more about asking for attention and love. In the eyes of her mother, Libby is a child with a quiet personality, sometimes quite difficult to deal with, a bad temper, and loves to watch TV. Mom wants to take itTaking Libby\’s TV remote control, Libby refused to let go. But after the teacher Joan and Libby got to know each other, Joan took Libby to the park to feed the ducks, run in nature, and swim in the swimming pool. Libby showed her liveliness The girl\’s bright smile. She is completely different from her before. She learned sign language very quickly, and her face began to have rich expressions. When she went out to eat and saw others chatting in sign language, she could sense emotions according to the content of the chat, turning from a smile to a frown. When Libby became proficient in sign language and chatted with Joan, her vitality was regenerating. However, her mother was not happy at all, and her face was uglier than ever. Her mother said to Qiao An: \”I\’m worried that she is learning a language that I don\’t understand and no one in school understands it!\” Qiao An suggested that her mother and the whole family learn sign language together. What her mother thought was, \”I am very busy, my brother is very busy, and my sister is also very busy.\” \”Very busy\”… In the end, the mother, who had never learned even one commonly used sign language to listen to her children, understand her children, and talk to her children, forcefully said to the teacher: \”I am Libby\’s mother, and I know what is meant for her.\” The best.\” The best thing for her is to let the child learn to speak as soon as possible and then send her to school. \”When you have children, you hope that they are normal, you hope that they are perfect.\” This hope became an obsession, tightly blindfolding the mother. She thought that as long as she \”hoped\”, Libby can become perfect. A child who is not seen by his mother is sad. The child has become a standardized product created by the mother, with no needs, no feelings, no thoughts, and no will… Adults who are unwilling to change themselves are the child\’s prison. Libby was eventually sent to a school for ordinary children by her mother in a rough and simple manner. . The most ironic thing is that Libby, who is completely deaf, is taking a \”dictation class\” at school. She returned to the empty and soundless world, and the daze on her face was the only thing she could do. After class, Libby stood close to the wall, watching her classmates running around and playing noisily, her heart felt as cold as water. \”The excitement is theirs, I have nothing.\” The teacher rode his bicycle to the school to see her. When he saw the lonely Libby through the iron fence, his heart broke. The moment the two of them looked at each other speechlessly, Libby, who was pale and listless, gestured three words to the teacher in sign language: \”I love you.\” Every time I see this, I burst into tears. She was sent to a school for ordinary children by her mother, and she seemed to be living the life of an ordinary child, but she was incompatible with these people, as if she was imprisoned. Her inner loneliness, hesitation and helplessness were only understood by a teacher who was not related to her by blood. This teacher once brought light, color, happiness and hope to her life. However, at this moment, she was isolated from her world by an iron fence. The teacher\’s eyes were full of love and distress, but there was an unbridgeable value gap between her and Libby set up by her parents – the child was different from what she expected, and that was the child\’s problem, and what needed to be changed was child. How many children are treated like this? At the end of the short film, we are given a statistic: more than 78% of hearing-impaired children are studying in ordinary schools, but they are notProfessional support. What I am thinking more about is that parents are unwilling to accommodate and tolerate even obvious physical defects such as hearing impairment. What about the obvious \”shortcomings\” in their children? Disobedient, bad tempered, impulsive, dilly-dallying, poor self-control, playful, not fond of learning… each of these are the branches that most parents are worried about and want to prune. But from a child\’s perspective, these \”shortcomings\” are actually innate and are a natural law of life. To a certain extent, our ordinary children, like those hearing-impaired children, just lack the love, tolerance and help of their parents. Long Yingtai once said that adults are locked in their own inertial thinking and have the power to formulate the rules of the game, so they are too easy to be self-righteous. In the face of children, being unwilling to change your \”self-righteousness\” will only become a \”prison\” for your children. (For the complete short video, please watch it in a wifi environment)