Bill Gates, Jack Ma, etc…the top secrets of wealthy families praising their children’s success

Now please recall your life when you were a child. Did you like to be praised by your parents? How do your parents usually praise you? Does that type of compliment satisfy you? Proper praise should be holy and flawless, a sincere affirmation of your behavior. Dr. Carsley, a famous British social relations expert, once said: \”Most people choose friends based on whether they are willing to sincerely praise others. If you are unwilling to praise others, then it is impossible to establish a good relationship with others. Interpersonal relationships!\” It can be seen that knowing how to praise your children correctly is an art of life, and it is also a rare communication wisdom. I believe you also know Bill Gates. When he was a child, he stuttered and had low self-esteem. No matter what the occasion, he always pressed his lips tightly and was even afraid of interacting with others. One day, Bill Gates went to dinner with his friends. He ordered a cup of Coke, but to his surprise, the waiter brought him two cups. At that time, he asked very strangely: \”I only ordered one cup, why did you give me two cups? Isn\’t the other cup not free?\” Afterwards, the beautiful waiter explained: \”You obviously ordered two cups of Coke yourself, and they also You heard me.\” It turned out that Bill Gates was too nervous when he ordered a Coke and mistakenly ordered two Cokes. Bill Gates was extremely embarrassed because of this, and tears of grievance welled up in his eyes. After returning home, he cried to his mother about his embarrassing experience. Her mother gently but powerfully held him in her arms, caressed his little head and said, \”My child, that\’s because your brain is too smart, so your mouth can\’t It was caused by keeping up with your smart head.\” Bill Gates burst into tears because of his mother\’s praise, and he no longer felt inferior or timid. Later, he worked hard and founded Microsoft with his friend Paul Allen in 1975. Bill Gates served as Microsoft\’s chairman, CEO and chief software designer. He said in his autobiography: \”That is the most beautiful sentence I have ever heard in my life.\” Coincidentally, Jack Ma was a recognized bad boy when he was a child, wreaking havoc and causing trouble everywhere. When he was 15 years old, he met a new friend, Australian playmate David Morley. At that time, when his father introduced Jack Ma to his Australian playmate David Morley, he said: \”Dear David Morley, I hope you pay attention to this worst boy in the village. He gives me a headache.\” Mother kindly lifted Ma Yun\’s chin, and said to Ma Yun\’s father with a friendly and charming smile: \”You are wrong, he is not the worst child, but the smartest child who has not yet found a place to vent his enthusiasm. \”My mother\’s words made Ma Yun\’s heart feel warm all of a sudden, and tears almost came out of his eyes in an instant. It was this sentence that became the driving force that inspired him, making him the closest to perfection and the most successful entrepreneur. To praise others accurately is a kind of tolerance, a kind of discovery, a kind of understanding, a kind of wisdom, and a kind of state. If you can properly recognize and praise, you can turn an idiot into a genius; if you deny criticism and sarcasm, you can turn a genius into an idiot. Please never deny, criticize or be sarcastic. Please believe that everyone is important. Please remember that Buddha prays to your heart. then how do you do itWhat is the most correct way to praise your children? If the process of anything is definitely more important than the result, do you agree with this view? I remember when I was watching \”The Peaceful Warrior\”, there was a scene where the mysterious Socrates led the college gymnast Dan Millman, talking and laughing all the way, admiring all the scenery he saw, and completing the walk with great patience and hard work. When they reached the top of the mountain on the rugged mountain road, Dan Millman, who had been looking forward to it with infinite expectations, found nothing. However, Socrates casually picked up an extraordinary small stone at his feet and handed it to Dan Millman. At this time, Dan Millman became angry and thought: \”We have worked hard all the way just for this broken stone?\” The two looked at each other, speechless for a moment, and Socrates stared straight at Dan Millman and said : \”The journey is the gift that brings happiness, not the destination.\” Then, it was down the mountain. Dan Millman, who stayed where he was, pondered for a moment and relaxed… Therefore, you must carefully observe the process and extent of your child\’s efforts. Praise should be given to the child\’s level of effort, not just because the child has done this. event or result. For example: \”You are great.\” changes to \”I just witnessed you giving your sister two sips of milk. You are really a child who knows how to share.\” \”Awesome! You won first place in this piano competition.\” Change it to \”Seeing that you can overcome your nervousness and perform calmly in front of everyone, Mommy feels that you have really grown up.\” Now, how do you feel after the above example has changed? Please focus on the process rather than the results, and talk about specific behaviors. In the end, Doudehui quietly said to you: \”The beauty of your child is everywhere. What is missing is your discernment to discover the beauty of your child!\” Don\’t be stingy in praising your child, it can save your child\’s self-confidence, dignity and soul. It can also save a big world behind your child.