Both sisters wanted to commit suicide because their father kept treating them…

My sister took a photo of her diary on a certain day and sent it to me. The main idea was that she dreamed about the relaxing and happy ten days she spent at a distant relative\’s house during the summer vacation. It was then that she realized It turns out that not every family’s atmosphere is as depressing as the one we grew up in. It turns out that parents from other families can talk, laugh, discuss and discuss with their children… She said that only after comparing We know how pitiful our two sisters are: the father who is always sullen at home, the mother who is weak, and the two sisters who are frightened all the time and are afraid of attracting criticism and \”cold violence\” from their father. Feeling concerned, I replied to her and said that when I was in junior high school, I once wanted to run away from home or commit suicide, because at that time I felt that the atmosphere in my classmates\’ homes seemed to be better than mine. Even those classmates whose grades were worse than mine had parents who were They are amiable and the whole family seems to love each other when they are together, which makes me envious to the core of my being. She laughed and said she had the same idea as me in junior high and high school. We ended with \”Fortunately, we survived, and our life is pretty good now, but we can\’t let our children live that kind of life.\” Family of origin is now popularly referred to as \”family of origin\”. What is my family of origin like? Just like what is written above. Our father did not go to college due to various reasons. His originally excellent academic performance gradually became a bit extreme. Most of the time, he felt that his life was very unsatisfactory. Those who did not have as good grades as him lived very well after going to college. , several of them have gone abroad and settled in Canada or the United States. Such a comparison makes him feel uncomfortable. In addition, the financial pressure of having to provide for us two sisters to study is also quite high, so he rarely smiles on his face. He had very high demands on us two sisters. He would have a long face if our test scores were not satisfactory. After scolding us with a dark face, he would not talk to anyone in the family for several days, making the whole family restless. Unfortunately, the grades of our two sisters were often ups and downs at that time, good and bad. Looking back now, we were often worried about these things at home at that time, and we couldn\’t concentrate completely on our studies. What\’s more, the depressive family atmosphere had reduced our self-confidence to very little. If we wanted to do well in every exam, It\’s not easy to get the best in the exam. Where is our mother? She is very kind, but also very weak. She has never been able to argue with her father. Whatever her father says is whatever she says. She endures everything in life silently, and she hopes that we can endure it silently like her. Because we read a lot, our two sisters had fairly docile personalities. Therefore, we were not obviously rebellious in adolescence. We did not really run away from home or commit suicide as we thought in our hearts. However, our two sisters’ characters were imprinted by our original families. There are deep imprints: low self-confidence, not good at interacting with others, insecure, prone to depression, and bad temper when tired. At that time, I did everything I could to minimize the time I spent at home. The school said that there are some special periods when students need to stay in the dormitory on weekends, and I was the first to sign up every time. When the teacher asked who volunteered to go to school to clean up or make up lessons during the holidays, I definitely signed up. When I returned to school after vacation, I memorized it early every time. Up the bag, the first oneBack to school; when I filled out my application for college entrance examination, all the schools I chose were from other provinces; when I graduated from college, I chose a city far away from my hometown as a place to live; when I fell in love, I fell in love with a cheerful and humorous person. Boy, I wholeheartedly wanted to marry such a man and change my future life. I also used all the courage in my life to marry such a man despite my father\’s strong objections. The reason is very simple: I want to escape my \”original family\”. It\’s not that my parents didn\’t love us, they just didn\’t love in the right way. My father thinks that he works hard to earn money for us to study and has strict requirements on our studies, which is the greatest love for us; my mother thinks that in the family, the father is the main body and listens to whatever he says. It is best not to quarrel loudly at home. result. On the one hand, we two sisters envied the warmth and comfort of other people\’s homes, and on the other hand, we endured the depressive atmosphere of our own home, growing up with difficulty. When I occasionally think back to my childhood and adolescence, I deliberately avoid those embarrassing moments that made me cry. My child When I had my own child, I secretly made up my mind to give my dear little cat a warm and warm home and give her enough love and security. It would never be the same love that my father gave us. Depressed. Fortunately, my father and I have the same educational philosophy. We both believe that creating a relaxed and harmonious family environment is a fertile ground for children to grow up healthily and happily. Nothing is more important than the physical and mental happiness of little cat. How to create a relaxed and harmonious family environment? It\’s not difficult as long as the couple works together. We, as a couple, have a deep relationship and respect each other. There is never any quarrel at home. We discuss major matters and make decisions on small matters ourselves. We know each other’s bottom line and never step on each other’s bottom line when we speak or do things. We communicate more and speak well. Love life, have common goals, and are willing to work hard for a better life. It is said that with this comfortable way of getting along with each other, our lives are prosperous, comfortable and relaxed. From the time Xiaomei was very young, we treated her as an adult, communicated and chatted with her like a friend, encouraged her more, never hit her, or forced her to do things she didn\’t like to do. We focus on cultivating her reading ability in Chinese and English and do not impose strict requirements on her academic performance. We encourage her to play well when she plays and learn well when she studies. Being able to learn happily is the greatest success. She has a relaxed attitude and naturally treats us as her best friends. She is very willing to take the initiative to tell us about anything that happens in school and hopes to get some guidance from us. Xiaomiao grew up in such a relaxed environment. She is optimistic, positive, generous, confident, independent, and has excellent grades. She is what other parents in the class call \”other people\’s children.\” I love this little cat, she is the best I have ever hoped to grow into over the years. Xiao Meow is always smiling every day. I often ask her: \”Are you happy? Do you love our family?\” Xiao Meow will feel strange and reply to me: \”Why do you often ask that? Of course I am happy, of course I love us.\”This home, our home is so nice! \”After she turned around to do her own thing, tears were rolling in my eyes. Yes, she didn\’t understand why I had to ask this so often, because the family environment we grew up in was so different, and she had never experienced me and her My aunt grew up in an environment where she believed that every child grew up in a harmonious family environment. It is said that many parents are trying their best to be nice to their children to compensate. I think my kindness to Xiao Miao is also a kind of Compensation, but this is not to compensate Xiaomei, but to compensate for me in my childhood and adolescence, to compensate for the lonely and depressed me in the first years of my life. The situation in my sister\’s family is the same as ours, because we two sisters know very well that, A harmonious family atmosphere is really important. It will affect a child\’s life. I feel sorry for me who was depressed in childhood and adolescence, so I hope that Xiaomei will never live such an unhappy life. I hope that she will live in a In a home where there is laughter and laughter every day, I hope that when she encounters difficulties or setbacks outside, she will have more hope and strength in her heart when she thinks of the two parents who love her and dote on her…