Boy who sleeps in class becomes famous: Children with this trait will not have bad luck in the future

I saw a very funny video. On the afternoon of October 16, in a first-grade primary school class in Shenzhen, the little boy Zhan Xiaoxun fell asleep on the desk because he was too sleepy. When the teacher saw this scene, he encouraged the students in the class to applaud together. Zhan Xiaoxun, who was awakened by the applause, immediately joined everyone in applauding without even opening his eyes, making the students laugh. Zhan Xiaoxun’s mother said that the teacher sent the video to her and she told Zhan Xiaoxun, look, the classmates are laughing at you, but Zhan Xiaoxun said: “Where are you laughing at me? I’m quite cute!” ▲News report video recommended wifi environment Watch below: There is really no other such optimistic and cute little boy! From the way Zhan Xiaoxun was awakened by the applause and immediately clapped with a smile, it can be seen that his adaptability is also excellent. He didn\’t get emotional because of his embarrassment in class. Instead, when his mother criticized him, he said that he was quite cute. It\’s really admirable for a child who is good at looking at problems from the positive side. There is another little girl who is also trending because of her optimistic attitude. She is You Yixuan, a fifth-year student from Nanjing. She wrote a \”Buddhist\” composition \”Me Hidden in the Corner\” that became popular. Many netizens said that she is \”a breath of fresh air\”. ▲You Yixuan▲You Yixuan’s composition Let’s take a look at what she wrote in the composition? Me Hidden in the Corner Everyone knows that the universe is very big. There are many planets where I live on the earth. The one bigger than the earth is the sun, and the one smaller than the earth is the moon. Even though the moon is smaller than the earth, everyone knows it, but not me. (But how many people know me?) You can’t blame everyone (others), because there are 7 billion people in the world, and everyone is different. I\’m not known to everyone, you could say I\’m smaller than a star (delete) like a speck of dust. My name is You Yixuan. I want to be a carpenter when I grow up. If you have candy, I would still like it. (You see, even my dreams are so ordinary.) In the third grade, I gradually discovered that this society will reduce human beings (there are many rules and regulations to restrict human beings.) To put it simply, it is the high school entrance examination and the college entrance examination. Before people can show their talents, they are chosen as \”useless people\”. Because of this, I feel lonely and helpless, and I have changed from an open tulip to a closed tulip. When my father saw me like this, he said there was no need to worry unfoundedly, just think about it and it would be fine. Mainly I figured he would be happy. I said yes because I like to make people happy. I started working hard, and when I encountered math problems that I didn’t understand, I would ask the cram school teacher or my parents. According to the teacher\’s requirements, I read, do homework, exercise, go to bed early and get up early, but (although) I still can\’t control my brain from time to time and lose my temper, but every time the teacher and parents will talk to me (talk to me carefully, when I figured it out, and I thought it was nothing big again…) I still remember a time in a physical education class where we had to test the 50-meter run. We were all frightened, but no one could escape! Everyone can only stand on the starting line obediently. It was finally my turn. As soon as the teacher blew the whistle, I ran so fast that my hair started to blow. I was so happy at the end of the run because I ran 8.75 seconds, like half Usain Bolt! I was also very happy at night. After eating chocolate, my father said that I wasHis little sweet boy. Maybe, I don’t need to get into Harvard and Peking University, as long as I am happy. Not everyone can\’t stay in the corner, because everyone can show their talents (the flowers in the corner are just as fragrant). I\’m the one hiding in the corner. Her dream is \”I want to be a carpenter when I grow up. If you have candy, I would still like to eat it.\” The happy nature of the child is fully revealed! Her view of the future is, \”Maybe I don\’t need to get into Harvard and Peking University, as long as I am happy.\” She knew the true meaning of life of \”just being happy\” at a young age, which really overwhelmed many adults. Of course, she also has her worries. When she doesn\’t do well in exams, she also feels that \”people have been chosen as useless before their talents have blossomed.\” The ridiculing words include self-deprecation and optimism. Especially this sentence \”Not everyone can\’t stay in the corner, because everyone can show their talents.\” It is a wise saying. It is really not easy for a fifth-grade child to reach such a state. Among the many comments praising the little girl, I like this one the most: Even if such a child doesn’t give her candy, I believe she can taste the sweetness of life. Yes, optimistic children will not have bad luck in the future. What is the difference between optimistic children and pessimistic children in life? I once heard a story about a father who wanted to \”modify the character\” of twin brothers because one was too optimistic and the other was too pessimistic. One day, he bought many brightly colored new toys for the pessimistic child, and then sent the optimistic child into a warehouse filled with horse manure. Early the next morning, the father saw the pessimistic child crying and asked, \”Why don\’t you play with those toys?\” \”They will break if you play with them.\” The child was still crying. The father sighed and walked into the warehouse, only to find the optimistic child happily digging something into the horse manure. \”Dad!\” the child proudly declared to his father, \”I think there must be a pony hidden in the horse manure pile!\” This is how optimistic children are, no matter how bad the situation is, they can find the positive side. . When they forget to bring their homework to school, optimistic children will think: It\’s okay, it just gave me a little more memory, so I won\’t forget it next time. A pessimistic child will think: It\’s over, the teacher will definitely scold me later, and my mother will scold me too. When a good friend stops playing with him, an optimistic child will think: Maybe he has met new friends, and then I can also meet new classmates and find new friends. Pessimistic children will think: Why are they so unlucky? If my good friends don’t play with me, it will be difficult for new classmates to play with me. Education expert Sun Yunxiao said: \”Only optimistic children\’s lives will be full of hope, and whether a child is optimistic is the fundamental symbol of educational success.\” If your child has optimistic traits, congratulations, your child will not be too unlucky in the future. Don’t worry if your child doesn’t have an optimistic temperament, because optimism can be cultivated. If parents want to raise optimistic children, they must first do this: use an optimistic explanation style to explain what their children encounter. In psychology, there is a word called \”explanation style\”. When a child encounters something and the parents explain and guide it in a positive way, the child will have a positive and optimistic way of thinking.If children are not explained and guided face-to-face, they will have a negative and pessimistic way of thinking. The famous psychologist Martin Seligman believes that if an optimistic explanation style can be formed and continued, it can build a solid foundation of optimism for children throughout their lives. Last year, a hit drama \”That Year the Flowers Bloomed and the Moon Was Full\” brought the long-dormant actor Yu Haoming back into the public eye. Many people criticized the eunuch Du Mingli he played as being \”extremely bad\”! ▲Still from \”That Year the Flowers Bloomed and the Moon Was Full\” However, the more the audience scolded, the more it showed that Yu Haoming\’s acting skills were recognized. Looking at the obvious scars on his face, I knew that he had completely withstood the fire. baptism. The fire in 2010 not only devastated Yu Haoming\’s body, but also caused him to fall into severe depression, and his mother also completely collapsed emotionally. She would say in front of her son: \”Look at your hands, they looked so beautiful before.\” Such negative emotions actually brought more pressure to Yu Haoming. Later, with the guidance of a psychiatrist, she realized that she could not do this. As a parent, if you want to help your son get out of trouble, you must first be cheerful and optimistic, so she began to learn to regulate her emotions, chatting with her son with a smile every day, and collected various funny jokes to make her son happy. Infected by his parents\’ optimism, Yu Haoming\’s injury gradually improved and his mood became cheerful. More than two years later, he returned to work with confidence and courage. There is a British proverb called \”Don\’t cry over spilled milk.\” It means that if a child gets into trouble or encounters something, the parents will be depressed before the child becomes sad. This will only make children develop a negative way of thinking and a pessimistic character. Therefore, in daily life, if a child encounters something bad, parents must not be more sad than the child. They should do this: when the child\’s performance drops, tell the child that this is a good opportunity to check for omissions and fill in the gaps; children compete When you lose, tell your child to work harder next time in order to keep up with others. When a child expresses pessimistic thoughts and feels that he can\’t do anything well, tell the child that everyone has advantages and we should work hard to give full play to our own advantages in order to improve our level of life. If parents want to raise optimistic children, they must first do this: live every day with a smile. Some people say that it is difficult to find a child with a broad mind in a carefree family, and it is difficult to find a child with elegance and purity in a mediocre family. In fact, the same thing applies to optimism. In a family full of conflicts and even violence, it is difficult to find a sunny and cheerful child. In a family full of depression and seriousness, it is difficult to find a child with enough enthusiasm and happiness. Mo Yan once said in his essay \”Mother\” that it was his mother\’s optimism that made him full of hope for the future: What I can\’t forget is that my mother, who looked sad, was humming a little song while working hard. ! In our large family with a large population, the mother is the one who works the hardest and the one who suffers the most hunger. It would be reasonable for her to cry while beating wild vegetables, but she is not crying but singing. Although my mother\’s words were not high-pitched, I suddenly gained a sense of security and hope for the future. thisIt is a solemn promise made by a mother to her worried son. No matter how hard life was (Mo Yan\’s family was going through the most difficult time at that time, his father was framed, the family didn\’t have much food in stock, and his mother relapsed and had no money for treatment), this mother insisted on not letting her children\’s hearts be covered with dust and avoid It is a great thing to plunge them into despair and insecurity. Not just the mother, but the father too. However, due to the high pressure of life, many parents like to complain and sometimes have a bad attitude toward their children. In fact, this has great resistance to children developing an optimistic character, because children see everything their parents say and do. Parents who treat their children as trash cans should not expect their children to be positive and optimistic. If you want to raise optimistic children, when things go wrong at work or at home, you must use a positive attitude to solve the problem instead of complaining and blaming. Writer Zhou Guoping said: \”In front of children, you must behave calmly and optimistically when things happen, even if you are not like that in your heart.\” Staying optimistic and not complaining to your children is a gift for growth that parents give to their children, and it is something that must be done. There is a fable about the \”glass half full\”. The two of them were traveling together and became very thirsty after a long time. Later, they finally found two and a half glasses of water. The optimistic person thought: \”Ah! I finally found water. Although it was only half a glass of water, it was a good start. I will definitely be able to find more water.\” So he drank the water and continued confidently. On the way. But the pessimistic person thought: \”Why is there only half a glass of water? What is the use of this half glass of water? It is not enough to quench your thirst!\” In anger, he dropped the water glass, but in the end he died of thirst. Xuefeng said in \”This is How Life Should Be Lived\” that life must be optimistic and positive, and we must work hard. As long as we are still breathing and as long as life has not left this world, we must not give up in despair. Even at the last moment of life, we must Trek and climb towards the highest realm of life and life every second. Positive optimism and negative pessimism are two completely different attitudes towards life, which will also bring two completely different life experiences to children. I believe that parents want their children to be optimistic people. No matter what situation they are in, they can see the positive side and encourage themselves to work hard. Then please be an optimistic person and use an optimistic explanation style to explain the problems your children encounter.