Boys are not difficult to raise, but girls are really difficult to raise

During the company\’s vacation some time ago, I did something that I overestimated my ability and I regret. I took my daughter Niuniu on a trip to Xiamen, and I was so happy that I was about to post a large wave of beautiful photos of parents and children in my circle of friends. Before setting off, my daughter yelled at her to pack her luggage. In fact, I should have noticed at that time and not to think that everything was too beautiful… My daughter filled her bag with shiny little skirts, small toys, and stuffed bears, and then \”occupied\” me I had to bear the pain of giving up my suitcase, and kept reducing my collection of beautiful clothes and skirts. I tried to persuade her to put on comfortable long clothes and trousers before boarding the plane. Before taking off, she had to change into a princess dress, otherwise she would be \”not beautiful enough to fly\”… As soon as I arrived at the destination, I was eager to take pictures, and secretly said \”Moments\” The time for a desperate counterattack has finally arrived. After setting up the tripod, setting up the props, and thinking about the composition, my daughter stood there grinning because the sand had stained her toes and shoes, and she couldn\’t take pictures until they were cleaned up! Her love for beauty was outrageous, and I, my mother, was so tired and disheveled that I had no love for her. Moreover, her eloquence was a disaster during the trip. No matter where she went to any scenic spot, she kept asking questions. I was very happy at first. I felt that my daughter loved learning and gained knowledge and broadened her horizons during the journey. This was a great achievement! But as the journey passed halfway, with the eldest lady refusing to hold her or leave, I was too tired to answer her imaginative questions, let alone take photos. Picture source: \”Brave Heart\” I finally pulled out nine pictures and posted them to Moments. The happiness brought by receiving a full screen of likes only lasted three seconds. I was so exhausted behind that I was afraid that I would not be able to recover for several days. . Back home, the disaster didn\’t end there. When I burst into tears and complained to my husband about the shortcomings of parent-child travel, and proved how great and difficult I am, my baby girl slapped me in the face with her words that penetrated people\’s hearts: \”Mom is so cruel, I am obviously just She was so tired that she didn’t want to move, but she just stared at me with her white eyes. It was so scary.” Oh my god, it was her who was clearly clamoring for me to tell the same story for the 20th time, but after holding her for a day, my feet were already numb and my hands were soft. It was just a \”fake eye roll\” caused by the muscles in my face when I was tired. God knows, the scene I dreamed about most that night was the crow looking for water, and I was the thirsty crow. Before I had time to defend myself, my husband had already hugged her daughter into his arms and faced me with the same hatred: \”You are not doing this right. My daughter is so cute, how can I be willing to hurt her?\” Seeing my daughter hiding in her husband\’s arms, He raised his eyebrows, stuck out his tongue and smiled slyly at me. I suddenly realized: I had not given birth to a daughter, but a love rival! ! ! That\’s all, men and women are born with different brain circuits, complaining to my husband doesn\’t work, and I can\’t bear to use violence against that delicate little person, so I can only turn my attention to my distant cousin for help and comfort myself. \”Well, it is a good thing that a father and his daughter have a close relationship, especially after the daughter is 3 years old. Timely involvement of the father can help the daughter develop a confident and optimistic character……\” My distant cousin is very interesting. She is my confidant. I told her more than once that I suspected that I had given birth to a \”fake daughter\”, and I just wanted to marry her! My cousin said: Girls from other families are all well-behaved and considerate. If you give her a book, you can sit quietly for a long time; if you give her a playmate, you can spend a happy weekend. That picture is really a loving mother and a filial daughter, and the years are peaceful! However, her Doudou is very naughty and mischievous, and is called \”a annoying little goblin, a fighter among goblins\” by her cousin. Doudou likes everything that can be climbed. She wants to \”compete\” on the slides in the community, the wardrobe at home, and the big trees on the roadside. There are thousands of emotions on the road to raising a baby, including breastfeeding, coaxing to sleep, and tutoring homework, so just take whatever comes your way. Mothers must keep calm when encountering children with strange paintings. They will eventually pass through this stage of collapse, anxiety and fear, and move on to the next stage that will make you want to cry without tears. Therefore, even though Doudou looks like a boy, she still maintains the unique sensitivity and delicacy of a girl in her heart. One time on the way home from school, Doudou got excited and went to climb a tree. He accidentally tore his newly bought pants on the fence on the side of the road. He went home dejected. The cousin guessed it based on her expression and was about to ask a question, but Doudou rushed into the room and locked the door! After a while, Doudou handed over a note from the crack in the door: \”It\’s not my fault, Mr. Dashu did it first.\” Before the cousin could react, another note came next: \”Although you just did it You didn’t say anything, but you’ve already mentally abused me with the lowered corner of your mouth.” The handwriting is grievance in capital letters! Be calm! Experts have said that girls develop emotionally earlier than boys, and they are very sensitive to subtle changes in human faces. So, don’t talk too loudly to a girl, otherwise she will think you are scolding her. In order to prevent Doudou from doing something \”silly\” in the room, my cousin-in-law didn\’t have time to feel sorry for the new pair of 500-yuan pants, so she could only hold back the overwhelming force that had reached her throat back to her internal organs, and held it through the crack in the door. She said, \”It\’s okay, honey. If the pants are broken, mom can sew them up. If they don\’t work, let\’s buy new ones, just the same ones!\” I could feel the bitterness in my cousin\’s voice through the receiver, but it healed my heart and made it gentle. In other words, the \”plastic friendship\” between me and other middle-aged mothers who have adopted daughters is accumulated from complaining about each other\’s sadness and sharing each other\’s battles of wits and courage with their daughters. Until one day, my daughter entered the \”sensitive period of marriage\”, and my husband and I became more consistent than ever before. When my daughter clamored to get married to Xiao Le, a classmate in the senior class, my husband felt like he was in danger. His behavior was exactly the same as Deng Chao\’s: \”I don\’t want my daughter to get married, and I don\’t want her to live with my husband once she gets married.\” He finally realized all my dissatisfaction. It\’s easy… because of this incident, he and his former colleagues formed a deep revolutionary friendship, for no other reason than to complain about other \”big pig hooves\” in the world! Their targets are unprecedentedly unanimous: \”When raising a son, it is good as long as he is not a beast himself, but when raising a daughter, you can rest assured if there are no beasts around you.\” They also unanimously agreed to imitate other old fathers.When taking photos with your daughter and her boyfriend, you should also hold the weapon inadvertently, and your intention to stab her in the dark is clear: \”Be careful, if you don\’t treat my daughter well, I will never forgive you!\” Just right! I am reminded of a former colleague of mine who recently asked me for tips on how to grow hair. He said that he used to have thick hair, but now it grows weeds, all because he competes with his daughter and worries about her! Tell me, raising a daughter, we are really as considerate as hair. The key is that her real hair is gone. What can I do? Of course, it does not rule out that you are lucky enough to have a daughter who is gentle, considerate and sensible. When she and other playmates are quietly playing \”playing house\” in a corner of the community, and you and other mothers are chatting in the sun, how wonderful it feels. When she practices braiding on your head, she uses your strong back and waist as a drawing board to express her talents freely; then she pecks you on the cheek and says sweetly, \”Dad, I love you.\” You get straight-line perfect scores for \”Father\’s Involvement\” and \”Father\’s Satisfaction\”, so what else do you need for a bicycle! Confucius has a classic saying: \”Only women and villains are difficult to raise. Those who are close will not have grandchildren, and those who are far away will be resentful.\” I want to say that only daughters are difficult to raise. It is difficult to nourish them spiritually, to build their values, and to be unable to clear away the difficulties and darkness on the road to growth for her, so I can only watch and listen in all directions, and worry about her day and night with a single heart. Therefore, if you give birth to a daughter who is easy to raise, has a stable temperament, is lively and cute, please enjoy it privately, and do not publicize it in a big way, so as not to destroy the harmony of the family and lose three or five \”plastic\” friends. And you happen to have given birth to a daughter who is difficult to raise. It would be even better to have two. Please contact me as soon as possible. We still have one seat left for you in our \”Irregularly Complaining About the Difficulties of Raising a Baby Team\”. You know, for middle-aged mothers and fathers, \”sharing weal and woe\” is a secret weapon that can bring them closer together than \”sympathizing with each other.\”