Buying a BMW for your kids? Child: I won’t take the blame

When I saw the news on the Internet about parents buying BMW cars for their children, my first reaction was, does the child really want it? The second reaction is that if it were me, I would choose to transfer my child to another school. In kindergartens where comparisons are common, it’s okay if you don’t get into it. This kind of thing doesn\’t happen very often in life, so parents don\’t need to be anxious when they see such news. They don\’t need to quickly think back and compare whether their own children have experienced similar rejection. In my own personal experience, I have never encountered such a thing. Baoduo was in early education class, and the teacher taught them to recognize car brands. During that time, whenever Baoduo saw a car when he went out, he would say, \”This is a BMW, this is a Volkswagen, this is a Toyota, that is a Buick.\” . . But from his mouth, he never said which brand of cars is particularly expensive and which brand of cars is cheap. Their teacher taught them to recognize the car logo to exercise their memory, and never explained the price. When Baoduo pointed out car signs with me on the road, I just said, you are right, you remember it so clearly, I never talk about luxury cars or rich people. Almost all my relatives and friends of the same age bought a car that was commensurate with their own economic conditions before and after their children were born. Probably because they are not rare, these children have not been interested in cars since they were young. They prefer buses and subways. As soon as I go out, I like to suggest: \”Let\’s take a bus!\” I have never heard a child say, \”There are many people on the bus, it\’s smelly and crowded, where can I sit?\” Because no adult around me has ever said such a thing. Children have been instilled with the idea that buses are inferior to cars, and no one is boring enough to talk to their children about high-end cars and resistance to rich people and poor people. We often say that children are the most innocent, not because they are happy just because they are happy, they want to cry just because they feel unhappy, the clothes they like are just because they are comfortable, regardless of brand or price, and the people they like are just because that person is right. Well, it doesn\’t matter that person\’s status. The food they like is just because it tastes good. It doesn\’t matter whether the ingredients are imported from abroad? When a child appears who always talks about money, luxury, and class, it is his upbringer who should reflect. The education you have received must have told you that \”being indifferent will clarify your ambitions, and tranquility will lead to long-term goals.\” Even if you have never heard that \”less desires will lead to a calm mind, and a calm mind will lead to simple things\”, then you must also know that \”money is not everything.\” How can you still Haven’t learned to correctly view the two sides of money? When compared with other people\’s luxury cars, is it you or your child who feels inferior? Will spending all your family efforts to buy a luxury car beyond your financial means eliminate your inner uneasiness and anxiety? If my kids come home and demand \”Caterpillar\” shoes, it\’s because everyone else has them. I would tell him plainly that everyone is special. You don’t have to be the same as others. You have to have your own aesthetics. If he said that because the \”Caterpillar\” shoes are really comfortable, and a pair of shoes that are comfortable and affordable for us, I would buy them. If my child says, everyone else has a BMW, let’s buy a BMW too! I will first ask him if he knows what BMW is and what the price of BMW cars means to working-class families like ours.? If he said, it’s because other people have it. I would still tell him plainly that everything in our family does not have to be the same as other families. If he said, BMW cars are comfortable to sit on and really smooth to drive. Then I will tell him that we can work together as a family for a comfortable BMW car, and when financial conditions permit, we will also buy one. The reason why children are children and the reason why they need to be raised is that during their growth, they not only need material supplies, but also the correct \”three views\”. If he has been adversely affected and has negative emotions while growing up, he needs help from his parents to correct them. In this process, parents are the leader. If children do whatever they say and give them whatever they ask for, then wouldn’t the parents become submissive servants? What consequences do you think are waiting for you if you take orders from a child who can\’t tell right from wrong? Faced with the heated discussion, the father who bought a BMW for his child said this: \”If he only knows two lives, he can only choose between these two lives, but if he knows ten lives , he has ten choices. Only if he is well-informed and experienced enough, will his starting point be higher, and the realm he pursues will be higher… We don\’t want him to compare, and we don\’t want him to be the first. But I don’t want him to be in the last place, just above the average level…\” Poor parents in the world! The father was right. However, he did it wrong. A child\’s knowledge and experience cannot be improved by buying something for him that is beyond his financial ability. What can really improve your knowledge and enrich your experience should be reading and traveling. A person\’s inner firmness comes from the books he has read and the life he has seen. Reading allows people to travel through time and space, listen to sages, and see hundreds of lives. Traveling allows people to see the world clearly, reflect on themselves, and experience hundreds of lives. The money spent on buying a BMW is not as good as buying books. It’s okay not to join a circle that you can fit into with just a pair of brand-name shoes. Use books to pave the way, use dreams as horses, cultivate yourself, and carve yourself. One day, wherever you stand, a circle will quickly form with you as the core. At this time, you will be the real winner.