How would you feel if your child was asked: \”Are you afraid that your mother/father will grow old?\” In the latest issue of \”Where Are We Going, Dad\”, Jordan Chan\’s son Jasper was asked this question. At that time, Chen Xiaochun was sitting next to his son. Jasper was first asked, \”Do you miss your father when he is not at home?\” Jasper answered without hesitation: \”Yes.\” Then he was asked: \”Are you afraid that your father will grow old?\” Jasper smiled and said, \”No!\” At this time, Jordan Chan\’s expression was still smiling. When asked \”Why?\”, Jasper said: \”I don\’t like getting old!\” After thinking about it, he continued to explain because \”I have never seen my father grow old.\” At this time, Chen Xiaochun\’s expression had changed, and his expression could be clearly seen. His expression is serious and he tries to remain calm. At this time, Jasper continued to be asked: \”Then have you ever seen that some people\’s hair has turned white, their eyes have lost their sight, and they can\’t walk!\” Hearing such questions, Jasper, who was playing with toys easily, couldn\’t help but He became nervous and said: \”I don\’t want it, I want my father.\” \”Then what if one day my father gets old?\” This is Jasper\’s answer without thinking: \”I don\’t want it.\” After saying that, he looked at Jordan Chan. When he discovered that Jordan Chan When he cried, he quickly stood up and walked to Chen Xiaochun. While gently wiping away the tears from the corners of Chen Xiaochun\’s eyes, Jasper kept asking: \”Dad, what\’s wrong?\” Chen Xiaochun choked and said: \”I love you.\” Jasper wiped away and asked: \”Dad, what\’s wrong with your eyes and mouth?\” ?\” After he left, Chen Xiaochun couldn\’t bear it anymore, covered his face and cried bitterly. Although Cai\’er Ying\’s explanation for Jordan Chan\’s tears after the show was aired was: She is too old to withstand sensationalism. However, after becoming a parent, anyone who sees this scene will be moved, and everyone can understand Jordan Chan\’s mood! We have all welcomed the arrival of our children with excitement, and we have always happily looked forward to the child\’s growth. Whenever the child learns a new skill, we will say: \”The baby has grown up. Mom is so happy!\” Even every time we are exhausted by the tossing of our children, every time we abandon our best friends because of our children, we can\’t help but complain: \”Just grow up quickly, I will wait for you to grow up. I\’m relieved!\” But behind the relief and complaints, deep down in every parent\’s heart, they hope their children will grow slower, and they hope their children won\’t grow up so fast! Because every year a child grows up, it means he is one year older. As children become more mature and sensible, they become older and older. On the surface, what mothers are afraid of is that their children will have to face the fact that they are no longer young when they grow up. What they are afraid of is that wrinkles will gradually appear on their faces, their hair will turn white one by one, and they will slowly become hobbled. , afraid that I will grow old before I enjoy my youth enough. But is it really just a fear of lost youth? Deep down, what everyone is more afraid of is probably that they will not have the opportunity to accompany their children to grow up as they get older, that they will not have the opportunity to see their children grow up, and that they will become a burden in their children\’s lives!Therefore, while every parent is looking forward to the healthy growth of their children, they also hope that time will pass slower and the children will grow slower, so that they can have a healthy body and have more time and energy to accompany their children. Jordan Chan is already 50 this year, and his son Jasper is only 4 years old. By the time Jasper reaches adulthood, Jordan Chan is already in his 60s. How could he not be afraid of such an age difference? ! A friend of mine only welcomed the birth of his youngest son when he was in his 50s. Every time he went to the kindergarten to pick up his child, other parents would mistakenly think that he was the child\’s grandfather. My friend said: \”My biggest worry is not that I will be misunderstood, but that I will not be able to grow up with my children.\” For the sake of his children, my friend actively exercises every day. No matter how busy or tired he is at work, he takes the time to run, play ball, and swim. I hope that when my child grows up, I will still have the energy to play basketball with him. No matter how busy he is at work, he tries his best to take time to send his children to school and pick them up home. He said he hoped he could leave more warm memories in his children\’s memories. Another friend of mine also said this. This friend was diagnosed with liver cancer 10 years ago. After learning about her condition, her saddest thing was that she might never have the chance to see her daughter grow up. At that time, her daughter had just entered the third grade of elementary school. For the sake of her daughter, she chose to face it proactively. Fortunately, her condition was discovered early. After the operation, she strictly cooperated with the doctor in various treatments. The determination \”I must accompany my daughter to grow up\” gave her the greatest courage. After falling ill, my friend realized that she had given her child too little company, and that she had wasted so much time and energy on arguments and unhappiness with her daughter. She didn\’t know how long her body could last, but she decided that in the unknown days to come, she would work hard to give her children more high-quality company, so that even if she left one day, her children would still be remembered. Leave more warmth to my mother. After she recovered and was discharged from the hospital, her friend completely changed her attitude towards her daughter. Ten years later, she is now in good health, but she still works hard to follow the doctor\’s requirements for regular check-ups, maintains a healthy diet and daily rest, and maintains a healthy relationship with her daughter. Have the best relationship. Friends said that she should try to give her children more company. But not every mother is as lucky as this friend. Another mother was diagnosed with cancer when her child was more than 1 year old. Although she worked very hard to accompany her children, she still had to face the fact that the cancer cells were eroding crazily day by day. When the child was 5 years old, his friend completely left. As she was dying, her biggest regret was that she would never have the chance to accompany her children to grow up! Some people still have time to say goodbye to their children, while some people don\’t even have a chance to say goodbye to their children, and their lives are gone forever. At the end of September, a friend was on a business trip for work. When he left, he told his wife to celebrate his child\’s second birthday together when he came back. However, a friend unfortunately encountered an accident on the road and never came back… Many times, we always think that we still have a lot of time to accompany our children to grow up. We always think that the road ahead is still long, but the most unpredictable thing is the future. ! tomorrowNo one can predict which one will come first. But seizing every moment of the present, giving the children the warmest companionship, and leaving more warm scenes with their parents in the children\’s life memories is what every parent can do. Don\’t think that your children are still young and their lives are still long. Even though technology becomes more and more advanced, medical treatment becomes more and more advanced, and people’s lifespans get longer and longer, the time we spend with our children is still limited. Even if we can grow old with our children, we still have to face the fact that our children will grow up and leave us to spread their wings and fly away. Among all loves, there is one kind of love that points to separation, and this kind of love is the love between parent and child. When children are born, they need the meticulous care and companionship of their parents (especially mothers). When children can gradually turn over, sit up, and walk, they begin their own exploration of life. The day a child enters kindergarten is the beginning of his entry into society. From that day on, children are away from their parents for at least 8 hours a day. They have to face a strange environment, strange teachers and classmates independently. After going to school, the relationship between children and their parents becomes further. When they return home, daily study and homework also take up a lot of time. Parents can only give love at the dining table, on the way to and from school, and in the occasional gaps after returning home. Children accompany you. Once they enter adolescence, children are more determined to go into society. At that time, even if their parents want them to accompany them, the children will refuse. When children enter college, parents may only be able to communicate with their children briefly on the phone or through video… Every parent doesn’t want to face the growing distance from their children like this! Since the time we spend with our children is so short, should we re-evaluate our relationship with our children? Time is ruthless and we have no way to stop time! But we can change ourselves and leave more warmth in the children’s memories during the limited time we spend with them growing up!
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