Child, I won’t stop you from falling in love early

Puppy love is a derogatory term in the eyes of most Chinese parents. Most Chinese parents hold a negative attitude towards the issue of children\’s early love. They often have this habitual thinking: close contact between men and women = children\’s early love = impact on learning = impact on the future. In fact, the impact of computer games, mobile phones, etc. on children\’s learning is sometimes no less than the impact of puppy love. Schools are another important place to cooperate with parents in their fight against puppy love. In order to prevent students from falling in love early, many schools have made many rigid rules in school rules, some of which even make people laugh or cry. Unlike China, foreign countries advocate letting children know about love and sex early, but this can be seen from movies. Many foreign movies, such as \”Heartbeat\” and \”Little Children\”, convey to the audience the beauty of pure friendship and love between children. Heart-pounding childhood sweethearts. However, in the true sense, \”puppy love\” is a false proposition, and love never comes sooner or later. Most children still have a vague understanding of the opposite sex. The so-called \”like\” in children\’s mouth sometimes just means that they like to play with each other. Huang Lei, who has participated in \”Where Are We Going, Dad?\” once disclosed his views on his daughter Duoduo\’s relationship on Weibo. Huang Lei\’s father in the video is just as funny and wise as his screen image. He succinctly expressed his views on his daughter\’s love: \”My daughter wants to fall in love at the age of fifteen. I think it\’s normal.\” Huang Lei also boldly talked about how to guide his children. Correct understanding of sex: \”The logic of Chinese parental education is very bastard, including the word \”puppy love\”, which is very bastard! They should be guided in a healthy direction, including giving them a good education on sex and protecting themselves. Boys and girls can play together appropriately, but don\’t rush to try sex. If you really want to try sex, you must protect yourself and pay attention to safety. This is healthy guidance!\” Huang Lei once wrote a letter to his daughter Duoduo also mentioned the issue of love again in the letter, telling her daughter that it is not wrong to fall in love early, but she should also pay attention to study. Adolescent boys and girls will naturally develop curiosity about the opposite sex, want to get close to the opposite sex, and explore unknown areas. They are ignorant and think that this is love, which requires correct guidance from parents. Many cases of students committing suicide due to premature love are because parents fail to guide their children\’s cognition and relieve their emotions in time, which directly or indirectly leads to the loss of young lives. Parents’ guidance does not mean blindly denying and rejecting their children’s love, nor does it absolutely support it. For students who fall in love early, parents must not take an attitude of forcibly stopping or threatening them, such as: \”You are not allowed to associate with so-and-so\”, \”I will beat you if you fall in love\”, etc. Because children are likely to refuse to take the initiative to talk to their parents after hearing these threatening words. They may even think that they cannot communicate with their parents, and slowly begin to close their thoughts. As time goes by, children will develop a gap with their parents, and in severe cases, they may even develop mental illness. Yang Lan, a senior media person and mother of two children, expressed her support for her daughter’s early love and to enlighten other parents: “From my perspective, supporting early love is a kind of acceptance and respect for love.Puppy love is a hazy, simple, mutual love and appreciation. It arises spontaneously and is very pure. As parents, we cannot stop her. This is forcing her to go to extremes. And isn\’t this kind of relationship what we should pursue in life? All we need is the right guidance. \”So, how should parents guide their children to view love correctly? 1. Puppy love is not wrong. As children grow older, they will gradually have normal physiological reactions and have their own understanding of love. Puppy love is just a natural A physiological reaction is a special feeling for someone, which is beautiful and ignorant. Parents should guide their children to view such physiological reactions correctly, and never let their children have the idea of ​​\”I like boys (girls), I am Not a bad boy\” and other such ideas. 2. Distinguish the priority between learning and love. The subjects of early love are students, who are basically in the learning stage. While parents do not object to their children falling in love, they should emphasize to their children that learning is the priority and love is the priority. At this time, you can also use love as an \”assist\” in learning, and guide your children to fall in love and consider each other\’s future. Since you like each other, then learn and progress with each other. 3. Don\’t cross the line easily. Adolescent children have huge concerns about the body of the opposite sex. It\’s okay to pull the little hand out of curiosity, but you have to control the limits and don\’t break the bottom line, especially for girls. Some cross-border behaviors may cause lifelong harm to girls. Parents must timely sexualize their children Education in all aspects can correctly guide children to grow up healthily. In short, the problem of children\’s early love should be dealt with according to the situation: if the child\’s early love helps to promote the child\’s enthusiasm for learning, parents should give understanding, but should guide the child\’s correct view of love; When puppy love affects the performance of both parties, and even some extreme behaviors occur, parents should guide their children to realize that the main task at present is not to fall in love but to study.