Child Sexual Assault: Don’t let your unspeakability push your child into the abyss

I just read a piece of information: a 16-month-old baby girl was sexually assaulted and her diaper was covered in blood. Looking at the bloody diaper, I felt a dull pain in my heart, wishing I could develop superpowers and wipe out that beast. When I watched \”Sowon\”, I watched it twice without finishing it. It was a Korean movie about child sexual abuse. Just looking at the movie clips online made me burst into tears. But it tells a true story. A seven-year-old girl was sleeping in her home when a man broke into her house in the middle of the night and abducted her. She was raped and beaten, and later stabbed in the girl\’s vagina and intestines with branches and other hard objects. The girl was found by a nearby resident by a small river. It was raining at the time. The girl was in a severe coma, incontinent of urine and feces, and her flesh and blood were bloody. After being sent to the hospital for treatment, it was diagnosed that no part of the intestines was intact. The operation removed almost all of the child\’s intestines. The part between the vagina and the intestines was also completely destroyed. The vagina was infected with feces due to trauma. , the uterus is damaged, that is to say, the uterus, vagina, and intestines are all severely damaged. After being fitted with an artificial anus, this girl who should have bloomed like a flower will have to live with a poop bag for the rest of her life, and may not have menstruation and be infertile. The child was miserable, but she was not the only one. Not long ago, the 26-year-old Taiwanese female writer Lin Yihan was found by the police to have hanged herself at home. The reason is that she was sexually assaulted by a tutor when she was a student. (The world owes Lin Yihan and others a tight hug: This is not your fault) She used her own personal experience to create a novel \”Fang Siqi\’s First Love Paradise\”. He said that this story tortured and destroyed her life. . Until the end, he could not escape the abyss in his heart and finally chose to end his life. Forty-one-year-old Linkin Park frontman Chester Bennington hanged himself at his home in Los Angeles. The reason was inseparable from the seven-year sexual abuse he suffered when he was seven years old. (The light reappeared, but it failed to open his heart!) This shameful memory always accompanied him, and eventually became an insurmountable obstacle in his heart, and he finally chose to leave this world. According to data released by the Girls Protection Fund, there were 503 child sexual abuse cases exposed across the country in 2014, of which 442 were crimes committed by acquaintances, accounting for 87%. The \”Investigation Report on the Current Situation of Child Sexual Abuse\” released by Xinhua News Agency in 2016 showed that there were 968 child sexual abuse cases exposed from 2013 to 2015 alone, with more than 1,790 child victims. These inhumane child sexual abuse incidents will not decrease because of our anger, nor will they stop because of your ignorance. On the contrary, these incidents are lurking around us like devils. They are people we trust, people we know well, or they may be our loved ones. The person who violated the 16-month-old baby girl was a neighbor who was very trusted by the child\’s parents. Because of their trust, they temporarily asked him to help take care of the child, but they did not want to cause such a tragedy. In the movie, Suyuan, who was violated, had to suffer through repeated identification trials after causing irreparable harm, and the criminal did not receive a heavy sentence, but this is the reality of society. We bothIf you are unable to change this society, then change yourself first. Since you cannot prevent these things from happening, then take precautions before they happen. There are many parents around me, including mine, who never teach their children about sex, and even talk about sexual perversion. Some people think this is a topic that cannot be discussed, even teachers. I still remember that there was a chapter in the biology textbook for the first grade of junior high school about the human body diagram about understanding the differences between men and women. When we were originally expecting what the biology teacher would say, the teacher turned it into a self-study course for us in that class. I didn’t learn about the differences between men and women until I was in junior high school, and I also taught myself. I believe it’s not just our school that does this. In the past, the most practiced thing in school was the escape routes and actions in case of fire, but no one would ever tell us, what should you do when you are raped? What are you going to do? Call the police or shut up? Burns caused by fire are scars on the body, but sexual assault is a wound that will never heal in their lifetime. The wound keeps oozing pus and makes them sick to the point of going crazy… I once saw a mother and her son at a subway entrance in Hong Kong. The little boy, who was being held by his mother, pointed to the big-breasted female star on the billboard with a serious look on his face and asked his mother: Why is your grandma not as big as hers? Some of the people around him turned their heads away in embarrassment, some covered their mouths and snickered, and there were even a group of people with obscene eyes waiting to see the joke. However, the boy’s mother was not embarrassed at all, and just smiled and said to her child: Because of mom’s. Grandma feeds the baby. When the baby grows up, the mother\’s grandma becomes smaller without milk. The little boy thought carefully and then threw himself into his mother\’s arms. I think that facing children\’s problems head on, simple and straightforward, is the best sex education I have ever seen. Sex is not a scourge, and sex education is not obscene and evil. Sex education is part of early childhood education, and it is nothing more than a course that teaches children to understand their own bodies, understand life, and know how to protect themselves.