Child, these two words are required lessons in your life.

\”Go your own way and let others tell you!\” We regard the master\’s words as truth and tell our children by the way. We hope that our children will become people who insist on themselves and understand right and wrong, but we also require them to be obedient, well-behaved, and show their authority as parents. Will the children dare to refuse your request? Blind obedience is worse than rejection. Children who know how to refuse will be good. Children who know how to refuse have the courage to receive a call from a friend yesterday. She poured out her bitterness and complained repeatedly to her 10-year-old son Lele. \”Do you know? I have gone to school twice this week! The head teacher called and said that he contradicted the teacher and refused to cooperate with the class leader\’s work… He used to listen to everything, but now he has become a problem child!\” she said She was so emotional that I tried to calm her down and asked her what happened. It turns out that the little guy didn\’t contradict the teacher, but the teacher asked them to copy the text that day. Each of them had to copy the text 5 times, and he had clearly written the entire text accurately with the teacher. As for the conflict with his classmates, it was because their monitor had wronged him. He was angry because he didn\’t do his duty and was lazy. He argued with the monitor for a few words… When I found out what happened, I laughed. How is this a problem? This is just Lele\’s brave \”struggle\”. It takes a lot of courage to dare to stand up and express your thoughts. It is easy to accept, but it is not easy to stand up and say no. We are used to seeing children who are submissive in front of teachers and parents. Little do we know that children also have ideas. As for whether they dare to express their ideas, this needs to test the child\’s courage. We don’t teach children to rebel against authority, but we teach them to have the courage to face challenges. Children who know how to say no are more understanding. I recently saw a request for help posted by a girl on the Internet. She wrote: \”Growing up, I have always been a good child who listened to my parents. I obeyed them on everything, from dressing to choosing schools, including my current job, which is what my parents think is good. … But I\’m not happy. People in my workplace think I\’m easy to bully. I work overtime every day and I\’m criticized by my boss from time to time. But I don\’t dare to say anything and can only accept it.\” At the end of the article, she said: \”I\’m 26 years old and I never know what I want.\” Is it sad? When I was in my 20s, I was like a headless fly with no goals. I was like a zombie, reduced to mediocrity. Many children are like this girl. They listen to their parents, study hard, and only know that they will get good grades, go to a good university, and have a good job in the future. Then their parents will be happy, and they will be considered a \”good child\” in their parents\’ eyes. However, Never asked myself, what do I want? Children who know how to refuse take the initiative in making choices. Children who dare to say \”no\” to their parents\’ arrangements and teachers\’ dogma often know better what they need. Because they understand themselves, they dare to refuse some \”extra\” things. like. People are self-aware and refuse the kindness of their parents. They just want to work hard for a more brilliant bloom tomorrow. If you learn to refuse, you will learn to make a choice. \”Little Separation\” has made countless parents ponder. The choice is always an unsolvable puzzle. In reality, I saw many children acting calmly with a look of confusion on their faces when they received the admission notice.There is a sense of relaxation that \”I can tell my parents that I can give it to my parents\”; there are also many children who argue with their parents when applying for schools, and work hard towards the school and major they like. In fact, there is nothing wrong with it. Every choice made is the child\’s responsibility for his own life. Parents are bystanders of their children\’s growth, not manipulators. Children are treasures we hold in our hands, not puppets held in our hands. Don\’t let your child make decisions, teach him to choose! When one day, the child stands alone at the crossroads of life, he will not cry helplessly and be confused, but will be able to hold his head high and choose a direction that suits him and stride forward! Leo Tolstoy said, \”Choose what you like and love what you choose.\” Choice is an essential ability that parents need to teach their children. If your child dares to reject your \”good intentions\”, insist on himself, and say \”no\” to temptation, then congratulations, your child must be good! Don\’t be afraid that your children will refuse. Blind obedience is foolish.