Children are no longer learning piano at the best age. Should parents force it or give up?

Everyone else is learning a talent, but if their child doesn’t want to learn it, doesn’t like it, and doesn’t see any talent, should parents force it? This article applies to talents in various arts and sports, such as: piano, violin, art, chess… Last night I received an emergency call from a friend saying that his child was unwilling to learn piano. It has been a pain for both adults and children for a period of time. He persisted, but now he was shaken and asked me if I wanted to persist. But with such painful persistence, he saw his child unhappy and couldn\’t bear it himself. I believe there are many friends who are so confused. With the development of society, parents are paying more and more attention to their children\’s education. Many parents let their children learn some specialties in instrumental music, vocal music, art, sports, etc. from an early age. However, sometimes parents are so picky that their children are unwilling to learn and do not like it. The whole family suffers greatly from learning every day. Are you insisting on it reluctantly? Or give up decisively? How to choose? To be honest, I don\’t know either. In fact, how many questions about educating children can be answered clearly in just a few sentences? If it were that easy, education would no longer be a professional subject that combines art and technology. I thought about it again and again, not knowing how to answer. If I killed a future art master because of my answer and gave up, wouldn’t I be ashamed of the entire human race? If the child has any psychological problems in the future because of my answer and persistence, haven’t I ruined an innocent and lovely child? What a dilemma. Later, I answered this: First ask yourself why? Why did you choose to learn this talent for your children in the first place? Is it because everyone else is learning and I’m afraid my child will fall behind? Is it because this talent is so popular? Is it because this talent can give you extra points when taking exams? Is it because you want your children to realize their childhood dreams? Is it because I happen to know a teacher with this talent? Is it because of seeing a very tempting advertisement? Is it because I caught up with the discount trial? …You haven’t thought about this issue carefully yourself, right? Isn’t it a bit unreliable to ask your children to do something that you haven’t thought clearly about yet? If you sign up your child for study because of the reasons I listed above, they don’t seem to be reliable! So what kind of reasons for learning are reliable? Because kids like it. Because it was found that the child showed interest in this area, and even had a little talent. Because I want my children to try it and explore their interests through experimentation. Because I want my children to feel more influenced by art (or other aspects). …I think these reasons all belong to your responsible thinking, which proves that when you make decisions, you use your brain, not your toes. Let me ask you again, have you asked your children for their opinions? Well, before learning, have you asked your child for his opinion and told him what you have chosen for him to learn, why you want to learn this, and whether the child likes it and is he willing? Have you ever told your children how wonderful it is to learn this talent, but it also requires a lot of hardship. Have you shown him the masters and works of this talent to stimulate his interest and yearning? Yes, the child is your child, but the child is also an independent individual with his own ideas and spiritual needs. You asked him to do something, but what?It didn\’t seem appropriate to not even tell him. What, you said that children don’t understand anything anyway, so they can learn even if they don’t understand? He may not understand some of the principles, and he may not understand the meaning of learning this talent, but he has his own preferences, and he knows what he wants to do and what he doesn\’t want to do. It is precisely because he half-understands that he needs your company, understanding, help, guidance and support even more. Then ask how you arrange the time, content, and practice for your children to learn talents. If you decide to let your child learn this talent, you will definitely hire a teacher and choose a training institution. The teacher will provide teaching materials, arrange study plans, assign homework for each class, and check it next time. Among them, you, the parent, play an important role in choosing teachers and institutions, arranging study time, and doing a lot of exercises after class. If there is a problem in any link, it will affect the child\’s learning effect. Teachers who are too rigid and strict, teaching content that is too difficult and boring, and rewards and punishments that are unreasonable will all affect children\’s enthusiasm for learning. You arrange a lot of exercises for your child every day without considering his tolerance and actual needs – for example, he needs to play and relax after school, for example, he needs your company and encouragement during practice, for example, the content of learning needs to meet the needs of His hobbies, etc., it is not surprising that the child is unwilling to learn. Then ask what your expectations are for your child to learn this talent. If you let your child study, do you hope that he will continue to study, take exams, and take a professional route in the future? Or do you want him to have a skill that will make him even more powerful on the road to education? Or maybe you just want him to have a hobby, entertain himself, and cultivate his sentiments? Different expectations require different efforts. If you want to take the professional route, you will naturally have to put in more effort than ordinary people. If it is just for self-entertainment, then from the teaching materials to the practice content and time, it does not need to be too difficult or intense. Finally, have you analyzed the pros and cons of persisting or giving up? In fact, the above issues should be considered clearly when you plan to let your children learn. Willing to learn. Going back to your troubles, no matter what the reason is, your child is unwilling to continue learning. Whether you persist or give up is up to you. Before making a decision, analyze the pros and cons of both options. The advantage of persistence is to cultivate children\’s perseverance, the quality of never giving up when encountering difficulties, and the quality of facing difficulties. It may only benefit you for life. The disadvantage is that it may affect the child\’s mental health if not handled properly. This is much more serious than mastering a talent. The advantage of giving up is that the parent-child relationship will be more harmonious, the children will be satisfied, and the burden will be reduced. The disadvantage is that it may inadvertently cause the child to develop a thinking mode, giving up without trying when encountering difficulties, and not doing things he doesn’t want to do. In the future, he may use this way of thinking in his life. Deal with all problems. This is much more serious than giving up on learning a skill. Okay, if you think about these questions carefully, you should have answers. Learning a talent is not a trivial matter. You must not just make a decision with a slap on the forehead, and then rush to plug the holes when you encounter problems. Decided to start learningBefore learning and deciding to give up, just like anything else, you need to think twice before taking action!