\”Children are not sensible.\” \”But he is annoying.\”

Today’s topic starts with a story. The family was eating at a hot pot restaurant, and the adults were chatting and drinking happily, completely ignoring the children running around in the hot pot restaurant. The children deliberately knocked over the tea poured by the waiter and kicked the corners of other guests\’ tables while others were in chaos, but the adults didn\’t care. The child ran to secretly take a girl\’s mobile phone that was placed on the corner of the table, but the adults didn\’t care. The girl found out in time and took away the mobile phone. The child didn\’t succeed and ran back to her mother to complain. She pointed at the girl and said, \”Mom, she won\’t let me play with her mobile phone.\” The child\’s mother finally spoke: Oh, just talk to your sister and ask her to lend it to you to play with. So the child ran over again and wanted to play with his mobile phone. The girl refused, so he simply climbed onto the chair and spit a few mouthfuls of saliva into the girl\’s hot pot. The girl collapsed instantly and approached the store owner and the child\’s parents, hoping they could discipline the child. Then, the child\’s mother spoke again: \”You are a child, you are not sensible, just give in.\” The shop owner was also helpless and took the initiative to replace the girl\’s table with a soup pot. The matter seemed to be over at this point, and the parents acted as if nothing had happened. The girl continued to eat with her friends, but the child\’s proud look seemed to be a bit unfinished. After a while, the girl\’s friend went to the toilet, and the girl sat alone at the table. The child suddenly ran over, climbed onto the seat opposite the girl in an instant, picked up the hot pot of soup and poured it on the girl\’s head and face. A good-looking girl had her face severely burned. She had offended someone and ended up with a disfigured face. This is a story I saw in a friend’s repost of “How Terrible Children’s Evil Is (Text/Senior Amo)”. The reason why I say it is a story is because I am even more reluctant to believe that it is true. It’s so worrying! Your children are young, and if they are not sensible, the whole world will give in. The ignorance in childhood will turn into the uneducatedness in childhood, and then the malicious harm to others. No matter whether they are innocent victims, pampered children, or even parents who lack education, they cannot bear the consequences of this kind of twisted personality. I don’t know what the child’s parents would think at the moment when the girl was tearing apart and screaming. I\’ve thought about it a lot. First, when you encounter such a nasty kid when you go out in the future, you must have a sense of precaution. You really can’t underestimate the evil of the other person by thinking that he is a child. Second, if you can\’t afford to offend, you can hide. Especially when you have children around you, it doesn\’t matter if you are a little cowardly. Protecting your children is the most important thing. Third, reflect on yourself and don’t be a bear parent. You should take care of things that need to be done. You will never be lenient. You must not let your children go to sin. But… my children are naughty at best, far from sinful… I think this may be what more mothers think. Indeed, turning to crime is a particularly extreme example, and we firmly believe that our IQ can judge the difference between naughty and harmful. However, if a child is accustomed to only care about himself in little things without considering the feelings of others, he will definitely become an unpopular or even hated person when he grows up. Does this also violate our original intention of pampering our children? Last weekend, Grandma Liu\’s friend came to my mother\’s house with her grandson, and I happened to be there with Liuliu. The grandma at the dinner table directlyThe plate of chicken wings was brought to the little grandson, and he said with a smile, \”My grandson likes chicken wings the most. You don\’t mind if I put them here.\” I didn\’t have the nerve to say anything, so after looking at Liuliu\’s eager expression, I put a chicken wing in each of Liuliu\’s and Grandma Liu\’s bowls. Let\’s eat Liuliu, let\’s all eat together. After saying this, when he was about to put one in each of my and Dad\’s bowls, the big fat grandson suddenly spat into the plate and said proudly, \”I have passed the mark.\” These are all mine, no one of you is allowed to touch them! I was stunned at that time, and I took back my chopsticks in mid-air in embarrassment. In fact, Grandma Six made enough portions that day. Even if each person divided a few, there would still be a lot left over. The grandma was calm and said to us with a smile, \”This child has always been like this at home. He is spoiled. He is a child and is not sensible. Don\’t be as knowledgeable as him.\” Of course, I don’t have the same understanding as him, but I am deeply worried about how much kindness and understanding such a child who can cause trouble without realizing it will get from people when he grows up under the neglect and neglect of his parents. , how will they be treated by society. A friend said that her home had just experienced an \”accident\”. Children from relatives came to play at home. Oh no, she said, it was a robbery. As soon as she entered the house that day, a child suddenly rushed out and made faces at her, with bright lipstick on his mouth. My friend could tell at a glance that it was the rose color of Serge Lutens that she bought recently. She was furious at that time and rushed into the bedroom immediately. The sight in front of her almost scared her to death. The cosmetics on the table, in the makeup bag, and even in the drawer were rummaged through, the eyebrow pencil was broken, the powder was broken, the essence was spilled everywhere, and several tubes of lipstick were used as paintbrushes. Hearing her loud scream, the friend\’s mother and the child\’s grandmother rushed in. Facing the scene in front of her, the child\’s grandmother said, oh my, the child is naughty, you will know when you have children! Before his friend could react, the naughty boy picked up the lipstick on the table and said unceremoniously, I like this, I want to take it away! My friend grabbed it and said angrily, \”No!\” If the child\’s grandma doesn\’t want to, isn\’t she just going to give you a lipstick? It\’s a worthless thing, so stingy. The relatives left angrily, and the friends felt aggrieved. Her children are uneducated, so why are they so confident that it\’s all my fault? In fact, parenting is really a process of constant introspection and improvement. Compared with those parents who do not pay attention to restraining their children, I just realized it earlier. Before, Liuliu was pampered in various ways at home. When sitting around the dinner table with the adults, I would use a spoon to stir the food on the plate repeatedly. Grandma Liu said, \”What do children know? It will get better when they grow up.\” I put my bag within easy reach and started to turn over mine. In the backpack, I found out that the things were messed up. Grandma Six said, if you look through it, it won’t get damaged. She is so old, why bother with her. Although I was more concerned about cultivating her self-discipline in public places, subconsciously I felt that it would not affect anyone too much at home, so I just said a few words to her indifferently and let her go. But later, after hearing more and more stories about naughty kids getting into trouble and even hurting others, and experiencing more things about naughty kids being selfish, tyrannical, and unreasonable, I felt deeplyRealize that this view is seriously wrong. If you haven\’t developed good habits at home since you were a child, and you don\’t even know what is right or wrong at all, you will naturally do wrong things when you grow up. If you lack the education your family should give you when you are young, you will inevitably receive education from society when you grow up. The first time you make a mistake is a sign of ignorance. If the parents don\’t pay attention to it and communicate with the child to correct it, the second time it is a lack of education. Almost all parents can easily complain about the experience of being annoyed by other naughty children, but they unconsciously feel that \”it will be better when they grow up\” when their children influence others. Children are very smart, and you can feel from your protective words that this matter is not important and this approach does not need to be corrected. If things go on like this, he will not naturally get better, but will naturally become an annoying adult. Now, I pay more attention to educating Liuliu about these seemingly small mistakes, because she will always eat at the same table with others in the future and will always see other people\’s bags in front of her eyes. Even though it is an extreme case where a distorted personality turns into a big mistake, just to prevent your children from growing up to be annoying people, you should always warn yourself to take precautions. Young age should not be an excuse to allow children to lose their upbringing.