Children are smart at home, but why do they become stupid at school?

In the community, there is a child named \”Tailun\”, and everyone who hears this name thinks it is very fashionable. His mother would proudly explain: \”Tailun is the homophone of talent, because his father and I both hope that he will have the potential of being a genius since he was a child.\” Tai Lun began to read when he was one and a half years old, and started learning English at the age of three. At the age of four, he could already do simple math problems. Tai Lun, who has just entered elementary school, can already recite dozens of ancient poems fluently. He is not troubled by addition, subtraction and simple multiplication and division within 100. As long as there is no adult who has met Tai Lun, there is no one who does not praise him for his intelligence. After entering school, Tai Lun did quickly show his talent for learning. But this situation did not last long. More and more \”X\” appeared on Tai Lun\’s homework. Even the teacher called his mother: \”Tailun was originally in the middle and upper reaches of the class, but now he is in the middle and lower reaches.\” It\’s slipping. You mother, you should pay more attention to your children!\” My mother was very aggrieved. She didn\’t take care of Tai Lun\’s food, clothing, housing, transportation, homework exercises, physical ethics and beauty meticulously. But looking at Tai Lun\’s math test paper with a score of 70, her mother was also puzzled: Why did the children who were outstanding before going to school \”become stupid\” after going to school? Coincidentally, another friend also complained to me: \”Every time my child brings the test paper home, I get angry. What makes me angry is not that he can\’t do it, but that he can do it at home. It’s over, but I still can’t do it! There’s also dictation, which is basically correct at home, but when I get to school I always make mistakes here and there.” All these things often give people the feeling that “children are smart at home, but become stupid when they get to school.” . This feeling usually manifests itself in two aspects. One is that the child was smart and learned a lot of knowledge before going to school, but his grades are mediocre after school. The other is that the child still gets the questions wrong when he or she gets to school, even though he or she can do the questions at home. Dear parents and friends, don’t rush to blame the teacher. Let’s first think about why this happens? Thinking that children have become \”stupid\” is itself an illusion caused by comparison. The child is still the same child, but the reality is: being smart as a child ≠ being smart after school. Li Hongyan, an outstanding head teacher at the Primary School Affiliated to Tsinghua University, once took part in an entrance exam for primary school freshmen. He asked the children: \”Can you count?\” All the children puffed up their little chests and said loudly: \”Yes!\” Some children were even proud of it. Said: \”I can keep counting to 100!\” Teacher Li asked: \”What about counting backwards from 72?\” Many children couldn\’t count. From this simple test, we can see that parents have common problems with their children’s preschool training. In order to develop intelligence as early as possible, many parents actively train their children in reading, writing and arithmetic before they go to school, for fear that their children will fall behind others. Around me, many 5- and 6-year-old children would recite the \”Three Character Classic\” and \”Disciple Rules\” with their heads shaking. Many adults may not be able to memorize it, so they thought the children were smart and powerful and clapped their hands and applauded them. But when you ask him: \”What does this sentence mean?\” the child falters and cannot answer. Because this academic knowledge does not meet the cognitive characteristics of children of this age, even if children can memorize it by parroting, they do not understand it.untie. Therefore, after going to school, the results of these children are not ideal, especially in mathematics, and their brains are always unable to turn around. The reason why we send our children to school is precisely because there is a big difference between family education and formal school education. Primary school homework is not very difficult, and children have been exposed to many of the contents before going to school. However, what preschool education lacks is the systematicity and standardization of knowledge. Due to the lack of systematic training and a single teaching method, children seem to have learned it, but in fact they have not really digested it. Of course, reciting and learning arithmetic early are beneficial and can help children integrate into school learning more quickly, but parents cannot use \”reciting more\” or \”calculating quickly\” as a measure of their children\’s intelligence. Learning at the primary school level requires cultivating children\’s abilities in many aspects, and memory and calculation skills are just the tip of the iceberg. Therefore, before entering school, parents cannot make their children learn knowledge in a \”Great Leap Forward\” style. What is more important is to cultivate their logical thinking ability and good living and study habits. Lay the \”foundation\” well and then learn knowledge after going to school, and everything will fall into place naturally. How can I get the questions wrong when I take the exam when I can do them at home? In fact, children have not \”become stupid\”. The reality is: they become stupid at home ≠ they become stupid at school. Knowledge is like the \”arms\” of the mind. As long as you really know it, you will be invincible wherever you go. If you feel that your child will not be able to do what he knows at home but not in school, it must be because he is not \”armed\” with knowledge. The specific reasons may be due to the following aspects. First, parents tutor their children \”one-on-one\”, while teachers teach their children \”one-on-one\”. Recently, a funny animated picture has become popular in the parent circle. In the picture, a mother is holding a kitchen knife while three children in front of her are doing their homework, very seriously. The parents around them have a strong deterrent effect on their children. As a result, the children must be highly concentrated and naturally rarely make typos. But in school, the teacher has to face dozens of students and no one is keeping an eye on the children, so he can easily get distracted. In addition, when he made mistakes at home, his parents helped him point them out, but when he got to school, no one helped him check. The mistakes were not discovered until the teacher corrected them, so there were naturally more \”×\”s in the homework book. Second, teachers and parents have different requirements for children. Take dictation as an example. Teachers will use the average speed of most students in the class as the standard and cannot take into account every child. Parents always use the speed of their own children as the standard. Some \”slow\” students who can always write correct words at home may make mistakes because they can\’t keep up with the teacher\’s pace. Some children, even if they can barely keep up with the teacher\’s speed, do not have enough time to think and check, and are prone to making mistakes. Third, the home environment is different from the exam environment. At home, children have to face the \”spying\” of their parents. In the examination room, children face real tests. The quality of their grades will involve many things, and they will eventually have to give an explanation to their parents. Therefore, the nervousness of taking an exam will definitely exceed the nervousness of being watched at home. Children with poor psychological quality may memorize knowledge well at ordinary times, but their brains will go blank when the exam comes. Fourth, children usually have little accumulation and have not laid a solid foundation. Although they know it superficially, they have not actually mastered core knowledge. Some children usually learn horse racingHuhu, when the exam is approaching, will review suddenly. Sometimes he can get through with his cleverness, but he \”knows it, but doesn\’t know why.\” The knowledge learned is not firmly imprinted in the mind, and it is improvised, but it loses the continuity and comprehensiveness of knowledge. If you take the test a few times, your flaws will be revealed. All in all, family tutoring cannot replace school teaching after all. Especially for some regular or methodological problems, such as math application problems, parents have clearly explained them at home, but when the children take the test at school, they don\’t know how to do it, and they have to \”make up lessons\” when they go home; and the school has systematic teaching methods and professional Our teaching team not only teaches children a question, but also cultivates their ability to draw inferences from one example. Whether it is family education or school education, their common goal is to cultivate children into talents that society needs, and the degree of role talents have in society is reflected in cognition and emotion. School education cultivates people\’s cognition and enables students to systematically learn scientific and cultural knowledge, while family education is the basis for the formation of people\’s emotions and moral character. School education and family education have different divisions of labor. The two promote each other and are indispensable. Nowadays, many families put the cart before the horse. The main task of children in school is to study. When they return home, the main task is still to study. The family has become a supplement to the school, but the cultivation of habits, emotions and moral character has been ignored. Therefore, when children learn, they should “learn it at school and then learn it at home” rather than “learn it first at home and then learn it at school.” Studies have proven that many of children\’s study habits have been formed in the lower grades of primary school. If they feel that their children have become \”stupid\”, parents should look for reasons from their children\’s study habits and attitudes, and cultivate good study habits in their children as early as possible. The only way Only in this way can children be \”smart at home and smart at school.\”