Children lose their temper and yell when they don’t get what they want! Mothers only need the following four tips to help their children learn to calmly respond and benefit a lot.

It seems to be a common scene for children to lose their temper and yell. When going out shopping, the child suddenly clamors to buy new toys; when doing homework at home, he becomes furious if something goes wrong; a parent\’s unintentional words may also make the child lose control of his mood. Sometimes we all wonder, do these children have serious temper management problems? In fact, it is not uncommon for children to lose their temper. This is simply because the part of their brain responsible for emotion regulation is not fully developed yet. As parents, don’t worry, let’s guide our children in the right way. With just four tricks, they can learn to deal with it calmly, which will be of infinite benefit to them in the future. Step 1: Understand the reasons behind children’s tantrums. We are often confused and angry about children’s tantrums, but we rarely explore why children do this. In fact, there is a unique reason behind every behavior of a child. Just like the iceberg theory says, the behaviors displayed by children are only a small part of the surface, while most of the inner world is hidden under the sea and we cannot see it. When a child gets angry and yells, he may be feeling angry and frustrated, such as not getting what he wants. There is a accumulation of negative emotions in the heart, such as anxiety, fear, etc., which need to be vented. Lacking the correct way to express emotions, yelling becomes the only outlet. Want to attract attention and seek attention and love from adults. We must learn to put ourselves in someone else\’s shoes and look at problems from a child\’s perspective. Use patience and empathy to understand his inner thoughts and needs instead of directly denying his behavior. The second step: teach children how to express their emotions. The reason why children lose control of their emotions is because they have not learned the correct way to express their emotions. We can start from every bit of life and guide children to express their inner feelings in appropriate language and methods. For example, when a child is angry, we can say: \”You look very angry now. Are you feeling frustrated because of xx? You can tell your mother what you are angry about.\” After listening to the child\’s appeal, , we can teach him some other ways to vent his emotions, such as deep breathing, writing in a diary, drawing, etc. Let your children know that yelling is not a good way to solve the problem. On the contrary, it will affect the people around them. Slowly, children will learn to express their emotions in more appropriate ways. The third tip: Cultivate children\’s emotional management ability. In addition to expressing emotions, we also need to teach children how to effectively manage their emotions so that they can learn to self-regulate. Once a child masters the ability to manage emotions, he will no longer be so easily carried away by emotions. We can start with the little things in life: when children start to lose control of their emotions, ask them to stop and take a few deep breaths to calm down. Teach children to think from other people\’s perspective, put themselves in others\’ shoes, and learn to empathize with others. Give affirmation and praise, and praise the child for remaining calm despite setbacks. Discuss the importance of emotional regulation with your child and help him build emotional awareness. Let children understand different types of emotions by playing games, watching videos, etc. Cultivate children bit by bitWith their awareness of emotional management, when they grow up, they will be able to deal with various environments calmly and will not be easily overwhelmed by negative emotions. The fourth tip: Lead by example and set a good example for your children. Parents themselves are their children\’s best role models and teachers. The actions we show at all times are more convincing than the many good words we say. When we ourselves lose control of our emotions, our children learn that this is acceptable behavior. But if parents can always demonstrate appropriate management of emotions in life, children can learn and imitate them. We can handle various emotions in our lives and let our children see that we express our feelings in the right way instead of venting them by getting angry or yelling. When encountering setbacks, parents can take the opportunity to show their children how to stay calm and solve problems rationally. Unconsciously, children will internalize their parents\’ emotional management methods into their own behavioral patterns, which will benefit them throughout their lives. In this way, a virtuous circle of family is formed. Written at the end: Children’s tantrums are not a big problem, but a normal stage of their brain development. As parents, we only need to guide our children in appropriate ways and let them learn to manage their emotions with love and patience, and the benefits will be endless. I hope these four tips will be helpful to your family, and you are welcome to share your experiences.