Children love to show off, is it because they are ignorant or lack of tutoring?

We spare no effort to teach our children how to avoid harm, but we forget to remind our children that it is equally important not to harm others, so we inadvertently harm our children. A while ago, the topic of South Korean President Park Geun-hye\’s \”best friend interfering in politics\” dominated the headlines of major online news. While feeling sad, it reminded me of her autobiography \”Despair Trained Me\” that I had read before. When Park Geun-hye was still young, her father came to power and her family moved to the Blue House. This was originally something worth celebrating, because after all, not everyone can have such an experience, and she may receive some preferential treatment because her father is the president. But for the young Park Geun-hye, life in the Blue House Not everything is as beautiful as expected. Compared with ordinary people, many taboos are inevitable. His mother\’s most common teaching was \”Don\’t show off to others what you have.\” Because no one else has it, and with such a special identity, showing off will not only hurt others, but may also cause unexpected harm to yourself. Park Geun-hye has been cautious in her words and deeds since she was a child, living a low-key life, and spent her childhood peacefully. Children Showing Off Toys Although the lives of us ordinary people are not so special, many children will behave like this inadvertently. In the community where we live, we often see such a scene. Neighbors are chatting in the leisure area, and children are playing around. They are enjoying themselves. However, if you just sit there and rest quietly and inadvertently observe these children playing together, you may hear a child say: \”Look, my mother bought me this, do you have it?\” His playmates cast envious glances, and a flash of disappointment flashed across their red cheeks. Seeing this, the bragging child became even more proud, and eagerly added: \”Haha, I knew you didn\’t! My mother loves me the most. Oh, this is so valuable! You definitely can’t buy it!” Some children will silently walk away and sneer; some children will take advantage of this and rush to the adults and start crying: “Mom, I want it too, I want it too… …\” This is great. The child with the toy was completely satisfied and returned to his toy. If we think deeply, we can\’t help but be surprised that what makes him happy is not the toy itself, but the sense of vanity this toy brings to him. He is so young. Situations like this are common to us and we are accustomed to them. We don’t think there’s anything wrong with it, let alone think about it deeply. Ancient precedents make people be cautious in their words and deeds. It is in our nature to more or less want to be recognized by others or unattainable envy. The same is naturally true in the nature of children. If the child is not sensible because he is young, then that’s it. . As he grows up, he will slowly learn and will not remain the same. However, on the contrary, the love and vanity of some children will be like a sapling, which grows day by day because it is watered by the satisfaction brought by showing off in daily life, and grows into a towering tree that is unable to support itself and is in danger. This can be seen from the historical facts of the past dynasties. \”History of the North·Biography of Heba\” records: \”All the ministers were respectful and frugal, but Heba was fond of cultivating a false reputation and showing off his reputation.\” Heba, a native of Daijun, was a general in the Northern Wei Dynasty during the Southern and Northern Dynasties. Heba is wiseAs a strategist, he was famous for his talent and eloquence. Emperor Daowu Tuobagui promoted him to a foreign minister and participated in the planning of major military and state affairs. Because Heba\’s many missions were in compliance with the decree, he was appointed General Longxiang and was given the title of Rinan Gong. In the first year of Tianxing (398), he followed Emperor Wu of Dao to pacify the Central Plains and was promoted to minister for his merit. In the second year of Tianxing (399), Li Bian, the chief official of Nanyan, betrayed Nanyan and asked Heba for help. Heba led the light cavalry to rescue Li Bian, and Heba captured Nanyan\’s concubines and treasury assets. After Murongde learned about it, he sent three thousand cavalry to attack Heba. Heba attacked the Yan army, defeated it and captured more than a thousand Yan army soldiers. After Heba, he was granted the title of Duke of Dingling and served as the governor of Pingyuan. It is said that He Ba has achieved success in his life, but he naturally loves vanity. Emperor Daowu favored and treated Heba more favorably than other generals. At that time, all the ministers advocated respect and frugality, but Heba was greedy for fame and was arrogant and extravagant. Emperor Daowu warned him, but he did not correct himself. Later, Emperor Daowu executed Heba when he was touring Mount Jackal in the north. Showing off is actually a part of human nature. If we cannot make good use of it ourselves and guide our children correctly, we can simply blurt out: \”Look, look, you made Xiao Ming cry, go, let Let him play with your little plane for a while.\” \”No, I don\’t. What if it breaks, I won\’t let him play with it.\” The child replied stubbornly. \”Hey, you are so naughty, take it home and play with it.\” This ordinary little thing passed by. Then, it may have a mild or severe impact on people\’s lives, just like history repeating itself. This is not alarmist. Little things like this happen around us every day. If we encounter our own children doing these things, we will inevitably begin to see these truths slowly. \”Children are young and ignorant\” is just a perfunctory excuse for us as parents. In fact, children have their own cognitive world just like us, and have their own complete processing system for everything, but they are just different from us. What we have to do is to understand the children deeply and convey the correct ideas in a way they can understand. Children are not like us. It is difficult to change the concepts formed over many years. Their world is very simple. As long as we use the right method, it will be easy for the children. Accept it, thereby forming correct values ​​and growing healthily