Children, no one in this world can only do what they like

I signed up my 5-year-old daughter for an English learning class. She takes classes once a week. I don’t expect her to learn well or get high marks in the exams in the future. I just hope that she can develop some sense of language during her language-sensitive period. Besides, the classes in the class are mainly It is mainly about playing and entertaining. This Monday night was the second class, and her father took her there. After returning home from class, her father taught me his daughter\’s original words. \”Actually, I don\’t like to learn English. It was my mother who misheard me and misunderstood my \’dislike\’ as \’like\’.\” After saying that, her father added, \”Listen more to your children. Respect the child\’s choice.\” I was a little angry when I heard it, and my voice unconsciously increased several times. \”According to her, it\’s best not to learn anything, go out to play every day, go home and watch cartoons, and have delicious food when you\’re hungry. This is what she likes.\” Then I dug out what happened last weekend. My daughter has a dance class every Saturday morning, and several of her classmates learn it together. Last Saturday, when I was not at home, the two of us hit it off immediately. We didn’t go to that class and went out to play for a day. Don\’t think that I am harsh on my child. I mainly adopt a free-spirited attitude towards my child. I try to let her make her own decisions on things she can do, and try not to force her to do things she doesn\’t like. So far, I have only enrolled her in a dance class and an English class. I have not forced her to study hard and practice hard. I just let nature take its course and asked for her opinion before enrolling in the class. Later I discovered that completely letting things go is not respecting the children, but being irresponsible to them. For her age, she still doesn\’t know what she really likes, what she doesn\’t like, what she can and cannot do. When she said she didn\’t like learning dance or English, it was only in relative terms. If she had to choose between studying and having fun, she would definitely like playing. No matter what she likes now, it is only a few minutes of passion. If she is given a choice, there is nothing she can insist on doing. At this time, she needs her parents to help her persist. In addition to helping her persist in doing one thing, the more important point is to make her understand: no one in this world can only do what they like. If she doesn\’t like going to school, she still has to go to school; if she doesn\’t like studying, she still has to work hard to make herself like it; if she doesn\’t like to follow the rules, she still has to abide by the rules. If she has not understood these things since she was a child and has never really done them, then one day someone will make her understand that the blessings she enjoyed as a child will be returned when she grows up. Dong Qing\’s outstanding performance in the \”Chinese Poetry Conference\” and \”The Reader\” gave the audience a new understanding of her, and they were full of praise for her literary skills and accomplishments. Regarding these performances, Dong Qing said that he benefited from his father\’s education since childhood. Since she was a child, her father has adopted the strictest education for her, asking her to copy and recite ancient poems, exercise, work-study during holidays, and take on household chores at home. His father\’s harshness and ruthlessness once made Dong Qing feel that he was not his biological child. For a child, there are many things that she does not like and is unwilling to do, but under the pressure of her father, she persists in these things. Over the years, the things she has done, the books she has read, and the poems she has memorized have all been internalized into her temperament, greatly increasing her charm. She said yesHer father taught her what persistence is. Of course, I don’t admire Dong Qing’s father’s almost ruthless “tiger dad” education, but proper management and guidance of children is necessary. There are many things that children cannot persist in, and they need their parents’ help to persist. This kind of persistence does not mean forcing a child to do something he or she does not like. For example, knowing clearly that a child has no talent for painting, forcing her to draw a picture every day is high pressure and coercion. Correct persistence is based on respecting the child\’s choice, giving her confidence when she slacks off and giving up, and cultivating her perseverance. Let your children understand that no one in this world can only do what they like. If you can do what you like, of course you can, and you should try your best to do what you like. Where this possibility comes from is from self-discipline and persistence from childhood, and developing good habits. I saw the local news today. A top student in high school and elementary school was admitted to many well-known foreign universities. Judging from the photos, the little boy is sunny and healthy. When a reporter asked him if there was anything he liked besides studying, but his parents did not allow him to do it. He said that his favorite thing is playing basketball. He goes to play with his friends every weekend and represents the school in competitions. He also likes to watch American TV series and watches one episode every day. His parents knew all this but would not stop him. In his eyes, his parents did not restrict him because they reassured him that playing basketball and watching dramas had never affected his studies. On the contrary, in order to squeeze out time to play basketball and watch dramas, he always consciously improved his learning efficiency. He has a good balance between what he likes to do and what he should do. No matter adults or children, no one can only do what they like. Some are responsibilities and some are necessary for life. A person with a healthy personality should know what should be done and what he likes to do, and do it at the same time. A good balance between the two aspects. As a child, he does not have strong self-control and is not particularly clear about what he likes. At this time, he needs the help of his parents. Parents cannot just believe that their children should be happy, but help them develop good habits from an early age. Let your children understand that no one in this world can just do what they like.