Children of \”prosperous parents\” have three obvious characteristics, and every parent will be very lucky.

I saw a saying on the Internet: Don’t worry about not being able to raise children, because as soon as some children are born, they are a blessing to the parents and the family. Until now, I would have scoffed at this statement. After all, the birth of a child means investing more energy, time, and money, and taking on the responsibilities of being a parent. It is not as simple as talking about it, nor is it a random agitation with a \”superstitious color\”. But since I had a child and grew up with her, and after observing the life changes of many friends with children around me, I suddenly discovered that some children are indeed here to \”encourage their parents\”. For example, after having children, some people around me have developed on a positive track, whether in work or life. Goals that were previously unachievable can now be easily achieved. For another example, some friends have escaped a big trouble because of their children; while the relationship between some couples has changed from tepid before to becoming inseparable and mutually supportive… It is also because of having children. After that, many families experienced earth-shaking changes, and some parents often said: My children are really here to \”prosper\” us. In the eyes of many parents, this situation is somewhat \”fantasy\”. But if you think about it carefully, you will find that those families that have gotten better and better since having children are not lucky because of the birth of the children, but because the children of these \”prosperous parents\” have three children. There are obvious characteristics, and one of them is the luck of being a parent. Next, let’s learn about it together and see if this is the case in your own family? 01 The children of prosperous parents know how to think from others’ perspective and have delicate emotions. My friend Xiao Fei previously shared with me the story of her 13-year-old daughter Lele. Xiao Fei said that one time she complained to her husband when she got home because of something at work. As a result, her husband not only did not understand her, but also blamed her for some problems at work. As a result, the two people talked more and more, and in the end they not only quarreled, but also looked like they would divorce if they couldn\’t get along. It wasn\’t until her daughter Lele came home from school that Xiao Fei discovered that the quarrel had forgotten to cook dinner for her daughter, so she got up and told her daughter to cook in a low mood. Lele is in the first grade of junior high school, and she is usually very sensible and pleasant. As soon as she walked in, she noticed that something was wrong in the atmosphere at home. Then she saw that her parents were not dealing with each other, so she made a guess. So, Lele said: \”I did well in the mock test this time, and there are still some scholarships that have not been used up, so I decided to treat you to a barbecue today, and you two will be allowed to have a drink then.\” Xiaofei said that the children usually did not let them drink. Since they talked about this, they obviously wanted to give their parents a step forward, and the couple tacitly agreed. When they arrived at the dining place, Lele acted like a little adult and said in an eccentric way: \”Young couple, are you quarreling? Why? Tell me and I will put an end to the lawsuit between you two.\” As soon as the words came out, Xiao Fei and his wife both laughed. Then, with one word from you and one from me, they told the whole story from beginning to end. After Lele listened, she said to her parents: \”Actually, you are both right, but you have different positions.\” Then, he looked at his father and said, \”Actually,My mother was wronged at that time, and she just wanted you to comfort her. What she wanted was understanding and a hug, but what you gave her was accusations and complaints. Is that okay? \”Then he said to his mother: \”My dad is a straight man in science. Although he doesn\’t understand the style, what he said is reasonable and well-founded. In the future, if you be more discerning and listen to my dad\’s advice, you can avoid many detours.\” ? It has to be said that this persuasion, while playing fifty points each, also perfectly solved the emotional conflicts for Xiaofei and his wife. Xiaofei said that at that moment, her daughter Lele showed wisdom and handled the problem. In fact, in my opinion, the reason why children like Lele can handle the conflicts between their parents well is ultimately because she has two very good friends. Characteristics: First, being emotionally delicate and good at observing and discovering the emotions and needs of others, so that you can solve problems in a timely manner. Second, having a strong ability to put yourself in others’ shoes and think about problems from the perspective of others. Empathy, consideration for others, and giving attention and understanding to others make Lele a \”lubricant\” in the family and a \”high-quality judge\” in resolving conflicts between parents. This kind of children can not only quickly warm up the relationship between parents, but also balance the emotional needs within a family, and can see the busyness and fatigue of their parents. Because of this, they often provide their parents with what they can. Help and solve many problems and troubles that parents cannot take into account in daily life. As many emotional experts say: the root of any relationship or family relationship that makes each other feel relaxed and secure lies in \” I am seen.\” Children who know how to think from others\’ perspective and have delicate emotions have the ability to \”see\” their parents and relatives, and thus will become the \”right arm\” in their parents\’ lives. And in the child\’s consideration and understanding Parents who are caring and tolerant will definitely make the family run better and happier. In this way, they must be the type of \”prosperous parents\”. 02 Children of prosperous parents know the rules. , I saw this question online: How important is it to have a child who knows the rules and is aware of the rules? Here is a highly praised answer: It can reduce more than 80% of the troubles for a family and parents. Yes. I deeply believe this. There was a very typical case around me. Once, my friend Xiao Yang was driving back to his hometown with his 8-year-old son, and a thrilling scene happened because the car in front of him turned green for a while. , there was still no sign of starting, so Xiao Yang, who was following behind, honked the horn several times. As a result, this behavior caused dissatisfaction with the car in front. During the subsequent driving, the car in front braked and provoked several times. , which aroused Xiao Yang\’s dissatisfaction and became impatient. Just when the two sides were preparing to fight, Xiao Yang\’s 8-year-old son stood up at the right time and said to his father: \”Dad, the teacher said no.\” Dangerous driving, you must obey the traffic rules, that car is not doing the right thing, you can\’t be like him, the teacher said that if you encounter this situationYou can take photos and report the situation. Let’s take it slow, okay?\” After saying these words, Xiao Yang, who had just been ignited, suddenly regained his senses. While comforting the child, he reminded himself that he could not do dangerous things, and then lowered his temper. The car speeded up and followed slowly. Of course, the matter was not over yet. Xiao Yang later recalled that the child\’s reminder could be said to have saved their lives because the car in front followed another car. There was a dispute, and this time, both parties drove \”fighting cars\”, and a serious car accident occurred in the end. So it was precisely because of this incident that Xiao Yang often said to us: \”My son, that\’s really true.\” He is my little lucky star.\” In fact, the reason why Xiao Yang was able to escape unscathed in this incident was because he had a son who knew the rules and had a sense of rules. Many times, this kind of child will be ignored by many parents. The \”moment from above\” provides the most correct help to parents, allowing them to regain their senses and avoid some major losses. Therefore, a child who understands the rules and has a sense of rules is simply the greatest \”blessing\” for parents. Not only will they not bring distress and trouble to their parents, but more importantly, they can also turn the tide at some critical moments and help their parents avoid losses. So how can such a child not be a child of prosperous parents? , Why do children with strong thinking ability come to \”promote their parents\”? Before explaining this problem, let\’s first talk about what thinking ability is. Generally speaking, we accept a new concept. When thinking about experience and theory, the understanding of this matter often relies on contact and comparison with known experience or theory. For example, we see something made of four wooden sticks and a piece of wood. , we will immediately judge that it is a table. This is because our brains have formed such a thinking and cognitive model, and we may naturally associate it with a table. However, if there is something in front of us that we have never touched. It may not be possible to tell. In fact, this is how thinking ability is demonstrated. A child with strong thinking ability often has the characteristics of high cognition and strong thinking ability, and is often particularly good at solving some very difficult problems. They provide their own help for their parents. Just like a friend of mine, their family contracted a stall in a shopping mall restaurant and made fast food every day. Not long after they took over the contract, the couple found out. One problem is that sometimes too much food is fried, and there are too few people eating, resulting in a lot of waste. Sometimes, there are too few vegetables, but a lot of people come, and the couple of friends also suffer losses. I had no education and no education, so for a long time I had to rely on the weather and my income was very unstable. Later, during the summer vacation, my daughter, who was in junior high school, went to help the two of them, and she discovered this loophole. And based on mathematical knowledge and super thinking ability, he calculated the amount of meal traffic in each time period, thereby further determining how many meals to prepare today. Later, with the help of his daughter, he wasted time.The phenomenon of wasting money has disappeared, and the meals cooked every day are neither too much nor too little, which perfectly solves the problem that they have not been able to solve, and the business is getting better and better. In fact, this is the benefit of thinking ability. Generally speaking, children with strong thinking ability have a relatively large amount of knowledge, are good at discovering and thinking about problems, and can solve problems based on the knowledge in their brains. It can be said that many times, such children often give a lot of useful suggestions to their parents. If you have such a child in your family, congratulations, they must be here to \”promote their parents\”. In fact, prosperous parents seem to be a very \”superstitious\” topic, but when we analyze it objectively, we will find that the children of prosperous parents must have some extraordinary qualities. And these qualities are the fundamental reason why they allow parents and a family to develop better and better.