Children of these two age groups cannot be hit no matter how angry they are! It will really ruin the child.

Every parent wants to leave a gentle, approachable and approachable image in the minds of their children. However, all kinds of worries and pressures in life and work always make us upset and irritable. Especially for mothers, they have to cope with work and trivial housework, and sometimes they have to face the ugly faces of their family members. If at this time, the child is crying, fussing, and throwing things next to us, we will definitely feel a strong sense of grievance and frustration in our hearts. It\’s easy to yell at a child, but many people just take action. \”Good mother\” beats her child until he wets his pants. My friend Juanzi almost never spanks her children, but she couldn\’t help but do it yesterday… Juanzi\’s husband\’s workplace is very busy these days, and he often goes on business trips; her mother-in-law\’s hometown A friend passed away and she had to go back to see her; her parents went on a trip to the University for the Elderly. In short, Sister Juan and her 2-year-old daughter are the only ones left at home, and they have to do all the laundry, cooking, and sending the children to school all by themselves. Moreover, the copy that Juanzi had revised several times before was rejected by the client, and she had to stay up late to revise it… It was around 11 o\’clock in the evening, while Juanzi was immersed in revising the manuscript, she heard tinkling in the living room. She went over and saw that her daughter, who had already gone to bed, was tinkering in the living room in her pajamas. She placed toys all over the floor and took out all the wrenches and pliers in the tool box… Juanzi had been busy these days. I was so annoyed that when I saw the big stall in the living room, I immediately came up, grabbed my daughter, and slapped her three times on the back of the head. The daughter was frightened by her mother\’s sudden rage, and it took a while before she cried… Looking at her daughter\’s thin body, frightened expression, and tears on her face, Juanzi, who was furious just now, felt very uncomfortable. I didn\’t expect that I, who had always been called a \”good mother\”, would do such a rough thing. Later, when I put my daughter to bed, I discovered that my daughter had peed her pants! Only then did I remember that I had not struck lightly or harshly just now. I actually hit the child on the back of the head! The panic and the heavy hand suddenly made the child incontinent. When talking about this matter, Juanzi felt very regretful and guilty: \”Now that I think about it, I feel scared. If I do something serious and something goes wrong again, I really can\’t explain it to anyone…\” Within 2 years old and 6 years old Children under the age of 2 who are not spanked when they can do so have immature mental development and a vague understanding of dangers and rules. They sometimes make some very naughty and dangerous actions, but they often do not mean to be bad. Just a normal exploration of the surrounding environment. In this case, no matter how hard you hit, it will not serve as a warning, because children under 2 years old have no idea what is wrong. In addition, the bodies of children under the age of 2 are still very delicate and fragile. Physical punishment that may not seem severe to adults may cause trauma to the child\’s bones and organs. For example, Juanzi\’s behavior of slapping the child on the back of the head is very dangerous. That is where the brain stem is located, which is the nerve center that maintains heartbeat and breathing! Many children after the age of 6 have begun to enter elementary school. They can already understand many principles, and their self-esteem will be much stronger than before, and they pay great attention to their image in front of their classmates. Hitting and scolding children at this stage, especially in public, will seriously damage the child\’s self-esteem and cause certain consequences.The psychological shadow of children makes them rebellious and more difficult to discipline, which is commonly known as \”beating the skin\”. In fact, children of any age cannot be spanked easily, but the situation is more special before the age of 2 and after the age of 6. The vast majority of beatings and scoldings have no real educational effect. Parents who read this article, it is estimated that many of them were beaten and scolded by their parents and teachers when they were children. Think carefully about the scene at that time. What were we thinking about when we were beaten? Is it \”I was really wrong, what I did was wrong\”, or \”It hurts so much, when will the beating be finished, please stop the beating\”? The actual situation is probably the latter! The human brain is born with an \”escape mechanism\”. When it encounters danger, its nerves will be tense, without distracting thoughts, and it will only think about escaping from danger. When parents spank and scold their children, they often trigger the \”escape mechanism\” in their children\’s brains. The child\’s mind is filled with \”It hurts so much. When will the spanking be finished? Please stop spanking.\” He has no time to think about the reasons for doing the wrong thing. When children say, \”Mom, I know I was wrong,\” they are actually \”beating them into submission\” to cater to their parents\’ emotions and get rid of the beating as quickly as possible. Habitual beating and scolding will make children stupid and poor. A religious old man around me has warned me more than once: \”Young parents, don\’t get angry at your children casually. Anger is the fire of ignorant karma. Children are all spiritual. Yes, when you get angry and direct your own karma to your child, it will burn out the child\’s spirituality. Over time, the spirituality will be gone, the child will become stupid, and the blessings in this life will become shallow. What kind of child is the most disobedient and the least promising? The kind of child who is yelled at by his parents all day long!\” If you get angry at your child, when you get older, your child will give you back your child\’s growth. The most important thing is The only way is to \”imitate\”, imitate the behavior, language, habits of the parents, and even imitate the temper of the parents. Therefore, bad temper can also be inherited. Psychological counselor Lai Peixia said: Many times, we talk about love but look hideous. Whenever parents beat and scold their children, the most common thing they say is: \”I beat you for your own good and because I love you! If you weren\’t my child, I wouldn\’t bother to care about you!\” So, the child is When you are spanked and scolded again and again, you will form a wrong understanding: \”It turns out that spanking is also love!\” A few decades later, we will be old, our legs and feet will not be flexible, we will forget everything, and our lives will be sloppy. At this time, the children will \”love\” us in the same way they learned when they were young: \”Mom, why did you forget to flush the toilet again? You must be so confused!\” \”Mom, why do you mutter so many words? You are so confused when you go out. Why don\’t you just bask in the sun!\”… What do you think when your child is so cruel to you? You definitely wouldn\’t say: \”Hey, my son really loves me and knows how to be cruel to me.\” At that time, you must have felt very sad and sad… Therefore, beating and scolding is never love, and it only shows that our abilities are limited. , can\’t even control his own emotions well, and doesn\’t know how to educate his children other than beating and scolding. What kind of education method can avoid beating and scolding? Why do some parents always find their children difficult to control and disobedient? Because they always firmly believe: \”Everything is the child\’s problem, it is the child who is disobedient.It\’s the child who has learned bad things! \”Is this really the case? Some time ago, the most circulated picture in the circle of friends was the following picture: Why do some children love reading, while others only know how to play with mobile phones? Why are some children polite, while others are not? Full of swear words? This picture is the best explanation: parents are the originals, and the children are the copies! If there is a problem with the copy, you must find the reason from the original. We asked some child psychology experts to give a micro-review in the \”Must-Read Lectures for Parents\” During class, there are always parents who impatiently leave messages: “Just tell me some tips on educating children! Come with something practical, don’t be vain! \”But in fact, if the parents\’ ideas cannot be changed, and if you still think that the child\’s problems are caused by the child himself, then no matter how many or good educational methods are used, it will be useless. Because the fundamental reason why parents lose their temper is that they think that they themselves Yes, the child is at fault, and the child’s behavior is unworthy of him! The best and most fundamental education is never to ask the child to behave like this, but to be a good role model yourself first!