Children over 1 year old never call mommy, the truth behind it is…

In a week\’s time it will be my colleague\’s child Shuoshuo\’s first birthday. Everyone was discussing what gifts to buy for their children, but they found that Shuoshuo\’s mother (Xiaoya) was not very excited, and even complained a little, muttering \”This child was raised in vain\”, and she seemed to be a bitch. . It turns out that what annoys Xiaoya is not a big deal in the eyes of those who come here – Shuoshuo has never called Xiaoya mother, but calls her father every day. Of course, there is a reason why the baby will call daddy first, because people who have experienced it can understand it, because this kind of embarrassment has happened to me before. You\’s father and I are both only children, and Xiaoyou is our only daughter. At first, we were reluctant to leave our child to the old man, thinking that the two of us could take care of Xiaoyu. However, the reality was hard. When Xiaoyou was three months old, we all had to work, so we had to ask our parents for help. The old man had long wanted to \”share the burden\” with us (actually he missed his granddaughter), so my mother-in-law moved in. When he was more than 5 months old, Xiaoyou started to learn to speak, and mumbled \”ba ba\” in his mouth. At that time, You\’s father really made You\’s dad beautiful, and he hugged and kissed Xiaoyou. Once, when your father ate a grapefruit, the baby shook his little arms excitedly and asked his father for it. Dad You squinted his eyes: \”Call Dad.\” She said two words \”Dad\” clearly and unmistakably, and Dad You said \”ah~\” happily. To be honest, it really made me, a mother, a little jealous. You\’s dad peeled off a few pieces of grapefruit flesh and put them in Xiao You\’s mouth. The sour baby turned his head and fell into my arms with a tremor. She keeps saying \”baba\” in her mouth… They say that the daughter is her father\’s little lover, which is true; but the daughter also says that she is her mother\’s little cotton-padded jacket, so why can\’t she say \”mama\”? When Xiaoyou was 1 year old, she learned a new word, but it was not \”mom\” but \”grandma\”… At that moment, I felt a little sad, and my eyes were a little sore, because I thought of waking up at night to feed the baby, and coaxing her to sleep. Compared to my colleague’s baby who can call her daddy but not mommy, my little girl calls her daddy and grandma but can’t call her mommy. Isn’t it worse? Later, I thought about it, this kind of jealousy is too stupid. When Youyou calls daddy, Youyou\’s dad becomes more enthusiastic about taking care of the baby, which is what he wants. In addition, babies love to talk, no matter what sounds they make, they are worthy of encouragement. Furthermore, the baby needs to be patient as he grows up. He will shout \”mama\” soon, so why rush or \”care about\” this moment? What\’s more… It\’s not that the baby doesn\’t want to call mommy. First of all, we need to know that the baby first learns to speak out of a kind of excitement. It is often when the baby is very happy and wants to express his happy mood that he will make a \”嘤嘤\” sound, and These sounds are the easiest to pronounce. In fact, this reflects the process of language learning. The baby starts to pronounce vowels first, then consonants, and then syllables. What are vowels? Vowels are sounds produced by the airflow through the mouth without obstruction during the pronunciation process (a e i o u), and consonants are sounds produced by the airflow being blocked (b p m d t). Most babies\’ pronunciation is just a single vowel sound, or a consonant + a single vowel sound. For example, a, e, u, ma, ba, ya, yi, etc. So, \”baThe pronunciations of \”ba\” and \”mama\” are both a consonant and a single vowel. Theoretically, whether a baby calls daddy or mommy is random and is due to the baby\’s unconscious cry. If you have to distinguish the difference, it is the word \”baba\” In pronunciation, the air flow is from the inside to the outside, which is easier to pronounce; while in the pronunciation of \”mama\”, the air flow is from the outside to the inside, which is a bit difficult. Every narcissistic father feels that his child is closer to him, but in fact it is the child\’s unconscious The random names among them have little to do with fathers. Why is the baby called grandma and not mom? The reason is simpler. It’s just because office workers have less company, interaction and communication with their children. At this time, they are the main caregivers. The human grandmother communicates more with the baby, and the grandmother\’s voice is easier to imitate, so the baby will call \”grandma\”. During the sensitive period, let the baby speak. Although the baby before one year old can only say \”eh\”, \”ah\” and \”ah\” every day \”Is the same sound, and cannot yet have normal language communication with adults, but this is also the baby talking, and the baby is learning secretly. From the time the baby is born to one year old, it is the pre-language period, which is the sensitive period for the baby\’s language development. Therefore, Parents must understand the following time points, nurture and develop their baby\’s ability to learn language, and lay a solid foundation for the future. [0-5 months] Attention cultivation: 0 to 5 months is a sensitive period for babies to experience the world. For a period of time, the baby can only see nearby objects, and the baby\’s focus is not fixed. At this time, adults can guide the child by extending and retracting the tongue to exercise the child\’s visual language and concentration, and can also shake the black and white from left to right at a constant speed. Cards to guide the child\’s attention; moderately delay meeting the child\’s needs, allowing the child to see the food and make \”en\” and \”a\” sounds for help. [6-9 months] Pointing to objects and making sounds: According to research, babies can use The earlier your index finger points to an object, the sooner you can express your needs and speak. Generally, babies can express their needs with gestures between 6 and 9 months old. They can touch or point to an object with their fingers. Attract the attention of adults and hope that adults will meet their needs. For example, mothers can first use their fingers to demonstrate the baby\’s photos and wall charts, pointing while talking, and then hold the baby\’s hand to point. Repeat this training many times, The baby will learn it. [10 months to 1 year old] Improve the quality of pronunciation: Some babies can pronounce simple single words or double words around 1 year old, and some double words are mostly repeated words. Read more and listen to the correct words Word stories, etc., are a way for babies to learn and the basis for learning in a broad sense. Therefore, the current knowledge reserve is of great benefit to children. One day, children will show it inadvertently. At this time, adults, parents, need to do The most important thing is to give the baby some language stimulation. The mother should insist on talking to the baby every day, using beautiful and rhythmic language, such as singing children\’s songs, reading poetry, etc.; in addition, the baby prefers to listen to onomatopoeia and repeated words. For example: \”Little Birds chirp, chickens coo, ducks quack…\” The baby will be very happy after hearing it, and will naturally imitate it in the future.