Children who are tired of learning refuse to communicate. Parents should try the opposite approach. Saying something different will work wonders.

All parents love their children, and their starting point is to wish them well and hope that their children will live happily in the future. But deviations often occur in the process of expressing love. When a child rejects himself again and again, refuses to study, keeps playing with his mobile phone, does not go to school, does not take exams, and constantly touches the bottom line of his parents, he may still be able to hold back and work hard at the beginning to maintain his patience and try to communicate with the child. , but often if you can\’t hold it for a few minutes, you will fall short. And when you are led by emotions, being anxious, angry, angry, all these will become your own pressure, and together with many problems of your children, they will attack you, get to your head, and eventually turn into a family war. This process then repeats itself over and over again at home. Parents\’ emotions are ups and downs every day. At the same time, they comfort themselves not to be angry, but at the same time they really can\’t hold back and are too broken. In Adlerian psychology, there is a saying called \”Do more or Do something different\”. \”Do more\” means to keep doing the things you do well. \”Do something different\” means that if you don\’t do something well, do it in a different way and do something different. Faced with the problems of children who are tired of learning, parents must be very anxious. Since the previous methods and methods have not worked, it is time to do something different. You need to think about the specific method yourself. I believe that no matter what the current situation is, you can find new methods to try, but it must be the opposite of the previous routine. Let me give you an example. This is only suitable for some children, not all. Each child\’s situation is different, and parents must learn to make their own judgments. For example: I used to say that you should play less mobile phones and less games, but it didn’t work and your children would still annoy you. Then you can try this now: when you get home from get off work, instead of looking sad (the expression you speak is very important, the expression is more important than the content of the words), you should look forward to it, as if you are about to get rich, and say to your child: You must Play seriously and play more, there is too little time to play now. I just heard from a colleague today that the anchor of your game can already earn tens of thousands a day. You can also live stream and play games, and you can still make money. Your dad and I are about to retire, and we don’t want to take this crappy job. Don\’t go to school. Now start playing games to support us. Your dad and I will travel around the world. We believe that you can definitely make a lot of money with your hard work and diligence in playing games. Let\’s start from today. Live broadcast for 12 hours every day for 3 days. I will give you leave and you won\’t have to go to the next exam. No matter how your child responds or whether he responds, you have to pretend to be innocent and full of expectations for him. Don\’t be angry or impatient. The you now must be different and in contrast to the you before. Then just do whatever you want and don\’t worry about him. (Parents need to learn acting and practice their acting skills diligently) The point is to convey this message to him. Once he receives it, he will have some time to think about it. Analysis: Note that the tone must be calm, never sarcastic or contemptuous. If so, then thisWords are useless and will irritate the child. When communicating between parents and children, even if you are angry, angry or losing your temper, do not speak to your children in a sarcastic tone. Ridicule is the most hurtful and will leave a sting in the child\’s heart forever. Why do you say this to your children, and what is the rationale behind it? It is true that you can make money by playing games, and many children mistakenly believe that they can also make money easily. Dreams are very simple, but you will know how difficult it is when you do it. This is actually more difficult than studying to get the first place in the exam. What he sees now are all superficial. How many anchors can really make money? 99% of people insist on it silently for a while and then give up when they find it doesn’t work and no one is watching. Children of this generation have relatively good material conditions since childhood. In addition, the Internet always exaggerates dreams of getting rich, which will make children mistakenly think that making money is an easy thing. They can easily make money by live streaming and playing games, and they will also have this dream. But adults all know that the ability to make money requires more learning, persistence, execution, and the face of many setbacks and failures. Making money is much harder than studying. It\’s useless if you keep telling him these truths. He won\’t understand them now, and he will only understand them if he hits a wall. This kind of counter-routine does not really mean that the child should go out to make money. If he has this talent, that is better. Ability has always been more important than academic qualifications. If not, he can learn something from this matter: making money is not a simple and easy thing. Money does not come just by opening your mouth. Why do many adults regret not studying well in the first place? It was because of the hardships of making money and working that I finally realized that studying hard means having better academic qualifications, better opportunities, more choices, and a more valuable circle. Suffer early and wake up early. Just be afraid, be incompetent, have no education, be lazy, and wake up too late, wasting the best time. It is not a bad thing at all for a child to be tired of studying and lie flat for a while. The important thing is to see the child\’s suffering and tiredness, and never give up on him. Don\’t think that his life is useless. As long as you can help him get through this difficulty together, Blessings lie behind.