Children who love reading will not have a bad temper

Many friends ask me why I work so hard to promote parent-child reading. I said, I remember that in a book I read, there was a very beautiful scene. It was a small village in Northern Europe, and it was freezing all year round. But the protagonist braves the severe cold to return home from the school where he works every week. Because that home holds her best memories. When I was a child, by the warm stove, my mother would read loudly to the three sisters after finishing the housework every day. Then the three sisters took turns reading. Every time I read this, I feel very warm. Because the feeling brought by reading is interconnected. Even I, outside the story, can feel it. Another reason is my own experience. When I was a child, there were not many books to read in that remote mountain village. But every time I think about it, there are always some memories related to books. At that time, I was like a thief, looking for books in the cabinets of every relative\’s house. Even the old man dug out the books at the bottom of the box. I often find a straw pile on the way to herd geese, and I can stare at it for a long time. As a result, the goose came back to me when it was full and wanted to go back. And I remember once, I took a borrowed copy of \”Xue Dingshan\’s Conquest to the West\” to the Children\’s Day event auditorium. As a result, the book was lost due to negligence. Later, I saved a lot of pocket money for a long time before I compensated my classmates. When I was in middle school, there were bookstalls outside the school where I could rent out books and magazines. Students who live off campus have passes and can enter and exit campus every day. They just do business and bring books for 50 cents a time. Now that I think about it, I can be considered his VIP customer. Because I have to send him a few dollars every week. When a person has a good feeling in his heart about reading. Then you will definitely fall in love with books. Because this isn\’t just a pile of paper, it\’s a talking friend. And that\’s what I want for my children. If the smell of books in childhood represents a kind of happiness, then today\’s children are happy. Because now there is the idea of ​​parent-child reading together, and more parents are beginning to accept it. When we were young, there were very few parents who could really read with their children. At that time, parents thought that studying was a matter of school, and as long as they went to school and completed their homework, they would be lucky. But real reading often begins with extracurricular reading. Because extracurricular reading will not set test goals for children, nor will they focus on key points and write down central ideas. You can read freely and get a new experience or have a different kind of fun from the story. What benefits does reading bring to children? For children before the age of 7, due to the constraints of literacy, they cannot complete reading a book independently. Of course, children can still read the picture books that their parents have talked about on their own based on their memory. But at this stage, parents still focus on telling stories. Susan Perot, the story king from Australia, said that every child has a rich imagination, and they are still at a stage where the boundaries between fantasy and reality are not clear. It is often not easy for adults to regulate their behavior and teach them knowledge, but if these rules and knowledge can be integrated into stories, children will easily accept them. Therefore, mothers who insist on telling stories to their children will feel that children who love reading will not have a bad temper. Because they have alreadyThe solution to the problem is obtained in the story. When children accidentally touch themselves, they will not hit or lose their temper. Instead, he would politely remind his partner to be more careful next time. What should you do when you are angry and feel uncomfortable? Why do I feel like my heart is burning (this is what Xiao Xiaoyu said to me before). Picture book stories can help children understand emotions. For example, \”Angry Arthur\” is about a child who was beaten by his mother because he wanted to watch TV. As a result, his temper became even greater. Not only did he destroy his home and hurt his relatives, but in the end he even destroyed the earth. When little Arthur was floating alone in space. I have forgotten why I am so angry. When I read this book with my son. We both agreed not to be angry Arthur. Later, if he gets angry for some unreasonable reason, let him express it, but he can\’t smash things like Arthur. So his temper will be much better. Many of us adults also have an \”angry Arthur\” inside us, which comes out during arguments. Why don\’t you need to read these books carefully and then reflect on your own behavior? When children fall in love with reading and listening to their parents tell stories. Then they will learn from books that they need to keep quiet in public places and what preparations they need to make before traveling? There are also many qualities of courage, kindness, and friendship conveyed by the little masters, which will be deeply imprinted in the hearts of children. Once these beautiful qualities take root in your heart, those dark things will stay away. When a mother is ready to cultivate her child\’s reading habit, she will be concerned about how to take the crucial first step? Take my experience with Xiao Xiaoyu as an example. Before he was 1 year old, he didn\’t have many books, only five or six, because he didn\’t like to read those books at all, but preferred to play with those tinkling things. He only occasionally interacts with me, looking at the pictures I point to, and then looking at me and talking. For example, six months ago, he would often look at paintings and color cards on the wall. Starting from July or August, I read him cloth books, object recognition cards, and some interesting special-shaped books, such as some in the shape of cars or animals. The purpose for children at this stage to come into contact with books is to have fun. I always thought that throughout his infancy, he didn’t read anything, and he just stared at it for a while, which didn’t last long. But I later discovered that the accumulation at that time was very important. Because when he looks at the cards and books he read at that time when he is over 1 year old, he will feel familiar with them, as if he has met a very familiar good friend. It is very important for the cultivation of his interest in reading and the cultivation of confidence in the future. When he is 1 year old, read \”The Little Mouse Who Wants to Eat an Apple\” to him. At this time, I discovered a wonderful change. He started to show obvious interest, and would actively ask me to read to him, and liked me to imitate the plot of the book for him. When I got older, I became interested in books like \”My Dad\”, \”My Mom\”, \”Little Black Fish\”, and \”Little Nature Library\”. At this time, the door to the reading world has opened. The accumulation of all these fragments guides a little kid to slowly fall in love with reading. And when he was four or five years old, he started to like the DK Encyclopedia series.Of course, also influenced by me, I like books on ancient poetry. And idiom stories are also his great love. I often talk about it between tea and dinner. Looking back now, the progress of reading is like an upward spiral process. The child\’s attention span ranges from a few minutes to more than ten minutes, then to half an hour, or even close to an hour. My interest gradually expanded from cars to animals, and then to popular science. The books also range from dazzling and fun toy books, to simple picture book stories, to long literary stories. Come step by step and reach new levels one after another. How to read with your children? It has become a topic of concern to many parents. Of course, parents play a very important role in reading together. Because parents are accompanying readers and leading readers. First of all please take it easy. Treat reading as a very ordinary thing, just like eating and sleeping, and don\’t make it too stressful. A mother asked me how long should I spend reading with my children? What kind of reading posture should you use to read with your child? In fact, there are no standard answers to these. But children will give you the answer. Are their little eyes paying attention? Are you interested? A book is placed in front of a child, is he interested? When a kid who loves animals sees a ferocious beast on the cover, he can\’t wait to open it. And when a child learns the characteristics of the earth and the moon from a book, and then proudly tells them the answer in front of his peers. He will feel that the knowledge books bring to him is great. Because from the perspective of personality development, every child has a desire to pursue excellence. Parents can build a bridge so that their children can gain this sense of excellence from reading. The second is the word persistence. Without enough patience, many parents will give up right from the start. Because when children first come into contact with reading, they sometimes become impatient or cannot persist for a few minutes. This is when parents need to be patient. Children who don\’t like to read are often because they haven\’t found the right books. For example, many mothers find Chinese enlightenment classics or poorly adapted fairy tales for their children. It looks nice, but actually it\’s not interesting to read. Another reason is not finding the right time. Sometimes your child wants to play, but you pull him and tell him to study first. At this time, the child\’s mind is full of playing, and he will definitely not be able to read. Never force your children to read at any time. In addition, parents’ anxiety is brought into reading. While reading, I kept asking my children, what did they learn? What\’s going on here? What are the benefits of reading this book? I just think too much about this purpose and forget the original intention of reading. The original intention of reading is actually to give children another way of life. It can bring children happiness and inner fulfillment.